so upset...long ventt...

ok my 'best friend' got married two years ago, and it was a nice wedding, i never say any wedding is bad, but she kept it REAL cost efficient, DIY CP, no wedding cake, no videographer, etc etc

and never did i even ask her whyy she doesnt have a wedding cake, or why she wont do this or that, i supported her, and was really excited... yes to be honest in my mind it was a real simple wedding -but who cares? as long as shes happy and thats what she wants...

well shes been married for two years now, and over time i guess she has no time for friends or whatever the case is... but we still speak i call her , she calls me, and everytime she asks me about my wedding she PUTS me down !!! somehow...

For example: SHES the one who asked me how much i was planning on paying for my photo/video stuff and i said our budget is up to 4-5 k and shes like 'oh well ive never heard of that, my sis in law paid 1500$ only' and im like Um okayy... thats cuz her sis got like 1 album only, and her pics were NOT that great, no offense ...

and than she asks me how much my catering halls is per person 'and lets say for numbers sake i told her its coming out to 100$ per person
she was like really??? this girl thats getting married there is only paying 75$ per person and i was like MAYBE she is... [ i mean is she implying that im ******* lying?? ] and i was like it could be, but shes getting married in a low season and im summer holiday weekend wedding... and i dunno she was silent than...

but she just like puts me down...i do not sit their and tell her omg i spent XX amount of money on this or that, because everything im doing is to make my wedding memorable and to make me and FH happy and our guests enjoy...she's REALLY aggravating me with her stupid remarks after everything...

could she just be a little jealous or feel bad about how her wedding compared? maybe bc she kept it conservative, anything above seems outrageous to her. its not your thing to worry about. youre having the kind of day that works for you

You want your day to be something that you and everyone will remember for a very long time to come. If you talk to her again and she brings up your wedding plans, just tell everything is going very well. Don't let her get to you. It's not worth all of the stress....

It's none of her bussiness how much that you spent on your wedding!!!!!

Try ur best to ignore her, she is so jealous that is why she is acting this way.

I have a sister who is ALWAYS doing that! I told her (after being asked of course!) that I paid 1300 for flowers and she's like 'what? $1300? I told you that you could get them for less...' and I said 'yeah, if I didn't get bm boks then i could have gotten them for less...' That shut her up. I told her I was paying 3K for a photographer and she said 'What? 3K? That's crazy. I hope he's not ripping you off...you should have used so and so...'

Whatever...

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Posted by Aug07OFCbride

could she just be a little jealous or feel bad about how her wedding compared? maybe bc she kept it conservative, anything above seems outrageous to her. its not your thing to worry about. youre having the kind of day that works for you

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I echo this completely - well said

She's got a bad case of the jealousies. I'm sorry she's not being supportive! No doubt it really hurts to feel that a close friend is happy for you. Man, at least she can ACT like it and hide her jealousy!

Keep it real with her! Tell her EXACTLY what yout told us!!!! This way maybe she'll see what she's doing, be hojnest with her, tell her you don't appreciate these comments she's making and that you never criticized HER when she was getting married!!!!
XOXOXO
Kitty

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Posted by Aug07OFCbride

could she just be a little jealous or feel bad about how her wedding compared? maybe bc she kept it conservative, anything above seems outrageous to her. its not your thing to worry about. youre having the kind of day that works for you

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I totally agree. Some people just can't be happy for others. Don't let it get you down

I agree ...it def sounds like she is jealous. Some people just can't help themselves...
Just enjoy and dont ler her ruin your plans! Good luck!!

jealousy's a b!tch

it is really tacky that she's asking you these things.

Even though she's your best friend; you really don't want your friends knowing your financial business when it comes to your wedding.
Her wedding was 2 yrs. ago, she's out of the loop, and its really none of her business.

If she should ask you how much you're paying for things, just tell her you'd rather not discuss it.

If you need to talk about such matters....vent to us! We're all going through (or have recently gone through) this....so we're probably a better gague on reality of how much things should cost. We're also anonymous!!!!
Save your BF for other matters.....but not the cost of your wedding. Its cheesy of her to ask, and not necessary for you to tell her.

She definitely could be jealous. As long as you are happy, I wouldn't really take it to heart. In the end, this is yours and your FH's day and you make it what you want. If you wanted to spend a million dollars on the wedding and it wasn't hurting anyone else, its no ones business.

I too have learned the hard way that really no one is going to agree 100% with everything you do for your wedding and that has to be okay with you - cause if not - you'll drive yourself nuts trying to please everyone.

I'm sorry she isnt supportive....but we are here for you!!!

I am sure she is just jealous and this is her way of feeling better about her self. Maybe you should try to not tell her details of your wedding. Change the topic when she asks or say Oh I'm not sure just yet.

You can also tell her how she is making you feel. Remember it is you day and no one should bring you down about what you chose to do or not do!

thankkk you guys all make me feel sOO much better, thats why i love thiss sitee and all u girls

can I call her & tell her what I am spending on wedding stuff ??? hahaha...some people, for example my Dad, just never have ANYTHING positive to say...no matter what...so just chalk it up to a personality flaw and try to not let it bother you...share your wedding stuff with those who appreciate it and support you when you talk about it!

Sorry to hear you're going through this. My best advice is to tell her how you feel. My mom does the same thing 'that seems expensive' or 'I'm sure you can get it cheaper', blah blah blah. Well guess what, she's not paying I am. and so are you. She might not realize how she sounds, she might just trying to be helpful thinking she can help you save $. HTH