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blu6385
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stressed ... overwhelmed ... and lost ... (kind of long ...may not make to much sense just tyoing what i am feeling )
ok so i feel very overwelmed again ... i still have to figure out where i am getting married .. my ohotgrapher ... limos ... well basically everything ... i at least think i have finalized my guest lists... and i at least know what my favors are going to be .... but i'm stil stress and i feel completely lost .... i come one here and i see you girls talk about how you got these things done and how you need to get this done and these things are things i never would have thought i needed ... i know all the obviuos things to get done but the little things i'm lost ... like what are programs ... and what are these we do letters for... and whats a manogram and waht do you useit for ... these are just a few of many things i feel i know nothing about ... i guess i need a list of all possible things i may need or want at my wedding ... then theres paying for all this stuff i have to pay for this whole wedding myself ... talk about added stress .... i sometimes wish and yes ill admit it i get a little jealous of all the girls on here that can spend what they want on thier weddings (no offense to anyone) .. i just dont want the stress anymore ... i just want all the planning to be done already ... I REALLY NEED A LIST of everything i may need or want for the wedding and an explanation ...then maybe i'll feel a little less overwhelmed and feel a little more like i know waht i am doing ..... OKAY had to let it out ... sorry for the long ramble ....
soon2BMrsMcD
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first off breathe
this website is amazing and we're all here to help!
programs-used at the cermony to inform guests of your bridal party/readings/song selections
we do letters- they go on the cake table but are 100% your choice wether to do or not!
monograms- some people use mongrams (initals of ) as a theme and use it on invites, programs, napkins..etc.
hope i helped a lil
Soon2BMrsD
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i feel the same exact way... this wedding is mostly what FH wants.. hes all into the big fancy wedding with hundreds of people.. but honeslty not my style nor are we getting much help if any.. and we barely have 2 pennies to rub together. so i totally understand. Jiffy im pretty sure.. posted a list of her to-dos and i found it SUPER helpfull. she posted it today ill bump it or FM it to u. and please dont feel alone. im def. right there with you!! and if it helps were doing alot of DIY stuff and cutting back on all the little details that we dont neccessarily need.
if u need help or just to vent PLEASE FEEL FREE to just FM me... i totally get it!
megzzie
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I'm so sorry you're feeling this way! If you ever need to vent/talk, feel free to FM me - I'm a good listener (in this case, reader).
Good luck with everything!
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you should relax and enjoy your planning!! as for seeing what everyone else is talking about, you should remember that it is your wedding, and you only need what you want there. there is no set guidlines of things that 'have' to be at a wedding. You should think about what you want and what is important to you and focus on that. Remember, it is YOUR day and it should be what you want, not what you think it should be. all that said, i do understand the feeling overwhelment!! i feel it too, but i just tell myself that it will get done and it will be fine, no matter what. the most important thing is that at the end of the day you are standing next to the man you love!!
Chrissywish
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i think we ALL feel this way at some point or another.
If it makes you feel better the only thing i have done is book my hall and date...nothing else and that was a huge hurdle that took me months to do!!! and that was with extensive research before getting engaged!!!!
As far as things like programs (to tell the proceedings at your church), bathroom baskets (for necessiteies in the bathroom like hairspray and bobby pins), we do letters (for decorating the cake table)....most of it is not necessary. it may be nice but not necessary. So book all the big things you need first...see where the budget falls and what you have left and budget from there (dont forget to budget in tips!!!!) Looking at the numbers gets REALLY overwhelming, but that's when I turn to my FH or parents and they say everything will be ok, it will all fall in place its not worth losing your mind over.
Remember also you have a support system here and many many girls to back you up, help you out, give you an ear when you need one, on top of your FH and the support he may be able to give you.
it's ok to feel that way. when i do, my mom tells me to walk away, and we will think about it tomorrow. There is plenty of time. Think about the girls that plan a wedding in 3 months??? If they can do it in three months I can wait a day or two until I have calmed down and can take on a different perspective.
Good luck and FM me if you need anything!!!
