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As many of you know about me and my beloved FSIL we don't speak at all. FH doesn't speak to her either. Well FH's mom asks him the other day when I was stopping by their house b/c she has something to tell us and wants to tell us together. I go over there last night and she tells us that FH's sister is getting MARRIED!!!! I was in complete shock. I couldn't say a word. I just looked at FH and her and said who is she marrying? I find this extremely suspect for the reasons below.

1. This guy has never come to the house.
2. Has not met both of her parents nor her son. FMIL said she met him once, at FSIL's graduation.
3. FSIL wanted to take him to her cousin's house last night with her mom. Go back to #1 & #2. Being the idiotic person that she is I am still trying to figure out why she would want to do #3 before 1 and 2??? Easy b/c she is a show off. And is more concerned about what others think about her rather than her immiedate family.
4. She met him in college and they didn't keep in touch since then. That was 3 years ago. However they weren't dating b/c she was involved with someone else who she DID bring over quite a few times. AND her son knew who this person was.
5. FH's mom goes to St Vincent for 2 wks with FSIL's son (FMIL's other child) and when she comes back, FSIL says she is going to get married.

Apparently she is not going to get married anywhere near March. Fine by me. I can really care less. FMIL is excited about it. Actually I think she is more excited about her daughter getting married than her son's wedding. Figures. And she wants FH and I to be courteous, as she put it, when she (mind you she said she not her daughter) would formally introduce us to him. As FH says: 'We will see how long this lasts. What is this poor man getting himself into. He has no idea what her true colors are like.' Oh vey. So FH's mother is going to have dinner sometime soon and this guy is stopping by. Not only will I be sitting there not eating b/c I don't like her cooking, I am going to be around someone I despise. Wonderful. Some of you may think I am being petty about this but if you only knew the things FSIL doesn't do for her son and does more for herself, you would hate her too. And she is supposed to be getting married?? She can barely take care of herself let alone her son. His biological mother should be his grandmother since she raised him. It never ends with her...

I have similar probs with my SIL as she is a royal pain in the a$$! We do speak, but hardly. Seems as though we speak mostly when she NEEDS SOMETHING or needs my DH to do something for her. ie - she called last night as the power went down in house bc tree collapsed on lawn (she lives at home with father who isn't too mobile anymore due to old age). thank God it didn't fall on the house but it was 'What do I do?' in a state of panic. I understand and respect that DH has to be there for her as she is on her own w/ father, but I could imagine how you feel being that the hostility is there between you guys. I would just do nothing but be the better person and either kill them with kindness or just be cordial. You're not alone!

Wanda, since you and I talk behind the scenes I know exactly how you are feeling.

I do not get this girl!!! So have they set a date?
Honestly be prepared to her to try to outdo you and Carl's wedding - though she does not stand a chance.

This is all very suspect.

Just bite your tongue and try to your best to get through this.

I can't kill anyone with kindness. I just can't do it. I feel like I would be kissing her a$$ if I did that and I don't believe or approve of anything she does. Her parents don't approve either and when they say something to FSIL she screams at the top of her lungs defending her stupid self. So her parents have stopped talking to her about her behavior. This chic thinks she is a perfect mother and does no wrong. She thinks she is perfect at everything. Disrepects her family however she wants. Has no consideration for her parents and all they have done for her. I feel in a way she goes from bad to worse. And her relationship with her child is always at the bottom of her list. Its really sad... All I know is that I have to stuff myself before I go over there for dinner that evening b/c FMIL is a bad cook.

Kysha, Carl said the same thing. She is going to try to out do our wedding. And she won't even be able to do it b/c of all the hard work and creativity you put into our wedding it will blow her away.

That is right Wanda- she cannot hold a candle to you. Your wedding will be the talk of the family for years to come, while hers will be a mere afterthought.

your wedding will definately be better.. just dont tell her about liweddings and she will be clueless for planning i kinda know what your going through.. FH has a cousin who is moving out of state to trry and get a guy to propose to her and marry her before we get married..some people just crave attention, but you'll feel better knowing your marrying for TRUE LOVE, and all the right reasons!

Thanks Butterfly!! That was so sweet... I don't know what to think anymore. But you know what you are 100% right. I hope she is happy. I hope she is in love with him. Because if she isn't and really marries this man, the one person who will be affected most is her son. He is my main concern. We will see...