Thank You Card Oopsie
I think the stress is getting to me, because this is SO not like me at all, queen of the spreadsheets that I am. A couple of weeks ago we received a check with a no RSVP. It was from FMIL's cousin, wife, and family in SC so an expected no. They had wrote a note on the card that they were sorry they couldn't attend, they had family illness, etc.
So the check was made out to FH's name, because it's his relative, naturally. I didn't give FH the check, because he has a really bad habit of not cashing them, just puts them in a drawer, forgets he has them, then finds then 6 months and 1 day later when the bank won't cash them anymore...he screwed us out of an engagement gift that way. So I didn't give him the check until I knew I could supervise him cashing it. I know that sounds horrible and shrew-ish, but fool me once...
So anyways, normally I would send a thank you card immediately after receiving a gift in the mail, because I don't intend on sending out the photo thank yous to guests who said no but sent a gift with their RSVP (all whopping two of them lol). But for some reason, I didn't add a 'thank you sent' column in my spreadsheet, and I cannot remember for the life of me if I sent one! Part of me says I must have, because it's not like me to not send it immediately, but the other part of me wonders if I didn't because the check wasn't cashed yet, or I was waiting for FH to be around to sign it? I legitimately cannot remember if I sent a card.
So what would you do? I'm in a damned if I do, damned if I don't situation...if I don't send another(???) card, I look ungrateful. If I do send it, and I actually had sent one a few weeks ago, I look like an idiot!
I'm kinda leaning towards sending them a photo card afterwards with the generic we wish you would have been here to celebrate our day blah blah blah...does this seem like the safest bet so I don't look like a moron?
So the check was made out to FH's name, because it's his relative, naturally. I didn't give FH the check, because he has a really bad habit of not cashing them, just puts them in a drawer, forgets he has them, then finds then 6 months and 1 day later when the bank won't cash them anymore...he screwed us out of an engagement gift that way. So I didn't give him the check until I knew I could supervise him cashing it. I know that sounds horrible and shrew-ish, but fool me once...
So anyways, normally I would send a thank you card immediately after receiving a gift in the mail, because I don't intend on sending out the photo thank yous to guests who said no but sent a gift with their RSVP (all whopping two of them lol). But for some reason, I didn't add a 'thank you sent' column in my spreadsheet, and I cannot remember for the life of me if I sent one! Part of me says I must have, because it's not like me to not send it immediately, but the other part of me wonders if I didn't because the check wasn't cashed yet, or I was waiting for FH to be around to sign it? I legitimately cannot remember if I sent a card.
So what would you do? I'm in a damned if I do, damned if I don't situation...if I don't send another(???) card, I look ungrateful. If I do send it, and I actually had sent one a few weeks ago, I look like an idiot!
I'm kinda leaning towards sending them a photo card afterwards with the generic we wish you would have been here to celebrate our day blah blah blah...does this seem like the safest bet so I don't look like a moron?
