'Thank You' card etiquette

'Thank You' card etiquette

For all the married women...and soon to be brides that may know the etiquette. Do you give all your wedding guests a 'Thank You' card although they did not give you a wedding gift? I had a few guests that did not give us a gift, or a wedding card, should we give them a card with our picture??? What does proper etiquette say? What would you do?

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You actually had people show up to the wedding and reception that did not give you a gift?? I find that very RUDE!!!!!! (Unless you knew about it before hand due to a money situation but still... I would not be able to attend someones wedding if I couldn't afford to give them a gift!!!) In my opinion I would not send them a thank you.... unless you just wanted to thank them for sharing your special day with you.

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Posted by SusiBtoM

That's a tough one.

I would probably send them an informal TY, NOT with a picture (why wast any more money on them), thanking them for attending.

Short and sweet
- Dear So & So
- Thank you for attending our wedding
signed Bride & Groom

How rude to attend a wedding and not give a gift.
Have these people been living under a rock all their lives.

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I agree and I couldn't stop with living under a rock.

I could never arrive at someone's home without something, let alone a wedding. So rude!

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A gift should never be expected but in this case they didn't even bring just a card with their well wishes. I don't know what I would do but FH says he wouldn't send one.

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Uggh double post

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Thanks for the replies. I didn't know guests had up to one year....good to know! I knew of at least 3 guests that could not afford a gift because of their financial situation and I wasn't expecting anything other than their presence and well wishes, so they're excused. As for the others (it was at least a handful)....DH and I were shocked to say the least!!! I had a lot of relatives from out of state, and country, that made a sacrifice to be there for us, so we will probably send them cards with no picture, just as a 'thanks for being there'. Then I have those guests that could not make it but were thoughtful enough to buy us something....so we have to make sure they have their pic!
Hard to believe but I think a lot has to do with culture. Some ppl may feel that their presence alone should be a gift to the couple. Nowadays, I don' t find anything surprising....but I was unsure about the thank you card. Thanks again!!!

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I think it is so RUDE to not bring a gift.... really... give me a break! I guess i would send them a 'thank you' for attending...so maybe it will give them a clue that they didn't bring a gift. And that whole year thing is ridiculous i think.... who waits a year to give a gift??? If you attended the wedding... bring it to the wedding!!! If someone didn't attend... that is a different story. And if they did attend the wedding and forgot to bring a gift... that should be in the mail or on your door step the next day. But some people are just dumb.

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The one year rule exists but i know it doesn't apply to the 3 losers that didn't give us a gift or card. DH and I are NOT sending them anything. I know these people will never send us the gift they said they'd send, therefore - no thank you card.

If within the next year they actually do send us something - that's when I'll send you a thank you card. For now, since I have nothing from you - you get nothing from me

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IMHO, the OOT guests who traveled in and spent some money to come should get a TY and pic, JMHO, as for the others, just a simple than you for attending will suffice. I will send a TY to every guest. As far as the 1 year rule, I believe it exists for a reason. I have 2 members of my BP that have lost jobs very recently. Do you think I should expect a gift, even tho they will be there for me on my day? I asked these people cause I wanted them to stand next to me, not a gift. But that is just me. I would never go to a wedding w/o a gift. But have fallen on hard times in the past and have had to decline friends wedding s because of it. I am sure they probably would have wanted me there regardless, but I just couldn't afford any of it! Sorry so long, I will step down off the soap box now!

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We have a bunch of people who didn't give us a gift. We are sending them thank you cards anyway. We didn't have the wedding to get back gifts! We appreciate everyone spending their day with us!

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