'THE DATE ' update on phone convo

Good morning all. I kno we are all waiting to hear my little update but first i wanna say thank you to all of u for the fm messages and posts b/c you all know that I have been going threw so many changes and emotions lately that the support from you guys who are 'technically' strangers really mean alot to me. Everyone has been amazing and all the advice has made me see things clearly when at times I really wanna just breakdown and cy from the pressure...

anyways enough of that mushy stuff and back to 'the date'...

He called me last nite and we chatted for a bit about casual stuff b4 he kinda told me what has been going on.. Basically the stress he is under is job related thank g-d not ex wife, ex gf, drug or alcohol related. i will keep the details on that short b/c its kinda private issues he is dealing with at this job..due to the stress he is under he was really busy, and then the clincher..is that 'he thinks I am a total sweetheart and hes sooo glad he met me' but he just started to get worried b/c things were moving so fast (mind u he set the pace not me, but we have all gone over how weird men r about that--and i didnt throw it in his face TOO much lol) between us that he is having a hard time dealing with all the other things in his life. but he def. wants to keep seeing me he just wants to take things slower.. he apologized numerous times for not getting back to me sooner and he also apologized for not telling me how he was feeling b4 the fact instead of after making me lost as to what the situation was..so all in all the convo did resolve the situation and make it clearer on where we stand,...basically i told him it was not a problem.. we both recently got out of serious relationships and that taking it slow will not ruin anything if this is something that is ment to be..i tried to keep the tone casual b/c its not worth getting nuts over, i will just leave the ball in his court and as i think Don said'let him chase me'..that way when hes got some free time, i can chill with him and show him just how fabulous i am LOL!!!

now to b honest this is how i feel..and i can tell u all this but obviously not him.. i think hes a great guy and i m definitly willing to see where this leads but in due time. obviously we r both just out of things that have maybe jaded us and i truly think he originally went into this not expecting to like me..maybe he figured ahhh shes young, whatever im on the rebound what a great booty call..and then when he saw omg we actually click so well this isnt just a piece of a$$ now he wants to slow down, take our time, and see where it leads..thats kinda the impression i m getting...yet like many of u have said, do not put all my eggs into one basket...only time will tell and i m really putting it into fates hand b/c i dont think worrying like i have been is a smart idea. i cant control many things and if this is ment to go someplace then it will, i cant control it..mind u i think i was told to calm down i worry too much like 6 times yesterday so maybe i should head that warning..oh and i also plan on just letting him call me, hey if he wanted to see me more he has the number LOL..when we hung up tho he did say he would call me today and that he promises we will see each other soon, so hey its in gods hand now!! LOL

anyways throw the advice and comments at me, and once againthanks for everything you guys!!

love ya all!!!!

SEE....you gotta think positive! Talk it slow, enjoy the time you spend with him BUT don't sit around and wait for him!!

I agree...let him chase you!

I think it all sounds like a good thing....

You were a little concerned about moving too quickly also, right?

I think it's nice that he's being honest with you and I think you're probably right on the ball with what you said about him figuring he had a great booty call and then he realized you were so much more than that!

Take it slow, see where it goes!

That doesn't sound so bad! I'm glad you at least know what is going on now.

My DH did a similar thing to me...we met coming out of long relationships, and things went way too fast - after a week it felt like we'd known each other a year! So he backed off out of fear and we broke up totally for a month. Then we slowly - SLOWLY started seeing each other again casually and it worked.

The important thing to remember is that you don't take yourself off the market right now! Make use of all your opportunities to meet new guys!

Wow Michi ... that conversation really went well, esp. considering how badly you though it might have gone..... I'm glad he was so honest and upfront with you. A+ for 'the date'

I agree with what everyone else has said... I think that 'Time will tell' and I truly believe it sounds as though this guy really does care about you, but is just so scared...just like you are. It gets so much harder once you've gotten out of bad relationships and you've been hurt. Its scary when you meet someone and never thought you'd 'like' them seriously, and they all of a sudden you click and you weren't expecting that!

I think this conversation was a VERY Positive step in the right direction.. Its a heatlhy thing for YOU also! It keeps your doors and your options 'open' and allows you to find yourself right now

Sweetie, take some advice from this 'old lady' : You are still so young and right now you should focus on YOU and living your life as a single girl. Find what things make YOU happy.. it does not require a man to bring you happines, but you know this. I hope this situation develops into something more, that will be wonderful ..but in the meantime, take this opportunity to explore different things and meet different people . And just let 'the date' chase you like everyone else has been saying!

I hope you are feeling better today after the conversation and now you can head into the weekend with a brighter outlook

Does this mean we don't get to guess his name???

Well at least he was upfront with you. This may actually be a good thing, you can start fresh and go out and start dating again and who knows this may still work out.

Dont give up sweetie, Mr. Right is out there waiting for you!!

That is awesome. Taking things slow isnt so bad. It will give him time to sort out the things in his life that arent going so well, and it will also give him time to learn more about you and why you and him would be a great couple. It is obvious that he likes you. If he didnt he probably never would of called you back or he would of told you that this wasnt working out between the two of you.

I wish you luck, and I hope things work out between the two of you....
Scott

I am glad all is working out ok!!!