So we met with the priest tonight, we aren't getting married until September of 2004 but we wanted to go and do the paper work, etc. I was telling FI about that test we have to take at the pre-cana(I forgot the name of it) and he's a little nrevous, to say the least, of what types of questions are on the test. I reassured him they were like compatibilty questions, but the truth is I'm not even sure myself. So once again, I turn to you gals, what types of questions are on this test??????
Kelly9904
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its the FOCUS test. I havent taken it yet but our priest told us they werent tough questions but rather just something for converstation starters. My MOH told me they will ask things about finance and how you think it should be handled, how you wnat to handle the holidays, what you would do if you had a fight about such and such, things like that so that you know what areas you may need to talk about and where you could communicate better. My FH was alittle nervous about that too but the priest kept saying, theres no right or wrong answers and this test isnt meant to determine if you should get married, thats for you to decide. THis is just a tool to help your getting married smoother
jillnbrad
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Thanks a lot
LisaT
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there's NOTHING to be nervous about at all! Our priest actually had us take the questions home and do it together (but answer separately).
They just want to make sure you've talked about any issues.
mishandgerard
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don't worry about it. it is basically how much you know about each other and sees what topics you have discussed. Including things like your opinions if they match.
The funny part is when we took the test I thought we never talked about any of this stuff, but I was mistaken. When we took the test we knew what each other would have said and agreed with most of it. We were told we scored higher then anyone else.
We also live together for the past 5 years before we got married.
I would not worry one bit.
KandB52904
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What test are you talking about and what church/religion is it for? Please let me know! Thanks and also can anyone tell me where i can find all the abbrevations everyone is using..lol..i am new! most i have figured out but curious about this one (FI)? I bet it's really simple but dont mind me i am a little slow tonight its late..lol. thanks!
nj42305
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This is the first time I'm hearing of a FOCUS test....where the heck have I been??? It does sound interesting though, great opportunity to learn more about each other.
lisau18
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My Husband and I took the FOCCUS exam last year in Nov. It is something new that the church is doing. We had to first schedule an appointment to take it, when we got there they separated the guys and the girls into two different rooms. The test is 157 questions. There are several different catagories. All to be anwsered based on what you feel your fiance thinks or how you feel about certain things. It is really weird. Alot of sexual questions, and some really confusing. It is all psychological really. A few weeks after the test you meet with a couple or possibly the priest it all depends, who will go over your anwsers with you to determine were you scored the same and were you didn't, and then they will discuss the areas were you didn't and encourage the both of you to discuss your thought.
It is nothing to really get nervous about. I will try and remember some of the ?'s if anyone is interested
butterfly20
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our priest said not to worry about the foccus test, that there were only 2 couples they wouldnt marry, one the guy was abusive to the girl, and the other i think the guy was on drugs.
OCT1203
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We didn't do a Focus test and we went through pre-cana last feb/ march. They never even mentioned it.
regina2
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We took the FOCUS test and it was actually kind of funny. There are some weird questions as well as some insightful ones.
When we went to take the test, we just went in with out discussing what we might say for certain question. I think if you go in and answer the questions honestly, you will find that you agree on many of the same issues. Just remember you are not being graded!
Surprisingly we did pretty well - meaning we seemed to agree about the same issues. The one area we didnt score as well was the area of religion. This test is just a way for you to start discussing some issues you had prehaps not discussed before.
