One of my bridesmaids calls me up last night to tell me that she cannot come to the wedding because she is going overseas to visit her boyfriend's family.
She said she was leaving in March and already booked the tickets.
My wedding is in June.
She knows the exact date of the wedding cause I sent out STDs to my bridal party. My MOH is planning the shower in March and she said she is not sure when she will be coming back.
My other BM's told me that it seemed that she did not want to be a bridesmaid to begin with but did not want to hurt my feelings!!!
I'm just really upset cause we used to be such close friends and why did she wait six (6) months to tell me? I guess its better that she told me now instead of actually being in the wedding.
Do I still send her an invite?
grkbarbie
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send her an invite. still be friendly with her and just brush it off.
do NOT go running to her when her bf dumps her azzzzz and she needs a shoulder to cry on
little j
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im confused. is she going there to live???
MrsC2010
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i agree with barb. still invite her but just don't go out of your way to do anything for her. She shouldve been up front with you if she didn't wanna be in the wedding.
Future Mrs H
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She is going for months????? I think your other BM's are right- that she didnt want to be in your BP to begin with. I would still send her an invitation. I would be curious how she would handle the invite.
halfbaked
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That's really... strange.
I'd still send her an invite.
bigsal
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Thanks... i thought her reasons were a little far-fetched too.
BriansWifey
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Posted by grkbarbie
send her an invite. still be friendly with her and just brush it off.
do NOT go running to her when her bf dumps her azzzzz and she needs a shoulder to cry on
ITA!!!!!!
JayBee216
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I wouldn't send her an invite - *** - the whole situation reeks of someone being totally selfish and inconsiderate.
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brittndave
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that's interesting i'd send her an invite and just to spite her don't send an rsvp but attach a little note that says 'i know you're not coming but thought you might like a copy of the invite anyway.'
must be a big family if she needs months to visit
did she maybe mean that she couldn't make the shower since that's in march????
bigsal
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Posted by brittndave
that's interesting i'd send her an invite and just to spite her don't send an rsvp but attach a little note that says 'i know you're not coming but thought you might like a copy of the invite anyway.'
must be a big family if she needs months to visit
did she maybe mean that she couldn't make the shower since that's in march????
Thats what I initally thought as well, but she said she was not attending the wedding and not buying her dress either. I know, I guess its a super huge family.
JAAMS
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send her an invite, but don't go out of your way for her ever again