Espo22
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Many of the people you see always talking about these things, they had no idea about it before they did research and started coming on message boards...I had no idea what the 'WE DO' letters were before i saw them in peoples pictures...But thats the thing, now you are learning and seeing different things you can do...You have PLENTY of time to do these things, and in the meantime you can find many ideas for your wedding...Also things like 'WE DO' letters are not necessary at all and neither are monograms.
ANd yes the paying part is stressful...I put most of my money in savings, and dont spend alot of it. I have a big installment to pay this friday to the RH, also the week after an installment for e-party, have to give down payment for e-party dj, buy a e-party dress this week, still have decorations and favors to buy...Plus in january we are going to book a couple of vendors for the wedding. It does get overwhelming. I always go shopping and just want to buy so many things and normally would, but then i stop and think oh yeah i have this and that and that to pay for so be smart. For us personally it hit us all at once this month..not only the holidays but two installments, vendors, invitations and all these other things.
Just dont stress out about the details, you will figure out everything you want...When i started looking at peoples bios after i got engaged, well i used to look at theknot.com and saw all these little details and people obsessing about guest book and guestbook pens, and we do letters and things i never thought of, i also thought it would be overwhelming, but after time it becomes natural
blu6385
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THANKS FOR ALL THE GREAT ADVICE ... i just really needed to let that out .... i know all you girls are here and this site has helped me so much already ... thanks again ... going to bed now ... tomorrows another day ...
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Just wanted to let you know you are definitely not alone in feeling stressed and '?' everything!!! I'm totally there too - I haven't booked a single thing and everyday I jump from one topic to dwell on to another!! And I think that's very normal! Today I was obsessed with my limo situation and yesterday it was the father -daughter dance!!!
I'm not at all organized and don't have even a home made binder or notebook ready let alone a fancy planner from the bookstore! But I remind myself that I have time and if I get stressed I just take a moment or time to relax and get myself wound up.
We are all here for you and you have tons of girls on LIW to help and answer your questions with lightening speed!! Remember everything falls into place and as someone told me - just get the RH and Church (or ceremony site) set and then the rest will just fall into place!!
You can always FM me too if you want to chat!!! Sending in the hugs!!!
LT708
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AAWW, relax
This is a time that you need to enjoy!! I was getting like this for a little bit, and then thought about it like this - i'm only going to be planning a wedding once (hopefully ) and i want to take in all of the joys of being engaged and planning (going to every food tastind )
As for the little stuff. Look on the Bride's review boards. a lot of them have reviews on all of the DIY's they did for their wedding with pictures of the DIY's in use (WE DO letters in their place on the table, monogrammed invites) There you will get ideas of what you want. also, u can find all of that on the DIY boards.
hope this helped!! good luck
Chrissywish
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Posted by rysie everyday I jump from one topic to dwell on to another!! And I think that's very normal! Today I was obsessed with my limo situation and yesterday it was the father -daughter dance!!!
OMG this is so me...i am like schizo bride...today i stressed over transportation for our guests (our hall is about an hour from my house and I don't want everyone driving drunk, plus i can already name about 21 OOT guests, plus who knows who else that will be here and hopefully stay by my house as opposed to near the reception hall).....then one day I stress about what our song will be....and another the bridal party....the next flowers...then back to the bridal party....andoh yeah i want pretty pictures....but i dont want to spend a fortune on all this, can we afford it..... and what about the guestbook, should i do a wishing wellamaroo thing, should i do a photo book i make, should i do a scrapbook deal
its good to know we're not alone in our thoughts!!!!
