So upset I'm shaking.... UPDATE

So we talked things out, know what we have to work on, and boys can sometimes get scared of the big M word which is understandable and say thigns they dont exactly mean

anyways, thanks to all you gurls for all your concern... i really do appreciate it!


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So one of FH's friends yesterday made a comment to me 'You dont like anythingggggg that Vinny does...' (They were playing guitar hero which i find kinda stupid and i said that so thats when this kid said that) My jaw dropped when he said it andits not something you would expect to hear outta his mouth... Ok fine... Fast foward to today...

I brought it up to Vin and hes like... 'yeah it really made me think... you put me down all the time about the **** i like to do'... and now hes liek... 'well, this is why sometimes i feel like i dont even wanna get married .... we have more bad times than good... ' I am like floored right now... im crying, shaking, everything...

I just feel like... its really nice to know that he feels this way and it takes someone stupid *** comment to bring that out

awwww mazz.. i'm sorry... sometimes guys really take a good hard look at what their friends have to say... but i'm sure he loves you... did you say anything to him after he said that about not wanting to get married sometimes??

i'm really sorry about that...

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

So one of FH's friends yesterday made a comment to me 'You dont like anythingggggg that Vinny does...' (They were playing guitar hero which i find kinda stupid and i said that so thats when this kid said that) My jaw dropped when he said it andits not something you would expect to hear outta his mouth... Ok fine... Fast foward to today...

I brought it up to Vin and hes like... 'yeah it really made me think... you put me down all the time about the **** i like to do'... and now hes liek... 'well, this is why sometimes i feel like i dont even wanna get married .... we have more bad times than good... ' I am like floored right now... im crying, shaking, everything...

I just feel like... its really nice to know that he feels this way and it takes someone stupid *** comment to bring that out

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wow Gina im sorry!! sometimes people say things that they dont really mean because they arent thinking, maybe he didnt really mean it...i think you should talk to him about him ,him saying something like ' i dont even want to get married' is a serious thing to say and you need to talk to him about it

everyone that i've told this to including bitchin out that friend who started this whole thing has said that they dont think he means it ... that hes just scared ....

you know whats crazy.... you read about these stories on here, but you never think they could ever happen to you... thats my lesson for today to you gurls... dont take anything for granted and communcate w/ one another!!!!

He may have just reacted without actually thinking even though he said he thought about it. Guys take what their friends have to say to heart. I wouldn't sweat it. From everything else that you said in previous posts it sounds like you and your FH have a great relationship - I am sure he didn't mean it and everything will work out fine but here is a from me to help make you feel better!

You poor thing... It may be a little bit of a stressful time. Try to give him a little room and it will work out. Think about what you have in common and try to build on it a little bit more or develop a similar interest! Don't worry it will all work out!

I'm so happy you were able to talk things out, have patience with each other. Keep going strong, we're hear if you need to talk always.

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

So we talked things out, know what we have to work on, and boys can sometimes get scared of the big M word which is understandable and say thigns they dont exactly mean

anyways, thanks to all you gurls for all your concern... i really do appreciate it!


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So one of FH's friends yesterday made a comment to me 'You dont like anythingggggg that Vinny does...' (They were playing guitar hero which i find kinda stupid and i said that so thats when this kid said that) My jaw dropped when he said it andits not something you would expect to hear outta his mouth... Ok fine... Fast foward to today...

I brought it up to Vin and hes like... 'yeah it really made me think... you put me down all the time about the **** i like to do'... and now hes liek... 'well, this is why sometimes i feel like i dont even wanna get married .... we have more bad times than good... ' I am like floored right now... im crying, shaking, everything...

I just feel like... its really nice to know that he feels this way and it takes someone stupid *** comment to bring that out

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I missed this whole thing, But I am so happy that you guys made up! I sure that all of us have had, or will have, blow ups like these before the day arrives. Me and My FH have been through it twice. Arguements like those are are scary. They open up a box of s*it that both of you have been carrying around for a while and makes you question whether or not marrying this person is the right thing to do. In the end you make up and it causes you to reflect on how much you really love the person, and that with all the flaws, you couldn't live your life with out them.

I am so glad that you guys talked things out and are planning on working on your relationship.

In the end that is the foundation that great marriages are built on

Awww
Im so sorry!!
sometimes under stress people jump and say things that they really dont mean, and then they let it go.. but let it go too long and then its just a huge cannon ball..

Im glad it all blew over. Im so so sorry you had to deal with that on a friday.

I hope the rest of u w.e is okay<3

aww i'm sorry that happened. i'm so glad you guys were able to talk things over!

so sorry mazz, like you said keep communicating! im sure fh is just scared, nervous and stressed. its a huge step and we're so young. all of our friends thought we were nuts at first, which could have started fights, but didnt. now our freinds are excited, which helps, b/c the guys can really put words/thoughts into fh's head.
keep your head up and everything will work out!

I just read the entire post. Sorry you had to go through that. I am glad you and FH talked it through and things are better now. Relationships are hard and I alway find myself thinking some of the things FH does are stupid too.

In your defense though, I agree...Guitar Hero is kind of stupid