sooo mad right now

at FH's 'best' childhood friend....

his best childhood friend, who's father is Fh's godfather, just told us the reason he's not coming to our wedding.....He's going on a frickin CRUISE instead!!! no $ to come, yeah right!! He originally told us he couldn't come b/c he didn't have money since he bought an apt. He's from Puerto Rico so it's not like he's going on a cruise to get away from Cold weather!

grrr i'm soooo mad and hurt! Fh is staying strong but i know this stings him. I'm NOT going out of my way to go to his wedding whenever he gets married, that's all i can saw. This is a kid that is in almost all of Fh's childhood photos and everything. what a shame!

*ETA: Thanks for your support girlies! I'm pretty much over this...just feel bad for FH. He'll be ok though!

omg! im so sorry to hear that.
it really amazes me how 'close people' act when its your special day

OMG Sandy...
I am so sorry!
I cant beleive people do that *(and trust me I KNOW ppl like that!)*
OMG I am so sorry chcia...

just say strong!

Wow that is horrible. People suck

ugh i'm so sorry this is happening to you so close to your wedding. They say you see people's true colors at this time, and now you know how he really is. I feel so bad for you FH

People suck.

Period. and weddings bring out the worst in people

thats awful!

wow, was he a groomsman?

I could never in a million years imagine missing my best friends wedding!

Was the trip booked before the wedding date was set (and he knew)?

FH should sit and talk w him alone, not w you, and see whats really up. sometimes guys express feelings differently.

i know its so close to your date but at least it might clear the air and make your Fh feel better.

I'm so sorry! Some people really do not have their priorities straight

That is horrible of him. But you will enjoy your day more without him. I hope your FH is ok.

My FH's very very good friend doesn't think he can make it now either along with my 2 best friends. But i have to understand as they all live in Ireland and have kids. The economy is not good right now there at all and they are not working.

I'm so sorry your going through this. Your wedding is in long island right? And he lives in Puerto rico?

I might just say in his defense bc I had a similar situation happen with me...that if he has to travel far to get to NY and and pay for air; hotel; rental car it might be really expensive especially if he isn't traveling alone.

My friend had a destination wedding last year that would have cost FH& I almost $3k to go. If I went alone just $1,500 for just 3 nights which was a lot bc we were dealing with the new house expenses etc. I told her I couldn't afford to go and I wasn't lying. She asked if i could use my tax return to pay for the trip but that money needed to go for other things.

To make a LONG story short two months before her wedding I found a CHEAP deal on a royal carribean cruise (under $500 for 7 nights) we booked immediately cause we were stressed and desperately needed to get away. Unfortunately the cruise was the SAME week as her DW. I hadn't planned it that way! we couldn't afford to spend $3k for the dw but we scrambled $1k for the cruise.
Of course this pretty much ruined our friendship when she found out I was going away the same week and she didn't care or understand the decision I had made but you just don't know peoples situation financially. In my case I guess if I couldn't afford to spend the money to go to her DW I shouldn't go anywhere at all that whole year!

I know ur upset but just try and see if you can find out why he can't come and not hold it against him for maybe making a decision for his own family.

Good luck!

OMG thats terrible!!!!! Especially to lie about it!!! Im sorry you guys are going thru that

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Posted by Notwedyet08

I'm so sorry your going through this. Your wedding is in long island right? And he lives in Puerto rico?

I might just say in his defense bc I had a similar situation happen with me...that if he has to travel far to get to NY and and pay for air; hotel; rental car it might be really expensive especially if he isn't traveling alone.

My friend had a destination wedding last year that would have cost FH& I almost $3k to go. If I went alone just $1,500 for just 3 nights which was a lot bc we were dealing with the new house expenses etc. I told her I couldn't afford to go and I wasn't lying. She asked if i could use my tax return to pay for the trip but that money needed to go for other things.

To make a LONG story short two months before her wedding I found a CHEAP deal on a royal carribean cruise (under $500 for 7 nights) we booked immediately cause we were stressed and desperately needed to get away. Unfortunately the cruise was the SAME week as her DW. I hadn't planned it that way! we couldn't afford to spend $3k for the dw but we scrambled $1k for the cruise.
Of course this pretty much ruined our friendship when she found out I was going away the same week and she didn't care or understand the decision I had made but you just don't know peoples situation financially. In my case I guess if I couldn't afford to spend the money to go to her DW I shouldn't go anywhere at all that whole year!

