someone who isnt comng to my wedding

BethGail Posted: Jan 12, 2005 07:03 PM

someone who isnt comng to my wedding

one of my friends since FIRST grade isnt coming, he responded and just said no...no explanation...i dont know i think that is weird! or no note even just to say sorry

jpavig Posted: Jan 12, 2005 07:18 PM

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Why don't you give him a call? I don't think he'd be upset if you called to ask him why.

JenNeen Posted: Jan 12, 2005 08:54 PM

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I agree...give him a call. Guys aren't as sensitive to this stuff as we are. He probably didn't realize that he should put an explanation.

BethGail Posted: Jan 12, 2005 09:20 PM

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you are right! he probably didnt realize he should put an explanation.

well i talked to my best friend (a BM) and now i know he doesnt suddenly hate me or anything.....wfew i feel better

She said that he has a 'gun test' that day (he is in the police academy) and that he asked if he could miss it...and his supervisor said, yeah--but then you wont have a gun! so now i totally understand. It IS during the day (but out in suffolk i think....cause i think he is going to be a suffolk county cop) so i am going to call him and tell him i dont care what time he gets there (even if it is really late) i wnat him to know he is still welcome.

ALso when i am in NY the week before i will tell him we will go for dinner or drinks or whatever

WOW! i feel much better now

marc_rai Posted: Jan 13, 2005 01:05 PM

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Great! I'm glad you're okay with it,

But I'm confused: So when people say no they are supposed to explain why?

jesslangen Posted: Jan 13, 2005 01:08 PM

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They don't have to explain why. I just think she was taken back by this particular guest responding no. It's prob. a person who she expected to come, therefore for her own piece of mind wanted an explanation.

SomethingBlu Posted: Jan 13, 2005 01:13 PM

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Good thing you cleared that up! And I agree, guys are totally not sensitive to these things, he probably felt bad, but was responsible enough to RSVP no. He sunds like a grea guy - wish him luck on his test! And yes, tell him to get his butt over there, even if it's late!

Bunnymonkey Posted: Jan 13, 2005 01:36 PM

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i responded no to a wedding recently and sent a follow up email to her (not a good friend at all) explaining why - I just felt like it was neccesary to do...