I have been good friends with a girl for 5 years, I let her live with me, cus she got prego and I was MOH inher wedding. SHe went away toschool with the baby, and i was there for her every time she needed me. Her showers, her wedding,babysitting.
Heres her story on why she dropped out of my bridal party and NOW CANNOT attend mywedding. She is up and going to Miami to get her masters and she has no money to gethere or for a gift.
I was okay with it at first. But now She is inviting me to her GRaduation party of which she is FLYING from miami to get here for. She told me she had thousands of dollars worth of liposuction, and she prob wont even make it to my shower.
Do I go to the graduation party? I am trying to put myself in her shoes. She has a 2 year old baby and shes trying to get her education and her marriage is rocky.
Should I go or not????
LB and DC
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that's a tough one... i think it all depends on how you are taking all of her 'news' ie. lipo, school, etc. if you feeling like you had been taken advantage of in the past, i wouldn't go. but if you honestly beliave she is just trying to better herself and her situation, i might. if you are uncomfortable, just tell her that you can't afford to because of your upcoming wedding - that way it won't be a reflection on her.
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Coming from someone who had a rough first marriage with young kids...I would go ....even the lipo etc...are prob things she has or is doing in an attempt to save her marriage...Its very earth shattering to be in that position and I can def say I made alot of bad choices when I was in that place in life...thankfully I had friends who though they didnt agree with everything I did and were even hurt by the way I prioritized ( cant spell) They stuck by me and when I finally got my head out of my behind and started to move on with my life I did it knowing that I had the greatest friends to count on !!!
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A similiar thing happened to someone I know and I will tell you the same thing.
Sometimes we all have friends in our life who are selfish. I understand she has some personal issues but if you have been there for this 'friend' so often in the past then why cant she be there for you this one time. Its your wedding which to some people may be a bigger day for them then most special occasions.
I would be hurt and saddened that she could afford Lipo Suction but could not come to my wedding. I do not want to make things worse by saying this but I wanted to give you my honest opinion. I would mention it to her that it hurt you, she may not even think it is hurting you. Maybe if she knows then she will think about it.
Everyone has problems in their lives but it doesnt stop people from enjoying others happiness.
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that is a tough one. If that was me I wouldnt go. if she can have plastic surgery and not be in my wedding due to money issue then im sorry she can spend her graduation by herslef. Sorry.
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I think if you're questioning it, you should go. It seems like you would feel bad about not going, and I always feel like I'm better off doing something even if it turns out to be a waste than not doing it and regretting it later.
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Do u have to fly down to miami for her graduation party?? where is it??
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Posted by luvabul
Do u have to fly down to miami for her graduation party?? where is it??
Its Local, actually the next town over from me.
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Posted by kellybean
Coming from someone who had a rough first marriage with young kids...I would go ....even the lipo etc...are prob things she has or is doing in an attempt to save her marriage...Its very earth shattering to be in that position and I can def say I made alot of bad choices when I was in that place in life...thankfully I had friends who though they didnt agree with everything I did and were even hurt by the way I prioritized ( cant spell) They stuck by me and when I finally got my head out of my behind and started to move on with my life I did it knowing that I had the greatest friends to count on !!!
Its good to hear this from someone who was in her shoes. I have made a decision to go but I will go for an hour and bring her something, then Iwill goto the other places I wouldlike to attend too. I do care about her alot. You may be right she may have got that work done to help save her marriage, I didnt think of it that way.
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Posted by kellybean
Coming from someone who had a rough first marriage with young kids...I would go ....even the lipo etc...are prob things she has or is doing in an attempt to save her marriage...Its very earth shattering to be in that position and I can def say I made alot of bad choices when I was in that place in life...thankfully I had friends who though they didnt agree with everything I did and were even hurt by the way I prioritized ( cant spell) They stuck by me and when I finally got my head out of my behind and started to move on with my life I did it knowing that I had the greatest friends to count on !!!
Its good to hear this from someone who was in her shoes. I have made a decision to go but I will go for an hour and bring her something, then Iwill goto the other places I wouldlike to attend too. I do care about her alot. You may be right she may have got that work done to help save her marriage, I didnt think of it that way.
I was never that type of person but when my marriage went bad I became obsessed with making him happy ...I did some pretty dumb stuff..and honestly didnt even realize that what I was doing was not only not helping me but also hurting those that cared about me...I wasnt being selfish persay .....I was trying to do what I thought was best for myself and my children....Though I look back now and realize I was being a complete moron...I wasnt nor have I ever been selfish though many of my choices at that time appeared that way..and then there is the shame of a failed marriage untill its over most people will not admit just how truly bad it is ...Im glad you are going !!
luna bride x
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if it was me i wouldn't go.. you can only be burned by someone so many times you know..
