SWR: Need Help w/ Baby Shower location (again)**DRAMA****UPDATE--MUST READ****
Original post by MsKitty1274
Okay, my MOH's mom called me about a week ago to start brainstorming for the baby shower. MOH is due Dec 15, but we all think she's going to go early, so we're had decided the shower would be in end of Oct. Her mom and I decided on Sunday Oct 23 either 12-4 or 1-5. Fine.
MOH lives in W. Babylon, her mom and I live in Queens (but I work in Suffolk), and I offer to check out some restaurants for the shower. The guest list is small (20-25), so her mom thought a restaurant would be great. She said no alcohol and wants to stay under $1000. Fine. I make some calls and planned on going to some places this week.
MOH comes to work Tues saying that her mom (who had been staying with them all weekend) was insisting on going to see a place w/ MOH's husband's mom (who is up visiting from FL), but she (husband's mom) was busy and MOH's mom got upset and made the husband take her.
Today the husband calls me to see if MOH's mom had called me, I tell him yes, a week ago. He said 'No, since last night?' Then goes on to tell me that they went to a place and she left a deposit. Okay. I then ask when and where... Here's the kicker... It's now on Saturday (she knows I work Saturdays until at least 2pm) from 1-4pm at the Chinese Buffet in North Babylon.
Please forgive me, I am not knocking the place (it'd be in a pvt room), but come on, my MOH is 36 (37 in Dec) and this is her 1st child! He told me it was $10/pp. I am a little upset b/c I wanted to be SOMEWHAT involved. PLUS...MOH made it VERY clear she did not want the shower in Sept, b/c it's TOO soon. Hello?!?! It's practically in Sept now! The husband did say that it's earlier b/c his mom will still be here from FL. Fine.
SO, now I want to call and go to some other places then call her (she doesn't know the husband called me) and say 'Okay, here is what I found and they are holding the date for me' FYI, I called Villa Lombardis (just for kicks) their shower pkg is $29.95/pp! Even if we have 25 people, that is under $1000 INCL tax and grat!
PLEASE!!! Any suggestions!?!?!?! TIA!!!!!
-Jill SEE UPDATE IN POST ALL THE WAY DOWN
MsKitty1274
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Posted by SomethingBlu Yo, her mom's is a biatch!
I am so upset for you...I can't believe you weren't even allowed to send out the invites you wanted...and HER DAUGHTER DOESN'T WANT HER SHOWER IN SEPTEMBER! Mom sounds like a handful, I am so sorry!
ETA: I am still in shock, but am wondering what happened...why did her mom completely leave you out of the planning? Grrrrrrrrrrrr I would be so pissed if that was my mom! It has NOTHING to do with the place...but rather with the pregnant woman's wishes...and the fact that it's her 1st baby...geez!
ETA: Again, because this time I had time to calm down and think (somewhat)... Her mom is not a biatch...I so take that back. Being so would mean not caring, not booking anything, not sending invites, not making an effort. She seems gun ho about this shower and it stinks that you're left out of it but I hope it turns out amazingly great and your friend/MOH is 'showered' with love, family and friends!
I now return to my normal thinking abilities!
You are too funny girl!!!
I called her mom right after I opened it. She was busy and said she'd call me back in about in hour. She did say that she had a problem that she wanted to talk to me about. And she apologized for it being on Saturday, but that was the best day for everyone. It really is no big deal.
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Posted by MsKitty1274 I called her mom right after I opened it. She was busy and said she'd call me back in about in hour. She did say that she had a problem that she wanted to talk to me about. And she apologized for it being on Saturday, but that was the best day for everyone. It really is no big deal.
I amaze myself with my silliness!
Please keep me updated!
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Posted by SomethingBlu
Posted by N.Y.bride Id just talk to the mom and tell her you could get a better deal at a nicer place. Would she lose her deposit?
I actually have to agree with Amy! Yes...tell her you found a nicer place for a lot less. Make up some story about your MOH hates Chinese Buffets if you have to...this is her first Baby Shower...it should be SPECIAL...this is a toughie...
ETA: Villa Lombardi's for $29.95? Holy cow, how could you pass that up? Your MOH would LOVE it! Do they have a minimum!
I agree with the girls! If you cant get her to change her mind... just put the extra $$ you were going to spend towards a kick a$$ gift!!!!!! sorry you are dealing w/ this jill!
I couldn't agree more
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geesh jill sounds like her mom is a bit off - so what was the big problem she had to talk to you about?
sometimes mom's get a bit out of control - i hope your friend doesnt get upset about being at the chinese buffet - try to make the best of it - make sure she has fun that is most important
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Oh - My - God! I can NOT believe this!!! AMAZING!!! I feel so bad for you. What is up with this mom??
Well, Im sure you will make the best of it Good Luck and just let us know if you need any ideas.
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Posted by SomethingBlu
Posted by MsKitty1274 I called her mom right after I opened it. She was busy and said she'd call me back in about in hour. She did say that she had a problem that she wanted to talk to me about. And she apologized for it being on Saturday, but that was the best day for everyone. It really is no big deal.
I amaze myself with my silliness!
Please keep me updated!
The 'problem' was getting the chair to the place, b/c mom does not have a car. But that was easily resolved.
So, I am okay with this now, b/c I know I can concentrate on getting her some AWSOME gifts!!! Also, MOH's neice (who is 19, lives in AZ and has a 4 mo old son) was originally not coming to the shower, but now she is and WITH the baby. MOH will be SO excited, b/c she did not think she would get to see the baby until next year!!!!
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Just spend some extra money on decorations, CPs, and a great cake to make things seem a little nicer. Maybe you can talk to the restaurant and instead of walking up to the regular buffet part, they can set something up in the private room for you. Or maybe you can have them serve everything family style on the tables so it looks a little less 'cheap.'
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Posted by MsKitty1274 The 'problem' was getting the chair to the place, b/c mom does not have a car. But that was easily resolved.
So, I am okay with this now, b/c I know I can concentrate on getting her some AWSOME gifts!!! Also, MOH's neice (who is 19, lives in AZ and has a 4 mo old son) was originally not coming to the shower, but now she is and WITH the baby. MOH will be SO excited, b/c she did not think she would get to see the baby until next year!!!!
Glad to hear! And it's the people that make showers great, so I'm glad she'll have her niece and will get to meet the baby!
I agree with nferrandi...definitely decorate a LOT!
You're a great friend!
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Try CAFE GRAPPA in East Meadow on Hempstead Tpke. great place resonable price very nice private room and the food is to die for. Check it out they have great package deals
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Posted by mcaula
Try CAFE GRAPPA in East Meadow on Hempstead Tpke. great place resonable price very nice private room and the food is to die for. Check it out they have great package deals
Thank you for the suggestion (I actually have passed there many times, but never been), however the invites already went out...what's done is done.
