Tell me if this is OK please..............

Sassy Posted: Mar 06, 2003 10:06 AM

Tell me if this is OK please..............

A couple of the people I sent STD magnets to - I've now decided I don't want to invite. I KNOW, I got issues

BUT since they got a STD, do I HAVE to send them an invitation now? Even tho' they didnt even congratulate me? Not a phone call or visit my website. Everyone else who got one acknowledged it. Also, I haven't spoken to them in years. I just thought they would be happy for me, but I don't think they even care

curly2003 Posted: Mar 06, 2003 10:10 AM

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If this was the case (of not having seen them in years) then I don't think you should have sent out the STD in the first place BUT now that you did, I think you should send them an invite. if I got an STD I would assume I was invited to a wedding. I'm sure they do too.

jenny2penny Posted: Mar 06, 2003 10:10 AM

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NovemberSue Posted: Mar 06, 2003 10:12 AM

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I would think that because you sent them the STD cards that they will be expecting an invitation.
Just because they didn't call or check your website doesn't mean they don't care. A lot of people didn't call us or log onto our website.

Sassy Posted: Mar 06, 2003 10:14 AM

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Well, I'm such an idiot. I sent the STD to them b/c they were out of towners, and I felt obligated to invite them b/c our parents are friends. When I sat down, way after the fact, I realized I now have nothing in common w/them, and I was stupid to send the STD. And since I haven't heard from them in ages, I don't even want them there.

But you're all saying what I already knew was right. I have to send the invitations.
I guess I was just looking for a way out, but I hope they don't come at least

eroxgirl Posted: Mar 06, 2003 10:14 AM

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I think etiquette says if you send them STDs or invite them to an e-party, you have to invite them to your wedding. but honestly, when my MOH got married, she invited a few people to her e-party that she lost contact with afterwards and didn't invite them to her wedding. If you don't plan on keeping these people in your life then I wouldn't worry about inviting them. They could have made an effort to get in touch with you. And besides, you can always say that the invite was lost in the mail

Chloegirl Posted: Mar 06, 2003 10:15 AM

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This is a tough one....they probably will expect an invite so I would just send them one. However, if you don't plan on having any sort of relationship with them ever again then I guess it doesn't matter if you invite them or not.

Sassy Posted: Mar 06, 2003 10:17 AM

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Well, I probably would never speak to them again after the wedding
I haven't spoken to the guy in 10 years

stacey7-13 Posted: Mar 06, 2003 10:18 AM

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I am having the same situation. A college friend of mine disappeared from the planet a year ago. I sent him a STD even though we hadn't spoken in a few months. Well its been over a year and several of my college friends tried to call him but he hasnt responded to anyone...I took him off the list. Sad that he wont be there, but IMO he's made it evident he has no interest anyway.

alina Posted: Mar 06, 2003 10:21 AM

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Liz:

I agree, you should send an invite, but in all honesty, it doesn't sound like they would be interested in coming to the wedding anyway, so I wouldn't expect them to come. But for politeness reasons invite would be appropriate.

Betty Posted: Mar 06, 2003 10:21 AM

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WHY DID YOU SEND THE STD???? (hee-hee )

No really, I think now they will expect an invite. I didn't send STD to anyone I was unsure of b/c now I can invite them if I want and not invite them if I don't want to.

I think it would cause a rift between you if they don't get an invite but if you don't mind that than don't send it!!!!!

dcbride Posted: Mar 06, 2003 10:25 AM

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Since you already sent the STD I think you have to invite them. They may not even come. If after getting the std they made travel plans- or changed plans to be able to come they may flip out if they don't get an invite.

HappyEverAfter Posted: Mar 06, 2003 10:29 AM

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Sorry chica, I think you have to send them an invite now since you sent them a STD. I did not send STDs out to some people who I did not know if I was going to invite to the wedding...and one just emailed me asking where her STD was Once she gets that, its like a guarenteed invite to the wedding. Anyway, maybe your unwanted guests will sent a no back- at the very least you will be having such a fun time at your wonderful wedding you wont even notice if they are there or not

Ronnie&Theresa Posted: Mar 06, 2003 10:39 AM

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Don't send it..

If they can't SHOW respect to you to call you and congradulate you F them..

U know how I feel about these things..

My BM's husband who is a FIRST cousin isn't comming to my e party bc he is playing GOLF.. WELL he isn't Invited to my wedding EITHER...

DOn't SEND AN INVITE!

natasha Posted: Mar 06, 2003 10:58 AM

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Liz I understand how you feel about not wanting to invite them. But because you sent an STD, an invitation is expected to follow. That is though situation-- just follow your heart.

Sassy Posted: Mar 06, 2003 11:07 AM

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Thanks everyone.
My heart is NOT with these 2 people. I seriously don't want them there, and TRUST me, they did NOT make plans yet. They live in MASS, so they would Drive down.
My sister who is closer to them than I am just told me forget them.
I think that's exactly what I will do. It will not affect me one way or another if they are p-d off at me.

karenJ Posted: Mar 06, 2003 11:16 AM

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I agree with your decision Liz. I mailed out one of my invites to a couple who did not even congratulate me when I contacted them for their address. I deeply regret it now and cannot do anything except hope that they would reply as a 'NO'

Karen