I know ur upset but just try and see if you can find out why he can't come and not hold it against him for maybe making a decision for his own family.

Good luck!

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Thank you. I appreciate this but it still hurts me that he hurt FH, even if it wasn't intentional. I think people have $ for what they want to do. And it would be one thing if it were a friend...but not a BEST friend who's parents are FH's GODPARENTS. I dont know....JMO I just feel bad for FH.

That's messed up. I'm sorry to hear that. Again, when it comes to weddings, you find out who your real friends are.

My aunt, uncle, their son (who live in Lindenhurst), and my cousin that was visiting from California that I never get a chance to see decided to go out on the boat instead of come to my engagement party. I know how you feel.

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Posted by Notwedyet08

I'm so sorry your going through this. Your wedding is in long island right? And he lives in Puerto rico?

I might just say in his defense bc I had a similar situation happen with me...that if he has to travel far to get to NY and and pay for air; hotel; rental car it might be really expensive especially if he isn't traveling alone.

My friend had a destination wedding last year that would have cost FH& I almost $3k to go. If I went alone just $1,500 for just 3 nights which was a lot bc we were dealing with the new house expenses etc. I told her I couldn't afford to go and I wasn't lying. She asked if i could use my tax return to pay for the trip but that money needed to go for other things.

To make a LONG story short two months before her wedding I found a CHEAP deal on a royal carribean cruise (under $500 for 7 nights) we booked immediately cause we were stressed and desperately needed to get away. Unfortunately the cruise was the SAME week as her DW. I hadn't planned it that way! we couldn't afford to spend $3k for the dw but we scrambled $1k for the cruise.
Of course this pretty much ruined our friendship when she found out I was going away the same week and she didn't care or understand the decision I had made but you just don't know peoples situation financially. In my case I guess if I couldn't afford to spend the money to go to her DW I shouldn't go anywhere at all that whole year!

I know ur upset but just try and see if you can find out why he can't come and not hold it against him for maybe making a decision for his own family.

Good luck!

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Thank you. I appreciate this but it still hurts me that he hurt FH, even if it wasn't intentional. I think people have $ for what they want to do. And it would be one thing if it were a friend...but not a BEST friend who's parents are FH's GODPARENTS. I dont know....JMO I just feel bad for FH.

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I agree. If someone wants to do something bad enough, they will find the money to do it.

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Posted by lilgem250

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Posted by sandybeaches115

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Posted by Notwedyet08

I'm so sorry your going through this. Your wedding is in long island right? And he lives in Puerto rico?

I might just say in his defense bc I had a similar situation happen with me...that if he has to travel far to get to NY and and pay for air; hotel; rental car it might be really expensive especially if he isn't traveling alone.

My friend had a destination wedding last year that would have cost FH& I almost $3k to go. If I went alone just $1,500 for just 3 nights which was a lot bc we were dealing with the new house expenses etc. I told her I couldn't afford to go and I wasn't lying. She asked if i could use my tax return to pay for the trip but that money needed to go for other things.

To make a LONG story short two months before her wedding I found a CHEAP deal on a royal carribean cruise (under $500 for 7 nights) we booked immediately cause we were stressed and desperately needed to get away. Unfortunately the cruise was the SAME week as her DW. I hadn't planned it that way! we couldn't afford to spend $3k for the dw but we scrambled $1k for the cruise.
Of course this pretty much ruined our friendship when she found out I was going away the same week and she didn't care or understand the decision I had made but you just don't know peoples situation financially. In my case I guess if I couldn't afford to spend the money to go to her DW I shouldn't go anywhere at all that whole year!

I know ur upset but just try and see if you can find out why he can't come and not hold it against him for maybe making a decision for his own family.

Good luck!

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Thank you. I appreciate this but it still hurts me that he hurt FH, even if it wasn't intentional. I think people have $ for what they want to do. And it would be one thing if it were a friend...but not a BEST friend who's parents are FH's GODPARENTS. I dont know....JMO I just feel bad for FH.

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I agree. If someone wants to do something bad enough, they will find the money to do it.

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trust me i'm a bride myself; and of course i want everyone close to me to come to my wedding too; but not everyone can and you don't know how he's feeling. Ok i know i felt extremely guilty and i wasn't going around boasting (sp) that i wasn't going but was going on a cruise. Didn't even plan the cruise until the last minute so maybe the situtation with him is worse.

Our wedding are OUR weddings and not everyone will be 100% as excited as we are for them.

Again-so sorry you & your FH are going through this :(