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kellybean
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alright you can not invite me I know you dont love me any more ........ ok on a serious not...if someone is a FRIEND they would go out of the way to make sure their friends are at their weddings etc.......if you are hurt at not being at theirs there is no reason for them to be at yours
madseason
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when we were making lists i made one, mom made one, and fmil made one....those ppl were the firsts to go bc my list came first (i am paying for the hall)
one of the things that helpd me decide is that i had to be able to ;pick them out in a room or a photo,....if i didnt know them, they were xd off..
BUTT........
my mom sent them all STDs anyway
Snick n Nick
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We are inviting *some* people who didn't invite us to their weddings, but FH's family is really big so most weddings not all cousins are invited to. It's kind of standard that all the married cousins are invited but younger ones not so much--the only younger ones we are inviting are the ones FH is close to.
In your case, however, if you have other ppl you want to invite instead, I would invite the other people....my dad got over us not inviting all of his cousins' children (yes he wanted that!), yours will too!
eta: the old friends, that's really up to your discretion....do you see them in your future?
angl2001
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yeah we r paying for the hall ourselves..but some of these people i wouldnt know if i saw them on the street....some i have nevr even met!!!
as for the friends i have some friends who i used to be close with hat know about the wedding and have talked with me about it and what not but didnt invite me to any weddings, baby showers etc...i dont want to offend anyone but im looking at it as well..u didnt invite me so tough!! lol maybe thats wrong...i guess i really dont care if they come or not lol as long as the people i really want there show up i am happy! these are just secondary people lol
roan126
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I'd invite the people you really want to. If you are not close to the relatives and were not invited to their wedding, then they can't expect to be invited to yours.
madseason
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Posted by angl2001
yeah we r paying for the hall ourselves..but some of these people i wouldnt know if i saw them on the street....some i have nevr even met!!!
as for the friends i have some friends who i used to be close with hat know about the wedding and have talked with me about it and what not but didnt invite me to any weddings, baby showers etc...i dont want to offend anyone but im looking at it as well..u didnt invite me so tough!! lol maybe thats wrong...i guess i really dont care if they come or not lol as long as the people i really want there show up i am happy! these are just secondary people lol
honestly...just invite who u want to...imnot dragging my mom with to to tables bc i dont know who i am talking to....u kno?
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None of my friends are married yet! I'm also the oldest of my cousins and the first to be getting married on my side of the family....
The only wedding I can think of that I wasnt invited to was my aunt's.... I was 2. It was an evening wedding.
I know there are people you feel you need to invite out of obligation, but I think the obligation is lessened if they didnt invite you. However, in situations where you weren't close at the time but have become closer in the time span after their wedding, I would still invite them.
If you have a limited guest list, focus on the people you actually want there.
heathermatt
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we are inviting some but FH and I used to work together and that list there are a couple we are ify about inviting just for the fact we were not invited to theirs..
MayWeddingGrl
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To quote a wise friend of mine. 'Invite those that you want at your wedding and that you intend to stay friends with afterwards.'
so don't invite someone just because they invited you to their wedding. You might have lost touch with them, so you are not obligated to invite them back.
Also, if you and your FI are paying for this wedding yourselves, you should have the final say in who you want there... so don't feel obligated to invite people you have never even met even if its extended family.
my brother had a similar situtation and my parents agreed that if they HAD to have extra people there that my brother could not agree on then they would put out the money for those guests
flairforfashion
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I know someone who said it the best:
'I only care to invite friends that have been in my life for the past 5 years and I can see them being in my life for the next 5 years/'
TheFutureMrsM
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We sent our STD's out very early, to all of my family and FH's family.
Then Someone in FH's family sent out their STD's a few months after, and we never got one, nor did we even get an invite.
But i guess they had to cut the guest list, but i duno i just thought if you get an STD in the mail first to a wedding dont you invite that person to yours if your weddng is before them?
PreshusSmurf
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we had a couple that we *thought* we considered to be friends of ours ... dh had known the groom since elementary school, and they did not invite us to their wedding. he got married a year before we did.
they *would* have been on our list ...
we did not invite them.
angl2001
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Posted by PreshusSmurf
we had a couple that we *thought* we considered to be friends of ours ... dh had known the groom since elementary school, and they did not invite us to their wedding. he got married a year before we did.
they *would* have been on our list ...
we did not invite them.
OMG I ALMOST PISSED MYSELF WHEN SAW YOUR AVATAR thats hysterical!!! lol thanks to you now i have to go clean coffee off my computer screen and out of my nose!!!!!!!!!!!
angl2001
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Thanks ladies!
MikeandJess
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this was a tough situation, when my cousins got married I was still a kid and I wasn't invited to any of their weddings and I resented it until I started planning my wedding and realized we're not inviting kids either. Trying not to be a hypocrite, I decided to invite them to my wedding.
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This is tough....I mean, some people are on strict budgets and can only invite a minimal amount of people....others can invite the world. I wouldn't think of it as inviting someone that invited you....I'd invite who I really want and that's it.
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Posted by kellybean
alright you can not invite me I know you dont love me any more ........ ok on a serious not...if someone is a FRIEND they would go out of the way to make sure their friends are at their weddings etc.......if you are hurt at not being at theirs there is no reason for them to be at yours
agree completely! if there is no effort being made for you to be at theirs - there is no reason you should make an effort to bring them to yours.
PreshusSmurf
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Posted by PreshusSmurf
we had a couple that we *thought* we considered to be friends of ours ... dh had known the groom since elementary school, and they did not invite us to their wedding. he got married a year before we did.
they *would* have been on our list ...
we did not invite them.
OMG I ALMOST PISSED MYSELF WHEN SAW YOUR AVATAR thats hysterical!!! lol thanks to you now i have to go clean coffee off my computer screen and out of my nose!!!!!!!!!!!
Hey, every one needs a good laugh!
angl2001
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Posted by kellybean
alright you can not invite me I know you dont love me any more ........ ok on a serious not...if someone is a FRIEND they would go out of the way to make sure their friends are at their weddings etc.......if you are hurt at not being at theirs there is no reason for them to be at yours
agree completely! if there is no effort being made for you to be at theirs - there is no reason you should make an effort to bring them to yours.
