As I write this, I'm crying, because I don't know what to do. I don't know if I should cancel the big wedding thing, and just have something small. Money is very tight. My dad isn't working and in two months we have to start paying the vendors. I'm thinking of getting married, and just hold a small party or something. It's so hard. FH just wants me to choose to do whatever I want. He wants me to happy and have no regrets. Just venting. Sorry gals.
dm24angel
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I have been there and have twice almost cancelled the 'big' wedding...our Budget is very very low..and so we picked Winter, we are making our own CP's and invites and things like that that people will not remember in the end and can save us a lot of money...we have to focus on paying the hall and vendors...we stuck to no lights and extras with our DJ , and instead found a quality DJ that didnt need those things to get the crowd going...we only need bok's as we are doing candle CP's ...my CP's are about $250 versus some that can run into the thousands and yet I love them just as much...Our invites are less money but beautiful....I bought a cheaper Gown then I would have because HEY , Im only wearing it for maybe 10 hours and then it will be in a BOX for the next 50 years or so..
My point is that you can do it...Prioritize....we cut back on EVERYTHING ...we got smaller limos etc...and when we sat down and crunched numbers we ended up about $5000 less then we thought.
In the end you will scrimp and save to make it happen..
The only reason I seem to be pushing for this is that your tone in your post seemed to be depressed about not having this wedding the way your dreaming of it, and it can happen if you want it to.
prncssrachel
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I'm so sorry to hear this I think that you need to do whatever is in your heart. Good luck. Sorry I'm not much help. On the plus side, you won your flowers! I know it's not much, but every little bit helps
angelbear217
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I think every bride feels the same way at some point in this 'process'. You have to do whatever makes you happy. I'm glad to read that your FH is so supportive. A friend of mine went through the same issues and ended up scrapping her plans. She got married in Key West and had a small reception when she got back. It can be done, but you have to do what feels right for you. Hang in there, everything will work out.
Princess047
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Don't cry, I don't think you should call off the big wedding. Obviously you want the big wedding or you would not be so upset; and you should have what you want...it's your day. Just pay things off slowly. Was your dad suppose to pay for this? Try saving more than usual. Don't spend on unnecessary things. Everything will work out.
cranesgirl25
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vent all you want girl, im so sorry you feel like that, are you working at the moment?? or maybe you can make a later date? i understand a little bit how you feel because once you book the reception location, its full force from there, good luck and God bless.
nan&dave
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Thank you girls, and God bless you all too. I'm saving in so many ways [(friend is dj, cousin owns limo company ( my ride is free, have to pay for other rides though), uncle is paying for honeymoon and mc, WON THE FLOWERS, lol)}. It's just so overwhelming. I feel as if I were going to go insane. I feel so bad for FH cause he has to deal with all of this. I thank God that I have him.
February05
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Posted by nan&dave
Thank you girls, and God bless you all too. I'm saving in so many ways [(friend is dj, cousin owns limo company ( my ride is free, have to pay for other rides though), uncle is paying for honeymoon and mc, WON THE FLOWERS, lol)}. It's just so overwhelming. I feel as if I were going to go insane. I feel so bad for FH cause he has to deal with all of this. I thank God that I have him.
you won the flowers! that's a sign that the big wedding is meant to be. like DM said... just prioritize. you will find a way to make it happen, and it will be your fairy tale wedding b/c you're marrying the love of your life!!
Aga
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ohhh dont cry listen, take it from me if you can pull it off do it because you might regret not doing it in the future... hell we have been married for 4 years and we are finally doing the 'big' wedding thing because I dont want to sit down one day and regret not having the wedding, the pictures, the dress etc. it will work out, you will see
