Tattoos

vicandbarbara09 Posted: May 04, 2009 10:53 AM

Tattoos

I have a BM's that has a tattoo on top of her left breast it's of a bleeding strawberry with a knife through it dripping blood

I have on on my right shoulder blade it's of a smiling heart

The BM's dresses are strapless

Now I want to ask my BM to cover her's up since it's right in the front and will probably show up in pics. BUT I do not want to cover mines up since it's in the back and not as big as her's

I've asked a couple of people for their opinion about it they said if I am going to ask my BM to cover her's up I should cover mines up too.

I need your advice ladies ..How should I go about asking her?

TIA

littlepixie12 Posted: May 04, 2009 10:54 AM

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Sorry, but I have to agree with the people you asked.. if you ask her to cover hers then you should cover yours too.. or else it wouldnt be fair.. JMHO

doreen82 Posted: May 04, 2009 12:13 PM

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hmm....well your the bride. I think a smiling heart is alot more charming than a bleeding strawberry with a knife. And hers is in the front. Yours is in the back. I think you have every right to ask her to cover up hers and keep yours alone.

debzy Posted: May 04, 2009 12:30 PM

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I think you can ask her in a very non-confrontational way and see how she takes it. Explain to her that she'll be photographed from the front, so that's your concern. But if she says, no, then I'd say leave it alone.

Also, how do you expect her to cover it? Maybe you can compromise and ask her to cover it for pics, but then she can have it uncovered for the reception? Just an idea...don't know if it's practical, though.

MrsCastanedain09 Posted: May 04, 2009 01:16 PM

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I would totally ask to have it covered. If it is my friend (duh she's in the bridal party?), I would have no problem saying 'I love you, I love your tatoo and when we're out hanging I love to see it....but for my wedding pictures would you mind concealing it?'

Are you covering yours at all? That would help if you were, that way you could both have them airbrushed or something.

flairforfashion Posted: May 04, 2009 01:44 PM

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MMM, well you both have tattoos.

If you ask her to cover up she will say 'How about you?'

Or.

You can just make it mandatory for everyone to wear shawls. That way it looks like you wanted it for everyone.

Juhgail Posted: May 04, 2009 01:59 PM

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honestly, its your wedding. ask her nicely and tell her your concern. hopefully she will understand.

jeswedding Posted: May 04, 2009 08:25 PM

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can you just ask her in passing if she is planning on covering it at all...

or maybe you can ask one of your bridesmaids to mention it to her....

just a thought

lucamon Posted: May 04, 2009 08:31 PM

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I think she can have her tattoo exposed. If you really like one of your wedding photos and want to have it enlarged you can have your photographer photoshop out the tattoo.

coldasice217 Posted: May 04, 2009 08:32 PM

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Posted by flairforfashion

MMM, well you both have tattoos.

If you ask her to cover up she will say 'How about you?'

Or.

You can just make it mandatory for everyone to wear shawls. That way it looks like you wanted it for everyone.

ITA...no way to really get around this one. Especially if you have ink too.

MikesBride2B Posted: May 04, 2009 08:32 PM

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Posted by littlepixie12

Sorry, but I have to agree with the people you asked.. if you ask her to cover hers then you should cover yours too.. or else it wouldnt be fair.. JMHO

I agree with this.

Amberrenee6705 Posted: May 04, 2009 09:29 PM

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I agree...because girls will be girls and something would be said, and that way you know she wont feel singled out :o)

Mrs. Bernabe Posted: May 04, 2009 09:49 PM

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Posted by doreen82

hmm....well your the bride. I think a smiling heart is alot more charming than a bleeding strawberry with a knife. And hers is in the front. Yours is in the back. I think you have every right to ask her to cover up hers and keep yours alone.

ITA

her tattoo won't look pretty in pics. I am sure if you tell her nicely she will not have a problem. You are won't be showing your back in most of the pics, so you should not be concerned. Maybe you can offer to pay for it to get covered?

Jess and Jon Posted: May 04, 2009 10:50 PM

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Disagree:

My two best friends have large pieces in very visible spots. Both have agreed to cover up front of body tattoos as they know there is a time and place for everything.

My one friend has a butterfly on her boob as well and will cover it up for me knowing I dont want tattoos in my wedding photos as the day is not about her decision to get a tattoo.

My other best friend has basically top of arm sleeves and will be wearing a shrug to cover them.

Also, the ones on the back arent visible and the same with yours so they arent covering those up.

With that said I love tattoos, think they are awesome - just not in my wedding photos.

Your friend should be understanding as its your wedding day.