So Upset

So my mom and sister and family friend are flying in early for the wedding..they're coming tomorrow. I thought the plan was that they are coming early to help me with final preparations and hang out together... I was really looking forward to hanging with my sister (moh) since we see each other 2x a year if that...
well I just got off the phone with my mom and my sister was int he background and saying that next week she pretty much just wants to go to the pool everyday to work on her tan...so basically I'll be running around getting my pedicure and nails done and picking up my dress and whatever by myself now... that really hurts and I am just so mad and upset...she hasn't done anything as a MOH except go with me when I was looking for a gown and now all she cares about is getting tan (she's a lifeguard mind you, so she is already really dark). Now I really regret spending so much on her gifts...she doesn't deserve it at all... not even the title MOH.

I just feel like they aren't coming to see me at all, but just to come travel and hang out in Europe.

I'm so sorry.

She might just be saying that, but once she gets there she'll go into full MOH mode and help you out.

I'm sorry sweetie... Sometimes people can be so selfish! Does she know that you were excited about being able to spend time with her and having her around to help tie up loose ends with the wedding? She should definitely be there for you, maybe not with every little detail since she is probably looking at this trip as a semi-vaca, but definitely at your side for a good amount of stuff. If you haven't already, you should voice your disappointment to your sis. JMO

I'm so sorry I think people forget that they should support the bride since it's a very emotional and busy time. Hopefully when they arrive they both hang with you and help with last minute preparations.

I am so sorry sweetie!! Hopefully once she arrives and realizes that you have the weight of the world on you shoulders that she will step up! Don't be afraid to ask her to help either, maybe she just doesn't realize that you really do need her help and support!

i'm sorry to hear that. cant u have a talk with your sis & tell her that it would mean a lot to have her their with you rather than sizzling in the sun?

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Posted by Bridelikewhoa07

i'm sorry to hear that. cant u have a talk with your sis & tell her that it would mean a lot to have her their with you rather than sizzling in the sun?

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yup i agree. when she gets there, i would let her know---that you NEED her help and that she can work on her tan any day of the week--but you get married ONCE. sometimes you have to just put it out there....not just hope the other person gets it.

i would also enlist the help of your mother--and let her know that it would be very helpful if your sister doesn't help out.

Thanks for the s ... I've cooled down since then, but I was just so upset I think because I ALWAYS have to do stuff myself since I don't really have any close friends here. And also since I have had absolutely no help with anything wedding related from anyway except what little FH does...and every time I mention it my mom is like 'I don't know what movies you've been watching, but when I got married I did everything myself and no one came with me anywhere, they were all only there at my wedding..' like and I just get so pissed. Obviously my wedding isn't as important to anyone else as it is to me and FH, but it would be nice for them to show a little excitment and anticipation. And since they are all staying in our tiny apartment until the wedding I don't feel like confronting anyone because we are all the same and get defensive and snippy and then end up at each others throats and thats the last thing I need...so I guess I'll just have to suck it up.

It sure does help to vent on here though..thanks for 'listening'