STD dilema

chadjennwedding Posted: Dec 07, 2008 05:46 PM

STD dilema

Hey girls,

Ok so my wedding is on a Thursday night (09/10/09). I want to give my guest enough time to plan for a weekday wedding (travel arrangments, requesting day off of work, etc.)

My STDs are all printed, all I have to do is address them. I think I should already be sending them out. My future Mother in Law is saying it's too early and making a big deal by not giving us all the guests on their side addresses.

Is she right? Is it too early?

Thanks for the help!!!

RitasEngaged Posted: Dec 07, 2008 05:48 PM

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Most people send them out no earlier than a year before so you are getting married in 9 months so you are fine.

Espo22 Posted: Dec 07, 2008 05:49 PM

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I think its perfect timing actually and its definitely not too early. Most do it anywhere from 6 months to a year. I already received an STD a few weeks ago for a wedding on october of 09

geegee827 Posted: Dec 07, 2008 05:49 PM

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I think it's great that you want to give your guests extra time to make arrangements especially since it's on a Thursday night.

I would send them out right after the holidays so they don't get lost in all holiday confusion.

Your FMIL is probably doing this because std's are relatively new when it comes to weddings (who heard of them even 10 years ago?). She just doesn't understand the way things are done now.

mosh424 Posted: Dec 07, 2008 05:50 PM

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I would personally wait until the new year just because with christmas cards and everything people might throw it out by mistake.

ilonka020 Posted: Dec 07, 2008 05:52 PM

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i just mailed my out and i'm getting married in October, so i don't think it is too early

chadjennwedding Posted: Dec 07, 2008 05:54 PM

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After the holidays sounds just right....thanks!!!

Wifeynella Posted: Dec 07, 2008 06:10 PM

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I'd do it after the holidays, around Jan IF you have a lot of OOT guests. Otherwise, wait until late Feb/early March.

twoifbysea Posted: Dec 07, 2008 06:35 PM

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I think if you want to send them out now, you should.

I just got my magnets in the mail the other day and will start sending them out in a week or so, probably with a Christmas card.

pa56 Posted: Dec 07, 2008 07:17 PM

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Posted by geegee827

I think it's great that you want to give your guests extra time to make arrangements especially since it's on a Thursday night.

I would send them out right after the holidays so they don't get lost in all holiday confusion.

Your FMIL is probably doing this because std's are relatively new when it comes to weddings (who heard of them even 10 years ago?). She just doesn't understand the way things are done now.

I agree - I would send them out sometime in early January after the holidays.

LeeAnne Posted: Dec 07, 2008 07:19 PM

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send them.....the sooner the better! especially because people might have to take time off from work. give people enough time to plan

Deeglasser Posted: Dec 07, 2008 07:53 PM

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we're getting married on halloween and because a majority of our guests are coming from out of town we sent them a year in advance. i definitely think the earlier the better- especially if people want to take time off work to come to your wedding!

luckiestelc Posted: Dec 08, 2008 09:04 AM

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i don't think it's too early, we are also doing a thursday, we JUST sent ours out, 6 months early, but ti wish we had them done earlier....

i would just stress the fact to FMIL that some people need alot of advance notice to take time off work...

yay!! another thursday INN bride!!

KerriJohnS Posted: Dec 08, 2008 09:17 AM

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Your wedding is right around the same time as mine! Except if your wedding is on Thursday then that is the 12th and Tuesday is the 10th, I only realized that because my wedding is a Friday night November 6, 2009.
I would have sent my STD's out already... but I am making them myself and I'm not finished yet. So I definately do not think it's too early. It's a save the date not an invitation! For invitations, I'd definately say it's too early. I am hoping to have mine in the mail by year end!

Maybe she isn't used to the concept of a STD. My grandmother has no clue about anything wedding related and has no idea what a save the date is... she kept telling me it was too early but she's always confused with it being an invitation.