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sticky situation... what do you all think? THANKS FOR THE INSIGHT!!

Original post by alexlynn7

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SO i went to visit my grandmother today, who is in her 90s and very sick. for some reason she kept on telling me over and over that i should ask my brother to walk me down the aisle at the wedding (my dad passsed away a little over a year ago. i have one brother who is 17 years older than me). at first i skirted the issue cause i'm not sure what i want to do about the aisle thing. but when she kept on saying that i broke down and told her i would ask him. BUT a while back my mother hinted to me that she would like to be the one to walk me. i don't know myself what i want to do about this - a big part of me actually wants to walk alone as a way of saying that no one can replace my dad. so i don't want to disappoint my mother, but if i didn't ask my bro i would feel so GUILTY that i made the promise and didn't keep it. i don't know what to do now

anngabrielle Thread views: 1,542

Re: sticky situation... what do you all think?

I think you might solve this by saying respectfully to both mom and grandma your feelings about walking down alone. Then I would ask if perhaps your brother would do the honor of walking your mom down the aisle. That way everyone is included and the things that are most important to you aren't compromised. Because, lets face it almost everything in a wedding is compromise!!!

LIPrincess00 Thread views: 1,542

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What if they both walk you down 1/2 way. Then your FI can meet you there and walk the rest of the way together.

CubanBride Thread views: 1,542

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I am walking alone for that exact reason, no one will be able to replace my father (even though I didn't know him), so I would rather walk alone.

Sassyz75 Thread views: 1,542

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my friend was in the same situation as you and she had both her mom & brother walk her down- it was very sweet & touching.

JoJoTeej Thread views: 1,542

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Hmmm- I was in the same situation. I already knew that I wanted my younger brother to walk me down and then my Mom came right out and asked to do it (after I asked my brother). I told her nicely that I had already asked my brother and then said that she already has most important role that day - being the MOB. Was that harsh?

BCTM33 Thread views: 1,542

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I think you should do what makes you happy. It would be touching to walk down the aisle yourself, and a very nice tribute to your dad. You should do what makes you happy and explain to your grandmother and mother.
Good Luck!

alexlynn7 Thread views: 1,542

Re: sticky situation... what do you all think?

ladies, thanks so much for all of the insight. you're right, i do have a lot of time to ponder this. there are several possible ways to do this, and i just have to figure out which one i feel the best about.

thank you for helping me put it into perspective. you girls are the best!