spin off to my original question about BM drama.....

i think thats somethingfsil shoudl be discussing with her family.

u shouldnt be put in an awkward spot. once they come toa conclusion..then u can make sure it wont be awkward.

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Posted by grkbarbie

i think thats somethingfsil shoudl be discussing with her family.

u shouldnt be put in an awkward spot. once they come toa conclusion..then u can make sure it wont be awkward.

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well she asked FH last night. i dont think she mentioned it 2 anyone else in the family yet. ...and im not even sure if she asked hubby yet if he'd even WANT TO go.....

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Posted by grkbarbie

i think thats somethingfsil shoudl be discussing with her family.

u shouldnt be put in an awkward spot. once they come toa conclusion..then u can make sure it wont be awkward.

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I agree with Barb. I would let FSIL and FHs family make the decision.

dont stress it.

let your inlaws and fsil discuss it. if shes happy..then why shouldnt he come?? just speak to your photog ahead of time to make sure he isnt in every photo

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Posted by little j

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Posted by grkbarbie

i think thats somethingfsil shoudl be discussing with her family.

u shouldnt be put in an awkward spot. once they come toa conclusion..then u can make sure it wont be awkward.

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well she asked FH last night. i dont think she mentioned it 2 anyone else in the family yet. ...and im not even sure if she asked hubby yet if he'd even WANT TO go.....

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ITA w/Barb.
and I think ur FH needs to tell her its her decision and she should talk it over w/her husband before involving anyone else and then talk to her family if he does want to come

I had assumed that she was your FSIL when I read the first question, because otherwise, why would most of her family be there, know what i mean? (Unless, I guess, if it's a cousin.)

Either way, they're both adults and it's hard to invite someone with a guest but tell them who their guest can or cannot be.

I'm sure no one will go out of their way to make a scene on your big day. I do agree to have him in a few photos, but not a ton. This way, if things work out, cool. If not, cool.

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Posted by kris_gets_hitched

I had assumed that she was your FSIL when I read the first question, because otherwise, why would most of her family be there, know what i mean? (Unless, I guess, if it's a cousin.)

Either way, they're both adults and it's hard to invite someone with a guest but tell them who their guest can or cannot be.

I'm sure no one will go out of their way to make a scene on your big day. I do agree to have him in a few photos, but not a ton. This way, if things work out, cool. If not, cool.

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agreed, i originally assumed you were talking about fsil, so my advice stays the same.