Here's my advice, if something is telling you not to invite them DON'T! I have someone I work with, I sent them a STD and now I'm like why did I do that. I was having second thoughts about inviting her in the first place and I thought like you, 'How can I invite one w/o the other?' Well, now I'm wishing I waited and have been rolling the idea of: We are over our maximum, so as much as I would like you there I just can't not invite family! We have a no kids thing and she asked if she could bring her daughter!!! She's 14, oh and get this, she offered to pay for her daughter's plate! Thanks! So this is my advice, invite who you want and leave the others out! Yes there will be reprecusions (sp?) but in the end you won't have catty people at your wedding, just those who should be there. HTH
Thanks! It's tricky b/c I've worked w/these people for a long time (7 yrs.), and was initially ok w/not inviting them, but then started thinking maybe I should but, I just don't know now!
