So I have to know does anyone have a step mother that is going to be involved with their wedding<<< Well I do and I want to get some opions how would you girls handle this. I am cool and close with her but she is not your mom and anyone who has a step mother can agree with me. right?
My mom past away 5 years ago so obviously she isnt there to be in the pic
So I just want to know should I be taking all mother pics with just her or I am very close with one of my older cousins she is my moh and i have alot of aunts. I just dont know what to do.
I NEED ADVISE PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!
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Sorry htat your mom has passed
But if you are close with your Step mom and don't have your real mom around - why would you not take pictures with her?
It really is just up to you. you can take individual shots with whoever you want. It could be your uncle, it doesnt matter, thats your choice - it doesnt necessarily have to be considered a 'Mother shot'
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yes i know but like the one that are like the mother shots arent there spec ones that you take with your mother, I just wouldnt want to be rude an take some with her and other not with her
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yes i know but like the one that are like the mother shots arent there spec ones that you take with your mother, I just wouldnt want to be rude an take some with her and other not with her
IDK I guess, sometimes there are ones of them helping you get ready but i think that sometimes they have a bridal party member in those as well
But again if you are close to her and she is the only mother you have now, I would say include her into those if it happens.
I think I am confused with this post because you are saying that you are close to her yet you are worried about whether or not to include her in those.. what is your reasoning for not?
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Im not like on a bff level or mother daughter level more or less bc my dad is happy an i want to make everything happy i like her type thing it is just a weird situtation i guess i just dont know myself so it makes it worse thanks for beign the only one who replied though i always make post and never get anyone to reply i dont get it lol thanks though for the advise i apprecite it
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ps we are getting married the same day 8/9/08 lol thats funny
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Oh wow! i didnt notice we have the same date! yah - Date twin
I see!!! So if you feel better with taking those pictures with your MOH (like getting ready and etc) then do that. Is your step mom the type to think about that a be upset that it wasnt her in the pics? You could include her by having her do a reading at the church.
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yeah she is a very jealous person of myself and my relationship between my dad and i. I believe that after my mom passed she came in so quick and minipulated him to be who he is now. (sorry i killed that word,)
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that stinks. Well this is YOUR day and i know how you feel if you would rather have your cousin (MOH) take those pics then do it!!! Most of our BP is family we have 1 person on each side that is a friend. We didnt want a big BP with loads of friends, becuase when it comes down to it, family is your family and friends come and go. So i can understand maybe not wanting a step mother in all your pictures.
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exactly thanks.
quick question off topic how do i change this wedding newbie because maybe thats why some people dont respond to my posts.
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exactly thanks.
quick question off topic how do i change this wedding newbie because maybe thats why some people dont respond to my posts.
It will change on it's own when your posts go up!
I am sorry to hear about your mother. I can somewhat understand how you feel about the pictures. I do not speak to my mother and haven't for about 7 years. Thinking about those 'mother' pics seems weird to me. I have basically adopted my aunt as my pseudo mother for these things. You should have the person you feel most comfortable with and are closest with helping you get ready.
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exactly thanks.
quick question off topic how do i change this wedding newbie because maybe thats why some people dont respond to my posts.
you need more posts!
if you are posting late at night - that might be why people arent responding as much, the boards arent as active
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So I have to know does anyone have a step mother that is going to be involved with their wedding<<< Well I do and I want to get some opions how would you girls handle this. I am cool and close with her but she is not your mom and anyone who has a step mother can agree with me. right?
My mom past away 5 years ago so obviously she isnt there to be in the pic
So I just want to know should I be taking all mother pics with just her or I am very close with one of my older cousins she is my moh and i have alot of aunts. I just dont know what to do.
I NEED ADVISE PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!
I have the same issue .. my mom passed 13 years ago and my dad remarried 3 years ago. My step mom is taking this mother of the bride thing over board. ( she does not have a daughter ) I think I am going to put a picture of my mom on my bok. This way she is with me.
As for the day of pictures how many picture do you need to take with her alone ??/ I think one or two would be fine . especially if you are very close to MoH and your aunts. Just tell her that since you want to take many shots with diffrent people and time is an issue you are going to limit certain shots ( this way she doesnt take it personal )
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yeah it is really hard so sorry to hear about your mom This is just an all around crappy situtation. You know so hopefully it wont be so bad
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I was in the EXACT SAME situation as you. If you feel it isn't right, do NOT take mother pictures with your stepmother. SHe is not your mother, but she is important and can be in other family photos. I think its silly to try and force unnatural pictures.
My parents got divorced when I was a teenager, and I have a stepmother who I'm close with, but she is not my Mom.
My real Mom passed away 3 years ago.
I was in a similar predicament as you and here is how I handled all of the little details....it worked out GREAT:
My Dad walked me down the aisle alone. My stepmother did NOT walk down the aisle, but I had her do a READING during the ceremony, which was really nice!
I also dedicated a poem to my Mom in my program (and FH's late dad, too), and the BEST THING I ever did, was I had a small picture charm of my Mom on my bouquet....so she was with me through the whole ceremony.
I don't have individual pictures, but if you look at picture number 2 in the gallery of this link, you will see what it all looked like:
oh my god thanks so much for that info that was the best advise that i have gotten. you know im 24 ill be 25 wheni get married and I think about this and I feel as if Im still a child it is such a hard thing to do. You see i want to have a monogram i thinks thats what its called on during the reception of my mom when i dance a dedicated song to my brother and she had something to say like i think this should be a happy occasion i dont think that is will be a good idea. so I was just very torn on what to do and i need some help. i really appreciate it thanks again for taking the time to reply
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my mother passed away in 92 i was 11...everyday i incorp her in my life and my wedding day she will be there with me.....
my father re married about 3 years ago and she is so good to him...he was young when my mom passed away
but she is realy good and good to me so i will involve her...
i fm you some more info
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well my deal is a bit complicated and i hope I don't have to explain it to my priest. my parents are divorced. I stood with my mom after the split but spent many weekends with my dad.
MY father will walk me down the aisle and my mother will be escorted by my half brother. In order to include my other parents who helped raise me...I am having my mothers ex lesbian lover (whom I've always called my aunt) walk down the aisle alongside my fathers new wife (theyre not really married but have been together for 18 yrs.)
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I don't have a step mother, but FH does, and he has been having trouble with this as well, he doesn't want him mom getting upset if he has a mother son dance with his step mom as well.. I think this is really a touchy subject, and you need to do what you think is best for you! If you want to take pictures with her, I think she would be extremely honored to do so!
