strange thank you note ? (sad)

meara Posted: Sep 14, 2009 03:27 PM

strange thank you note ? (sad)

So . . I am a bad bride and have been slowly doing my thank yous over the last 3 months and almost done but I have a odd and sad question

one of my guests who worked with my dad and I have known most of my life passed away recently. . so she came to the wedding with her boyfriend and gave me a gift (which was clearly from her) so one. .when I found the thank you I wrote to her I just cried and cried and felt stupid I didn't mail it immediately which I meant too bc I knew she was sick. . but now. do I send it to her BF who I don't really know or just let it go . . I feel like it would be weird to send but don't know. .

overall just makes me sad. ..

AngnShaun Posted: Sep 14, 2009 03:31 PM

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Posted by meara

So . . I am a bad bride and have been slowly doing my thank yous over the last 3 months and almost done but I have a odd and sad question

one of my guests who worked with my dad and I have known most of my life passed away recently. . so she came to the wedding with her boyfriend and gave me a gift (which was clearly from her) so one. .when I found the thank you I wrote to her I just cried and cried and felt stupid I didn't mail it immediately which I meant too bc I knew she was sick. . but now. do I send it to her BF who I don't really know or just let it go . . I feel like it would be weird to send but don't know. .

overall just makes me sad. ..

that is a difficult situation... i wish i knew excatly what you should do... if it was me, i would send it to her BF..

ELluvsMB Posted: Sep 14, 2009 03:31 PM

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I would let it go. I didn't send out a wedding invite to a family member who lost his wife the week i was mailing out my invites. He had a very hard time dealing with it and my mom told me not to invite him (its her cousin's husband). I guess ask your family to see what they think.

GT143EA Posted: Sep 14, 2009 03:34 PM

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I would send it to the BF. You could write that you were so happy that they both had been there. Im sure he'd be happy to get it.

DonnaPWhite1124 Posted: Sep 14, 2009 03:36 PM

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Send it to the bf. Because you never know, he might be want to know how come he didnt receive anytthing.

That is so sad

DaniandKen2010 Posted: Sep 14, 2009 03:37 PM

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Send it to the BF it may mean alot to him.

coldasice217 Posted: Sep 14, 2009 03:44 PM

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That's really tough. I know you're feeling regret for not sending it sooner in light of her situation, but you can't beat yourself up over it. I would send it to the BF and thank him for being there and bringing her and giving you the opportunity to see her again.

julesrbf Posted: Sep 14, 2009 04:00 PM

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Posted by coldasice217

That's really tough. I know you're feeling regret for not sending it sooner in light of her situation, but you can't beat yourself up over it. I would send it to the BF and thank him for being there and bringing her and giving you the opportunity to see her again.

ITA, but what a tough situation ... I'm so sorry.

PoppedInASnap Posted: Sep 14, 2009 04:26 PM

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I would send it to the bf....and add a little note about how sorry you felt that she hadnt been able to see your thankyou and if he visits her , to let her know... I dont know if that sounds strange...i may have worded it wrong....

gina409 Posted: Sep 14, 2009 04:27 PM

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Posted by GT143EA

I would send it to the BF. You could write that you were so happy that they both had been there. Im sure he'd be happy to get it.

ita..i think he would really appreciate it

springsandra Posted: Sep 14, 2009 04:38 PM

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I would send it to the boyfriend -- well, I would rewrite it first so it's a thank you to him for being there with her, and how much it meant that she could be there at your wedding and how sorry you are for his loss but hope there will be fond memories. Almost like a sympathy card / thank you.

Don't feel bad about it being 3 months. That's perfectly fine. Also, it's ok you didn't send it before. I think it's just wonderful she was there at your wedding.

meara Posted: Sep 14, 2009 04:43 PM

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thanks everyone I have really been wondering about this. .

I think I will send it (obviously re-writing it) it's not like he won't be thinking of her anyway so. . . and yes I was happy she made the wedding. .I had actually put her at my dad's table (she was his secretary for 26 yrs and apparently she kept telling her family how honored she was to have been put at a family table. . very sweet. .