SOFA KING ANGRY

I'm just having a really pizzy day dealing with wedding stuff.

The RSVPs are late. I'm still waiting for around 75 people!


I got 3 today. One was a couple whose wedding we JUST hauled our azzes to just weeks before our wedding. No note, no check, just the RSVP, late.

One of them had this weird note 'We're so sorry we can't make it. We wish you a wonderful life together like your parents'

Umm..my dad walked out on my mom after 30+ years and FH's dad was cheating on his mom until he died of cancer last year at age 60, so exactly which parents would they like us to be like?!?!?!?


Practically NONE of FH's family is coming to this wedding....


ANNNNND I've been trying to book my rehearsal for AGES, but since the priest travels a lot, he's been putting us off putting off, due to his schedule. Well of course the time we wanted Friday evening before the wedding is taken at 7pm. They said they can do 5:30pm, or Saturday at 6:15. Well I was SO angry since I booked my wedding 18 mos in advance. I asked to have our rehearsal at 8:30, after the 7pm and the priest wouldn't do it, saying if the 7pm rehearsal doesn't start on time, they might not be done. Well isn't it the same story if we're before them?/??

Then I get another call from the church, the priest says Saturday is no good, Friday at 5:30 is all they have, so my family has to not only take off Monday, but take off or leave work early on Friday and drive in rish hour traffic to this rehearsal...

I put in a LOT of hours volunteering with my church, I'm not someone off the street. You would think they would be more flexible, but apparently not.


And now I'm apparently fighting with FH. I am really upset about his family's alck of support, but he refuses to get worked up about it, saying we have enough to stress over, but I'm SO uspet and he just says he doesn't want to talk about it and snaps at me. i hung up on him.

UGh./. I just wish he could understand my feelings.

Well we understand u! And we are here for you! Sorry you are having such a rough time :( I wish there was something I could do!! For now I will send hugs

I do understand U chica.....

PLEASE try to relax and DONT FIGHT WITH UR FH bc of His family...

I am on the same boat as U.. His family are showing No support at all... they are giving us a lotta hassle n we havent even send invites!!!!!

U also have to think of this... (Which is the same thing i thought)
THIS is a LOT for HIm!
It is hurting him that his family 'will/cant' be there for HIM on YOUR wedding!!!!
Dont put more 'stress' into the whole situation by arguin with him bc he 'is doing nothing' to fight with his family...

THIS IS YUOR DAY!
I realize that
IF HIS FAMILY DOESNT COME, the Wedding will continue because YOU ARE GETTING MARRIED TO HIM!!!!!!!!
It will HURT u a lot that his family is not there but trust me It hurts him tons more!...

This is ur day chca...
I KNOW IT SUCKS...
I had a huge argment too bc of the 'bridal shower' they are ALL sayng they cant come... or will try but dont give any rsvp sncet they are not sure and the invites are NOT even out!!
then for the wedding they are already making demands!! 'If X person comes, i wotn come'
WTH this is OUR wedding not theirs!!!

So just relax chica...

THIS IS YOUR DAY AND HIS DAY!

I sorry girl!! and maybe a little to help with the stress.

Thank you!


I just feel so sad and I feel so alone about this issue because FH just shuts down as I mentioned and won't comfort me about, won't get upset, just won't deal. My mom keeps saying 'are you sure you want to marry into this crazy family if they treat you so bad? They are going to treat your kids horribly too'

I just feel so sad and alone right now. We're spending SO much money and we made a point of doing a hall that could hold over 200, and doing a Sunday so his family would feel more comfortable than a Saturday night (they're jewish) and now I'm just getting screwed and I'm going to be 20 under my minimum and I just want to SCREAM.

At the end of the day...Its about the two of you! F*** everyone else. You are going to eventually start a family of your own! Just remember guys are not like us girls. When they stress they shut down and don't really talk about it. So don't think he isn't bothered and doesn't care. Its just that fact that men and women are different.

I am sure you can fill some seats with LIW A$$ES!

CHEER UP!

I'm so sorry this is all happening but try not to let it get you down. I understand fh family sucks but there is nothing you can do some people just suck, try not to let it get between you and him. hope everything gets better

Your FH is right. You can't get worked up over things and idiots that you can't control

Sorry you are dealing with this, though

Same story over here....all my extended family is coming from everywhere (NY, Wisconsin, Cali, Mass) and none of FH's extended family is coming

It sucks

Im sorry you have to deal with all this

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Posted by Tippy

At the end of the day...Its about the two of you! F*** everyone else. You are going to eventually start a family of your own! Just remember guys are not like us girls. When they stress they shut down and don't really talk about it. So don't think he isn't bothered and doesn't care. Its just that fact that men and women are different.

I am sure you can fill some seats with LIW A$$ES!

CHEER UP!

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Aww we're here for you, girl. Just think, in 1 month, you'll be a happily married woman and all this stress will be a thing of the past. Try not to get too upset about what's going on with FH's family. He is just dealing with stress in his own way, and that's by not getting too worked up about it. I totally know where you're coming from. I want FH to be angry with me all the time, but we can't change them, we have to appreciate them for being the calm ones. Imagine you two were both going bananas?? It wouldn't be pretty!!!!

Try to relax. Get a mani/pedi or something!!!!

And to ADD to my stress, I had posted on facebook 'Wedding lesson #1: People Suck'


Very non-specific and in the middle of the night my sister posted 'I told mom you should have put a stop payment on that check to Philadelphia F@#K TheM!'


uMM....I am friends with them on facebook! WHAT was she thinking!?!?!?

I saw it on my phone and I had to FLY out of bed to the computer to delete it

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Posted by Tippy

At the end of the day...Its about the two of you! F*** everyone else.

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THIS!!!! Honestly the last month before the wedding is the hardest. You guys will get through this and you will be so happy when you leave for your honeymoon that everything worked out and is now in the past. KEEP SMILING!!

WOW

can I just say, I literally read this title as 'sofa' 'king' and was thinking, what is a sofa king?

derrrrrr.....