My fiance and I are really concerned that we are going to hurt a friend's feelings.
I've been friends with a pair of twins since I was a little girl. We have remained close all these years and my fiance has even gotten to know them quite well.
However, one of the twins is much closer to both my fiance and I. He is the one that we usually call to make plans or to seek advice from. He is one of my best friends and very close to my fiance. His brother usually tags along when we get together and is very dear to us, yet not quite as close.
My question is, how do we ask one brother to be in the wedding party and not the other? Though its apparent we are closer to one, I'm not sure that the other brother actually realizes that and we really don't want to hurt his feelings.
Any advice?
chrissyandvin
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yeah i think you may hurt the brothers feelings.. I don't think you have a choice sweetie...
haleyzcomet
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Posted by ZuzusPetals
It seems as if asking both is really not an option for you. I would tell both twins that they are very dear to you. Ask the one brother to be in the party and ask the other to do a reading. Good Luck!
I agree
bride2b24
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yeah id def go with both
LorinElizabeth
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Posted by futrmrsblt
If you are truly closer to one more then the other, I'd say just ask the one brother and let the other brother have another task at the wedding such as handing out programs,etc.. include him in your wedding but not as a groomsman.
ditto. If anything talk to the brother you're closer to first and ask if he thinks his bro would mind
SchmearandGoose
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Definitely. I'm going to talk to my (closer) friend before doing anything, either way. See, I feel that I wouldn't particularly mind the other brother since I was the one that grew up with him.
But my fiance feels he would prefer to have people that he personally feels close to as groomsmen and he doesn't feel close to brother #2.
Is it even my decision or is it his?
PegaLega
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Its more FHs decision then yours but at the same time you can state your opinion on it. I think there really is no way around it-someones feelings are going to get hurt...if you can handle that then only ask the one you are close to-if not then your only option really is to ask both-Good Luck
mpalmer
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i would ask both. it's better to be safe and not hurt the other one's feelings. my fh is a twin and they have the same friends. they both have been asked to groomsmen in the same wedding. i think that it would just be awkward if only one twin was asked. good luck.
