Someone tell me this is all a bad dream......

My sister and I have a very rocky relationship...we have tried to mend it since the beginning of her shaky pregnancy with twins (which are now due in about four weeks if not sooner). I have been there for her, cooked meals for her for the week for her and her husband, given her care packages to pass the days on bed rest, done everything possible to cheer her up, etc. She now tells me, for oh I don't know the 18th time in my life, that I am a horrible person, selfish, all she ever wanted was a sister, etc....Now to me? This is the most hurtful thing I can stand. Her words sting and they always have. We have gone years without talking at times, so now what? The babies coming who I am soo in love with already, my wedding (in which she is the MOH)...

How do I just ignore this once again? Any other women out there that have turmoil in their sibling relationships? When I tell you it's bad, it's bad. I have a big heart but no more patience for this. It's verbally abusive and it has been so ALL my life.....when this happens, it sets me back days even weeks!!

Please girls, I need your advice. Anything is appreciated....

She's pregnant, hormonal, and having a rough pregnancy, now might be the one time you SHOULD ignore it. I know it's hard, but try to get through the birth and the wedding and I would have a serious talk with her after all of that. Or at least just until after the babies are born happy and healthy. JMO

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Posted by cherryj24

She's pregnant, hormonal, and having a rough pregnancy, now might be the one time you SHOULD ignore it. I know it's hard, but try to get through the birth and the wedding and I would have a serious talk with her after all of that. Or at least just until after the babies are born happy and healthy. JMO

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I agree, you don't want to isolate yourself before you see those beautiful babies. And we all know what crazy things hormones can do. I know it is not the best situation and I don't feel that anyone should put up with it, but wait it out and hopefully she will get over herself when she realizes she will need you more then ever before.

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Posted by mcb916

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Posted by cherryj24

She's pregnant, hormonal, and having a rough pregnancy, now might be the one time you SHOULD ignore it. I know it's hard, but try to get through the birth and the wedding and I would have a serious talk with her after all of that. Or at least just until after the babies are born happy and healthy. JMO

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I agree, you don't want to isolate yourself before you see those beautiful babies. And we all know what crazy things hormones can do. I know it is not the best situation and I don't feel that anyone should put up with it, but wait it out and hopefully she will get over herself when she realizes she will need you more then ever before.

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I completely agree. I am pregnant with ONE and VERY hormonal and I feel so not like myself sometimes. I get very agitated over NOTHING. I would wait until the babies are born and the wedding is over and then have a heart to heart with her.

Being a person with a pregnant sister who is exactly like this, I really understand how you feel. I, too, love my nephew to be and hate that my sister is so evil. I think you eventually need to have a sitdown with her and lay it ALL out. I think you are doing a wonderful job being a sister. But prepare yourself, she may never come around.

Good Luck!

I don't have a sister, but you sound like a great one!! I agree with the other girls, I know a close friend of mine is REALLY hormonal lately with her pregnancy and has been super grumpy so that's what it might be.

you mention that she has said this to you before so i don't think it's just hormonal, however since she is pregnant i would ignore it for now, once the babies are born i would sit down with her and talk to her about why she says this to you and how it makes you feel, i wish you good luck and hope things can work out for the two you

i too have a sister who i often find myself on a rocky road with. and i know how much it can hurt. but i agree with the other girls... you do need to have a heart to heart with her... but try to wait until after the births and wedding if you can