stressed out

I have been so stressed lately mainly because of FMIL and I feel that she is putting a big strain on mine and FH relationship. She is mad because I don't invite her to do things with my mom and I for the wedding, but I am my mom's only child and why should she have to share a very special experience with FMIL. I don't know what to do anymore I am always the one wrong when FH family has done many things wrong but are never discussed because my mom and I don't want the confrontation. This all started because I wanted to do the invitations with my mom and since FMIL paid for them she was mad that I didn't invite her over, meanwhile I never told her what I was doing FH was talking to her and told her. Now FH is making me apologize to her for the whole thing but if feel if I was the one who told her that I wanted to do the invites with my mom this big fight would not be happening. It also gets me mad because all her kids feed into her because they don't want to deal with it and I am getting sick of it. Sorry this is so long thanks for listening, just really needed to vent.

My FMIL was like that too. But she is the kind of person who only wanted me to include her in these things cause she craved the attention. But she's a bitter person on top of it and was just trying to make things as miserable for FH and me as possible.

We haven't spoken to her since christmas.... i'm almost afraid of her showing at my shower.

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Posted by autumn86

:( Maybe you can designate a couple things for you and your fmil and mother to do together and approach your fmil and say sorry that i havent been doing many things with you, my mother was just sentinmental about a few things because I am her only child, but I have set aside blank and blank for us to do and would love if you would help me? Sometimes appraoching these kinds of situations in a non threatening way is better than going in with battle gear on. Hiope things get better!!!

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There is nothing left for me to really do we have been done with the majority of the planning for a little while now. She also has 1 daughter married and another that will eventually get married so she has had her time and no one took it away from her

I'm sorry. My FMIL didn't want to tell me the color of her dress. I thought it was because she was going to wear some sort of white colored dress. Well I sent her a text and told her that I needed to know the color of her dress so I can pick out a flower that matches. Her response is No, you just want to tell the family what color I am wearing. The family does not care about you and your stupid dress! (FFIL and FMIL split up in October) So, I told her no, I need to tell the florist so we can find a matching flower or at least a matching band for the flower. She then told me the color of the dress.

Really lady?! Nobody cares about your dress!

And she invited uninvited guests to my shower and her reason was because they REALLY wanted to go.

I feel you!!!!!!!!!

I'm sorry...FMIL's can really be annoying!