Thank You Question

Ok so there was a couple that we received no gift from - no card - nothing. And we knew it wasnt a matter of affording it etc.

So DH decides to finally mention it to his Mom and she informs him that they usually send a gift (and there usually late with it).

So my question is - since we're working on Thank Yous - do i send them one to thank them for attending then if they send a gift - another TY for that. Or do i wait and see if they send a gift?

Is the point of a TY about the gift - or the attendance of the event

Thanks girls

i would send a thank you ' thank you for sharing our special day with us'

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Posted by Browneyesncute

i would send a thank you ' thank you for sharing our special day with us'

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Do i send them a wedding thank you? Then what if they send a gift - so i send them a different thank you card for that?

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Posted by Cindyrella

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Posted by Browneyesncute

i would send a thank you ' thank you for sharing our special day with us'

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Do i send them a wedding thank you? Then what if they send a gift - so i send them a different thank you card for that?

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well i'm an evil person lol i would send the first thank you so they feel a little bad about not giving u a gift You look like the better person... if they send u a gift late just pick up a thank u from the store!

I would send them a thank you. It really shouldn't be about the gift. Just thank them for coming to celebrate the start of your new life together.

The only reason I realized that some people hadn't given a gift is when I recieved cards in the mail from them. I mean I guess I would have noticed when I did that thank yous, havent started them yet, but I really don't care if someone didn't give a gift.

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Posted by KSquared

I would send them a thank you. It really shouldn't be about the gift. Just thank them for coming to celebrate the start of your new life together.

The only reason I realized that some people hadn't given a gift is when I recieved cards in the mail from them. I mean I guess I would have noticed when I did that thank yous, havent started them yet, but I really don't care if someone didn't give a gift.

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Until DH asked his Mom - we assumed an envelope got lost or stolen and then we felt bad if we sent a TY for coming and to not acknowlege a gift if they sent one.

So would you send a 2nd thank you card if they wind up sending a gift later on?

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Posted by Cindyrella

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Posted by KSquared

I would send them a thank you. It really shouldn't be about the gift. Just thank them for coming to celebrate the start of your new life together.

The only reason I realized that some people hadn't given a gift is when I recieved cards in the mail from them. I mean I guess I would have noticed when I did that thank yous, havent started them yet, but I really don't care if someone didn't give a gift.

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Until DH asked his Mom - we assumed an envelope got lost or stolen and then we felt bad if we sent a TY for coming and to not acknowlege a gift if they sent one.

So would you send a 2nd thank you card if they wind up sending a gift later on?

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I would send one know thanking them for coming. Maybe they forgot to send the card or something and it will help them remember...

and then if they do send something you can just a send a regular thank you for the gift. I just think it might create a weird situation if others get thank yous and they dont.

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Posted by KSquared

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Posted by Cindyrella

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Posted by KSquared

I would send them a thank you. It really shouldn't be about the gift. Just thank them for coming to celebrate the start of your new life together.

The only reason I realized that some people hadn't given a gift is when I recieved cards in the mail from them. I mean I guess I would have noticed when I did that thank yous, havent started them yet, but I really don't care if someone didn't give a gift.

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Until DH asked his Mom - we assumed an envelope got lost or stolen and then we felt bad if we sent a TY for coming and to not acknowlege a gift if they sent one.

So would you send a 2nd thank you card if they wind up sending a gift later on?

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I would send one know thanking them for coming. Maybe they forgot to send the card or something and it will help them remember...

and then if they do send something you can just a send a regular thank you for the gift. I just think it might create a weird situation if others get thank yous and they dont.

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Thats what i was thinking if i waited to send one - then they might hear about someone else getting one.

Thanks