Stress (Vent & Long )

First of all THANK YOU GUYS for reading...Advice is APPRECIATED!

My FH and I have been thru hell and BACK!!!

Now planning this wedding he's accepting responsibility to take on all of the stress about the wedding! All questions, concerns, stupidity...he's ur go to guy.

We decided to get on the ball and tell our moms about the wedding (both of our dads are deceased). So I made my mother she would blab to everyone because I am unable to invite EVERYONE. FH's mom took it upon herself to BLAB to EVERYONE and it kinda ruined the element of surprise that I wanted to give everyone. And on top of that she's telling ppl who arent invited. She is also caught up in a 'teasey' because he doesn't want his grandmother there (his moms mom). His grand mother is mean, nasty attitude, and very in ur face...she has disrespected me on more than one occasion and disrepected both him and his mom last year when his dad past away.

My mom is bugging me because she said that I look stupid walking down the aisle alone and I could have both of my older brothers or my uncle walk me down. And I refused because I will be on edge because I want my dad to walk me down the aisle.

I broke down in the BM office the day we booked because FH's mom is such a drama queen she tries to make everything about her and she will start crying in order to get the attention and say she sad about his dad. To me that will trigger my family and my wedding will ruin my day!

Sorry so long...I just want some advice or opinions!

Wow- i'm so sorry you're going through this.
I know it's easier said than done, but don't worry who your mom or FMIL tells about the wedding. You guys have to invite who YOU want to invite...

And you will not look stupid walking down the aisle by yourself- i've seen a lot of brides do that.

Please just try to calm down when they p-i-s-s you off- Count backwards from 10 (that helps me A LOT), and remember- it's your day and no one can ruin it!!! HTH!!!!

No real advice other than to tell everyone to shove it and do what you want

wow, i'm sorry u have to deal with all this. it's supposed to be a happy and exciting time in ur life and instead ur left to deal with all this crap from ppl.

try not to worry about who ur mom is talking to about the wedding, ur going to invite who u and ur FH WANT to invite.

u will NOT look silly walking down the aisle alone. ur father will be with u in spirit, and i think ppl will understand why u made that decision.

good luck and keep ur head up girl!

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Posted by mrsdraskin2009



No real advice other than to tell everyone to shove it and do what you want

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THANK YOU!! Thats what FH said!

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Posted by Lu2700

wow, i'm sorry u have to deal with all this. it's supposed to be a happy and exciting time in ur life and instead ur left to deal with all this crap from ppl.

try not to worry about who ur mom is talking to about the wedding, ur going to invite who u and ur FH WANT to invite.

u will NOT look silly walking down the aisle alone. ur father will be with u in spirit, and i think ppl will understand why u made that decision.

good luck and keep ur head up girl!

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THANK YOUU!! So much!

I'm sorry!

Just tell everyone to shut their traps, if they don't, ignore them and enjoy planning YOUR day the way YOU want it

OMG she $uck$....Im so sorry for you. You have to have an I DONT CARE attitude and do what you want. Your life is with him not his MOM!!!

IThis reminds me of the movie MONSTER IN LAW

GOOD LUCK

Stress is horrible.

My dad is deceased (at the time of my wedding he'll be dead 13 years). I made the decision that my uncle (his brother) will walk me down the aisle. I understand that is may not be the right decision for you, but for me, I knew my dad wouldn't want me walking alone, and since my uncle has no daughters, it's a win-win.

Here's a great phrase I learned from LIW: No pay, no say. If you're willing to give a donation to my wedding I will let you have an opinion... if you're not? Just shut up, I didn't ASK you. Whenever some asks me 'Are you doing X?' I say 'I'll be happy to, if you'll pay for it.'

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Posted by Lu2700

wow, i'm sorry u have to deal with all this. it's supposed to be a happy and exciting time in ur life and instead ur left to deal with all this crap from ppl.

try not to worry about who ur mom is talking to about the wedding, ur going to invite who u and ur FH WANT to invite.

u will NOT look silly walking down the aisle alone. ur father will be with u in spirit, and i think ppl will understand why u made that decision.

good luck and keep ur head up girl!

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i agree but were here for you if you need us!