Autumn08
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Don't worry about monograms, we do letters, and programs. Those are details that you can decide on if you want them later. You certainly don't need them. As of now I'm not! You've picked a date and you have a guest list? Are you getting married in a church or synagogue or at the RH? Figure out where you want the ceremony and then was your date is set in stone find a RH. Reception Hall Guide should be able to help you. After visiting all the website I was interested in I would send an e-mail for a price quote. Of course they want you to go down and visit but I told them I didn't want to waste anyone's time if they were out of my range. You still have time but you should definitely start looking!
ant n tilde
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i hope the above posts helped you a little!
all those things you mentioned are 'extras' and i decided a while ago that I am not going to do any extras - i appreciate personal touches in any wedding BUT i am planning for this wedding 95% by myself - my family is clueless when it comes to these little touches and FH hasnt helped since we booked the hall! so i decided that if its not necessary then we arent doing it - while you may decide you want these extras - dont feel obligated! billions of people have gotten married without WE DO letters and I am sure their marriages are fine! even the programs - i like to get them at weddings, but hopefully you know the important stuff when you go to a wedding ( like who the bride and groom are!)
we are paying for all of this ourselves too and i feel super stressed about that - right now we have half our budget with a year to go. . . i think we will be fine and I think we will figure it out but that is definitely the scariest part about wedding planning!
hope you are feeling better!
Mrs. V 2008
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calm down!!! everything will be fine...you should consider getting a wedding planning book! they have lists, and explains each thing in detail...it may help..and if it makes you feel any better...I feel the same way sometimes..as everyone books more and more vendors i feel so behind and lost
Belongs2DanBuckley
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EXACTLY....get urself a planner....it'll help. As far as getting everything done... YOU HAVE PLENTY OF TIME!!!!
I have nothing booked except my hall and church. You still have a leg up on all the girls that haven't even gotten engaged yet. Take your time. You are spending alot of $$$ and you should plan it out carefully. this site is great. Its REALLY helps. As far as all the little extras...save em to your notebook and pick 5 things you REALLY like and do those. Otherwise you gonna make urself nuts!!!
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Get a planner (list on here), get a set few days/months you like, set a budget that is realistic and yet affordable, book a hall.
Then work up from the rest. Me and FH are paying for our wedding 100% and its under 20k with 100 guests (not incl. hm which we might not do if we don't have a cash till later). I have resources that make certain things easier for me such as printing, design, etc so i get things cheaper so try to see what your resources have to offer you in order to save money.
There is sooo much time till 08 as much as i hate to say it but someone just booked their wedding and its seven months away and they are doing it and doing extra's. So as everyone said.. start with the simple things and work your way up.
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LIW has a nice wedding timeline. I'm not sure how well the link would work considering I'm logged in but click on My Wedding tab at the top and then go to Wedding timeline.
blu6385
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Thanks for all the adivce ... after not really doing wedding stuff the past couple days ( i even stayed of here ) i am feeling much better!!!!
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Take it from a 2007 bride. You have time.. and take some time for yourself. Don't feel as though you have to do everything so quick. I was doing the same thing when I got engaged and 06 and ended up recently firing my photographer because I didn't do my research extensively. I was just trying to hurry up and book and start paying on this stuff. Do a really extensive research and make sure these are companies you really want.
Good luck you will be fine.
MillerFord742008
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Girl calm down I'm in the same boat. I have to do all the planning myself. Meanwhile since I didnt have a job I couldnt pay for anything. And FH just wants me to do whatever and him and I are just fighting like crazy over the stupidest things. And I do not know whether or not all this fighting has affected the wedding plans. It's just plan craziness.
I just basically pray about it every day and I just got an job offer. All I have to do now is just fixed things with my FH and go ahead with the plans.
Lil things that you may need are:
Programs: It's just basically a lil booklet or onsided sheet that tell you the order of the ceremony and who does what. Naming the officiant, the BP, who may be singing, or what scripture may be read. Things of that sort
You can do lil extras like
Cry packs: Which are lil packages personalized with tissue for those who maybe emotional. Or just a lil souvenier
Petal Cones: Which are cones that you can design to hold petals. So instead of someone throwing some rice. You can have them throwing petals.
Aisle runner: you can personalize it to say something or just your and your fh's name and wedding date
Unity Candles: if you want you can light it to show that you and your FH united as one
Alot of this stuff you can do yourself. at home and you can take your time. Without the hassle of ordering something and it having mistakes. And you can save money doing it yourself
