spinoff to 'invite with a guest'

DnT2010 Posted: Apr 27, 2009 04:01 PM

spinoff to 'invite with a guest'

what is the appropriate age to invite someone with a guest?

i have several cousins who are in my BP but theyre young. 16, 18, 20. should they be invited with a guest? should they only be invited w a guest if they are in a relationship?

should my friends be invited w a guest if they dont have a significant other?? im not sure how to go about this!!! any ideas/advice?

FallBride2010 Posted: Apr 27, 2009 04:03 PM

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I think anyone over 18 should be invited with a guest. But that's just my opinion and most people wont agree. The way I see it...you could be 40 and single...but that doesnt mean you dont want a companion at social functions.

AdriandSteve Posted: Apr 27, 2009 04:05 PM

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good question. I have a cousin who is.. umm.. i guess will be 22 by that time and he's had a long term gf who i've never met (haven't seen him thuogh in years either lol) and didn't think about inviting him +guest lol. hmm...

stinenandy2010 Posted: Apr 27, 2009 04:07 PM

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well i think its sort of a judgement call...i would start at the age of 20 or so...but I would only invite this family member with a guest if they have been dating a long time, otherwise if it was some new relationship then no.

JenBill61210 Posted: Apr 27, 2009 04:08 PM

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Posted by FallBride2010

I think anyone over 18 should be invited with a guest. But that's just my opinion and most people wont agree. The way I see it...you could be 40 and single...but that doesnt mean you dont want a companion at social functions.

i agree with this.

FallBride2010 Posted: Apr 27, 2009 04:08 PM

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Posted by stinenandy2010

well i think its sort of a judgement call...i would start at the age of 20 or so...but I would only invite this family member with a guest if they have been dating a long time, otherwise if it was some new relationship then no.

I take back my original answer. 20 sounds more appropriate than 18. I would only give the 18 yr olds a date if they are in a relationship

Rosalind_75 Posted: Apr 27, 2009 04:09 PM

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one of my bm will be almost 17 when we get married.

i am letting her bring a guest.
she is my neice.

i guess its a personal choice.

MarjorieFrank Posted: Apr 27, 2009 04:13 PM

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I think maybe 18 or 20 and over. 18 or younger, you never get invited to places with a guest so you wouldn't even expect to be.

Nina1010 Posted: Apr 27, 2009 04:20 PM

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I think it truly is up to you. There is no right or wrong. I personally think everyone in a relationship or over 16 should be invited with a guest (I remember how it was to be 16 and in a relationship then). But, there are no rules. See what your budget dictates and if you're comfortable with it.

HTH

futureMrsJSL Posted: Apr 27, 2009 04:24 PM

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My sister who is also one of my MOH's will be 17 when I get married and some of her friends will already be there since their parents are friends of the family, so she won't really need a plus 1. But if she had a boyfriend by then and wanted to invite him, I'd give her the plus 1.

Its2Snappy Posted: Apr 27, 2009 04:25 PM

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Hmm... My cousins will be 17 and 19. I'm not inviting them with guests unless they have a BF or GF at the time.

runnerbride1023 Posted: Apr 27, 2009 04:27 PM

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I think anyone in college or older would be acceptable. In highschool no one thinks about that stuff, plus I was always siting with my parents! Chances are if its someone younger and you are undecided, its probably a family member and that person will know most people at the wedding anyway. On the plus side, you will only have to pay half-price!

NYgirlinTX Posted: Apr 27, 2009 04:28 PM

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Since a lot of my guests are OOT guests, My FH and i have decided on if your single, you are single. No matter what age. He has a zillion college buddies who haven't hit that peak of maturity, ( I should be in a serious relationship and soon because I am almost 30). They still live in that, what girl can i bring home tonight stage. So i said why should we have to pay for them to bring some fluzy. He agree'ed. And for us the last wedding we all went to, was in Chicago and none of the guys minded. (Our friends did the same thing) It worked out cheaper for the guys because they all just booked rooms together. So it was split 4 ways instead of worrying about flights, hotel, and wedding gifts.

Not to mention i am way over my guest list as is(about 75 people over), let alone my budget

Sandradv121 Posted: Apr 27, 2009 04:29 PM

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18 and older. Thats my rule of thumb.

DnT2010 Posted: Apr 27, 2009 04:31 PM

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its so tricky. i guess we will have to invite guests depending on the situation. thanks everyone!

emc282rjm Posted: Apr 27, 2009 05:49 PM

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In my family it's 21. It's just the way things have always been...who knows why! I do remember how excited I was to get invited to my first wedding 'with guest'!

little j Posted: Apr 27, 2009 05:56 PM

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if all your cousins are going to hang out anyway, i dont think you need to invite them with guests. however, if there was only 1 cousin who didnt really know anyone and they were dating someone, i would go ahead and invite the guest.

i never really thought of this. one of FH's cousin is close to 18 and i dont know of any relationship, so so far she is sans guest. i have other long-distance cousins coming and they might get a '+1' just because of the commute, but im still not 100%.

RitasEngaged Posted: Apr 27, 2009 06:06 PM

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I am only inviting people with guest if they are in serious relationships

SummerBride10 Posted: Apr 27, 2009 06:49 PM

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Every 17+ will be invited with a guest (because two of my cousins will be 17, almost 18 and they are so close in age w/ my other cousins it wouldnt be right to not invite them w/o one). I think it all depends on your specific situation and the ages of the younger people you're inviting. If you have 10 people that 16, you'd have to add another 10 people just to invite them with a guest- thats a little insane.

bubberflys Posted: Apr 27, 2009 06:56 PM

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I think it really depends on your situation and family expectations. I have TONS of 1st cousins, I am the oldest so none are married yet. My rule is that if they have a steady BF/GF at the time, they will be invited with a guest, if not, then no guest.