tension b/w you and FH?

It'll all be over soon...make that your montra and try not to thnk about it too much. We all handle stress diferently and guys are terrible about it!

I can relate, I think it's just cycle's in your relationship and anytime you add stress, things can feel out of wack, just try to not focus on it too much, that sometimes only makes things worse. I know it won't be easy and you've proabably heard this one time to many, but try to relax, getting married only happens once and you want to remember as much as you can.

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Posted by hmm8191

It'll all be over soon...make that your montra and try not to thnk about it too much. We all handle stress diferently and guys are terrible about it!

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so true....I am not handling the stress well lately, lots of crying and FH's is expressing it as anger....we are not expressing at each or towards each other but it definitely IS a stressful time.

Welcome to my world- I can't have a day without tension with my FH= not really about the wedding itself but stupid stuff. You are both really stressed out and nervous. Oh, he didn't care about the cute clothes I got for the honeymoon either. It will be over soon and you'll be on your honeymoon and laugh about how silly you were. At least that's what I am hoping

We've had some, but it mostly has to do with moving my stuff into his place, having piles of junk laying around, and not enough time to take care of it all.

I expected we would snip at each other once I moved in though. It's hard to move into an established apartment on both parties, I think.

I was so upset with my FH last night. I have been sick all week but have had to work like a demon on my big annual work project. Then we have just moved into our old house that we are renovating and living in just a couple of rooms with mess everywhere. Then our ornery cat goes and pees on our 3-day old furniture and I just lost it when my FH didn't seem so concerned. I need a vacation away from it all.

I'm sure it's totally normal though. Getting married is one of the most stressful life changes you can go through.

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Posted by cjik

We've had some, but it mostly has to do with moving my stuff into his place, having piles of junk laying around, and not enough time to take care of it all.

It's hard to move into an established apartment on both parties, I think.

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SO with you there about the difficulty moving.....biggest stressor lately.

I have 22 more days it is getting a little crazy. I am trying to have him be 100 percent more patient with me than usual. He is trying he knows that I make a project out of EVERYTHING!!!
I keep telling him I will be normal on our honeymoon.

DH and I argued a lot...and when we weren't arguing, we were just plainly losing our cool. It DOES get very stressful and since (in our case) a lot of the problems have to be solved between the two of you, there's no one to vent or talk to...so it's normal to lose it. If you think about it, the person you turn to to make you feel better is usually your partner, but in this case you can't, so there's a lot of tension.

It's ALL worth it in the end though...hang in there!

I can relate....FI is taking the Bar exam this summer (three days before our wedding)... between him FREAKING out about studying and finding a job and me FREAKING out about wedding things our apartment is a tense place much of the time .. I know once these things are over and we are sitting on the beach on our honeymoon we will be our 'normal' selves again.

I think its normal, my FH and I fight over what to have for dinner lately. Its not 'cause where mad its just the stupid things. THank God only 50 day and no more stress

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Posted by cjik

We've had some, but it mostly has to do with moving my stuff into his place, having piles of junk laying around, and not enough time to take care of it all.

I expected we would snip at each other once I moved in though. It's hard to move into an established apartment on both parties, I think.

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I think that's going to be our situation. We can't seem to find a place to buy... so I'm going to have to move in with him after the wedding. He is a packrat, so I'm dreading the move.

Call me crazy, but, when I'm stressed out, I take my car, pop in Alanis Morrissette's (sp!) jagged little pill CD and scream/sing off my stress. It really, really works!

Yes, moving in to someone's established apartment is no breeze. We originally thought we would find a bigger place before, but once the reality of wedding planning sunk in, we realized there was no way. But it hasn't been all bad either--overall, I love living with him.

Last night we had a joint meltdown. We have to move my furniture tomorrow, and I had trouble with the rental truck, plus there is some other stuff we had to decide and take care of today. We are both exhausted (we just want an ounce of down time). We snipped at each other big time, then I cried and he felt bad and we made up. This morning he tells me he dreamed NYC was under attack--more likely we feel under attack. It seems like everyone wants us for something lately, we have my move to deal with, and the not so small matter of a wedding.

Not really.

My job and work load this school year caused more tension than wedding planning. FH also thinks it's ridiculous andd wished I wasn't a teacher so I could just quit and find something else.

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Posted by David'sbride

FH also thinks it's ridiculous andd wished I wasn't a teacher so I could just quit and find something else.

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Well tell him to make more money and make you a kept woman...hehe...I couldn't resist!

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Posted by hmm8191

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Posted by David'sbride

FH also thinks it's ridiculous andd wished I wasn't a teacher so I could just quit and find something else.

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Well tell him to make more money and make you a kept woman...hehe...I couldn't resist!

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I have. At this point I have worked my a$$ off for so many years I aspire to being a kept woman