sooooooo

i just had a fight with FH re: this wedding and finances for this wedding. I threw my ring on the floor and attempted to leave the house but he wouldn't let me...then i ran downstairs and said 'OH **** I HOPE THE DOG DIDN'T EAT MY RING!' All i fine now I suppose. I just am finding it hard to believe that FH will manage to pull off paying all that is remaining to pay for in the little over 7 mos we have left.

the stress is really getting to me right now.

oh girl, I so get that!

everytime I am made to suffer I make FH come down and suffer with me!

SOrry to hear. I think we are all stressed! I always say try and remember why we are doing this and it will all be worth it!

thanks hun! I'm just super stressed and I finally let it all out because he walks around spending money like he has money to spare yet jericho terrace payment was due last month and he still hasn't sent it.

I haven't had a hair cut in a year!!! I never get my nails done, I never buy new clothes...my money is completely invested in this mortgage and the bills, I have no $$ to spare for myself. so it makes me mad that he still spends his money on ahem *stuff* and he's not keeping up his end of the bargain paying for the wedding on time. he assures me its all gonna be fine and we'll book the rest of the vendors when he gets his tax refund, blah, blah, blah...but coming up with 30k in 7 months just seems unrealistic to me. He was unrealistic with me about the how much money he could contribute oer oaycheck the first time we sat and figured out a budget so why should i trust him to get it done now?

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Posted by Soon2beAlberti

thanks hun! I'm just super stressed and I finally let it all out because he walks around spending money like he has money to spare yet jericho terrace payment was due last month and he still hasn't sent it.

I haven't had a hair cut in a year!!! I never get my nails done, I never buy new clothes...my money is completely invested in this mortgage and the bills, I have no $$ to spare for myself. so it makes me mad that he still spends his money on ahem *stuff* and he's not keeping up his end of the bargain paying for the wedding on time. he assures me its all gonna be fine and we'll book the rest of the vendors when he gets his tax refund, blah, blah, blah...but coming up with 30k in 7 months just seems unrealistic to me. He was unrealistic with me about the how much money he could contribute oer oaycheck the first time we sat and figured out a budget so why should i trust him to get it done now?

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My FH is the same way. I'm the only one who has put away money for the wedding. He just seems to drive himself deeper into credit card debt.

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Posted by Soon2beAlberti

thanks hun! I'm just super stressed and I finally let it all out because he walks around spending money like he has money to spare yet jericho terrace payment was due last month and he still hasn't sent it.

I haven't had a hair cut in a year!!! I never get my nails done, I never buy new clothes...my money is completely invested in this mortgage and the bills, I have no $$ to spare for myself. so it makes me mad that he still spends his money on ahem *stuff* and he's not keeping up his end of the bargain paying for the wedding on time. he assures me its all gonna be fine and we'll book the rest of the vendors when he gets his tax refund, blah, blah, blah...but coming up with 30k in 7 months just seems unrealistic to me. He was unrealistic with me about the how much money he could contribute oer oaycheck the first time we sat and figured out a budget so why should i trust him to get it done now?

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I totally understand!! And I felt the same way, that's why last week I went and had my forever french done, I made a haircut appt. WHy should I suffer & sacrifice all these little things that I need or just want. I truly believe that somehow someway it will all work out. People go thru this all the time and in the end things have a way of working themselves out!! I wouldnt go blow every dollar I make but I am not going to torture myself either!! This is supposed to be one of the best times of our lives and we should be enjoying it!! I hope it all works out for you and is a little less stressful!!

some how some way it will work itself out he will eventually realize that he can not spend money so freely once you relax talk to him and see how both of you can come up with a solution

I understand how you feel all this pressure is making us fight with our fh's

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Posted by Soon2beAlberti

i just had a fight with FH re: this wedding and finances for this wedding. I threw my ring on the floor and attempted to leave the house but he wouldn't let me...then i ran downstairs and said 'OH **** I HOPE THE DOG DIDN'T EAT MY RING!' All i fine now I suppose. I just am finding it hard to believe that FH will manage to pull off paying all that is remaining to pay for in the little over 7 mos we have left.

the stress is really getting to me right now.

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Im glad you let it out!!!!!!!!!! You needed to!!!

I keep finding receipts from ebay vendors on FHs bedroom floor for 60 here and 80 there and I want to toss him right out the window. And we do neglect ourselves, which winds up having hazardous effects, as you are already feeling.

I know you can talk to FH till hes blue and hell tell you the same thing. But u know that you can take his word and say ok, but you know your asss is on the line when the 30k doesnt appear, so yu cant just sit there.

Are you doing any premarital? It works wonders for FH and i...

Just keep lettting it out. If he contines kick him in the @$$ till hes sore. Now is no time for shinanegans

We have a few things left to pay for still (rings, HM, attendant gifts, the church and balances for our photog, video, florist and limo) and here I am trying to tell FH we can have our bachelor and bachlorette parties in Vegas! Mind you we're in contract for a house! What is wrong with me? I have 2 free tickets on jetblue and FH can get at least one free room, so what's the issue?

wow....thank God someone else is going through this.....

I am getting a mani/pedi tomorrow so I am at the screw it stage....its like a rollercoaster... sometimes I am good and believe everything is going to be okay....sometimes I get stressed and start a fight...

I am getting married the day after you so I know that the Fiance's are like don't worry, we have all this time...and we (girls) are freaking out

and we don't even have a mortgage...can't imagine....never neglect yourself though...you will be bitter up until the day comes and have more moments like that one...hang in there