Okay, so I'm going away with a few of my girlfriends in a week to Las Vegas, and the FI is giving me a guilt trip - not a nasty one but a 'I'm going to miss you, I wish I can go, etc, etc, etc.' I feel terrible, but he couldn't go b/c of his work schedule (he's in Baseball, and duh, it's Baseball Season.)
Should I not have done this? I go away every single year w/my friends and then away with him, I didn't think it would change b/c we're engaged....what would you do?
snowprincess805
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go have your fun -in most solid relationships you will see the husband and wife each doing their own thing
it is good for him to miss you - i am going to Vegas in a few weeks with friends too - my FH understands and sees it as a time to hang out with the guys
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I'm actually on the other end.. my FI is going away to Vegas in August with 18 of his closest friends.. and I'm staying home. But I'm ok with it, I could use some alone time!!!! Added bonus, my family will be away during the same time! Total relaxation!
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i agree. its healthy in every relationship to do your own thing with the girls eveyr now and then, and of course he is going to miss you, but its healthy in a relationship.
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You should definitely go! He will miss you, but I'm sure he gets time with the boys too. And absence makes the heart grow fonder!
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Of course you should go!! It is healthy for him to miss you a little. I go to Florida 3-4 times a year to visit family, and FH and I find that being apart always spices things up a little!
Have fun in Vegas
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It's sweet that he's gonna miss you and you're gonna miss him, but it's good for you. Def go and have a great time, just be sure not to gamble everything away! And make sure you bring him back some nice souvenirs so he knows you were thinking of him.
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Posted by ChristineAEid
Okay, so I'm going away with a few of my girlfriends in a week to Las Vegas, and the FI is giving me a guilt trip - not a nasty one but a 'I'm going to miss you, I wish I can go, etc, etc, etc.' I feel terrible, but he couldn't go b/c of his work schedule (he's in Baseball, and duh, it's Baseball Season.)
Should I not have done this? I go away every single year w/my friends and then away with him, I didn't think it would change b/c we're engaged....what would you do?
I'm going to Vegas next week with my sister and cousin to see Celine Dion. It's something I know DH wouldn't want to come with me to do. Yes, he's said the same things but I know he wouldn't be happy if I dragged him to Vegas to see Celine.
BTW: I went to Florida this past weekend with HIS sisters and left him. I felt more terrible than he did. I feel bad because that was the first time I was not sleeping with DH since I got married. You're not doing anything wrong.
Remember: 'Absence makes the heart grow fonder'
ChrissynRicky
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Posted by ChristineAEid
Okay, so I'm going away with a few of my girlfriends in a week to Las Vegas, and the FI is giving me a guilt trip - not a nasty one but a 'I'm going to miss you, I wish I can go, etc, etc, etc.' I feel terrible, but he couldn't go b/c of his work schedule (he's in Baseball, and duh, it's Baseball Season.)
Should I not have done this? I go away every single year w/my friends and then away with him, I didn't think it would change b/c we're engaged....what would you do?
I'm going to Vegas next week with my sister and cousin to see Celine Dion. It's something I know DH wouldn't want to come with me to do. Yes, he's said the same things but I know he wouldn't be happy if I dragged him to Vegas to see Celine.
BTW: I went to Florida this past weekend with HIS sisters and left him. I felt more terrible than he did. I feel bad because that was the first time I was not sleeping with DH since I got married. You're not doing anything wrong.
Remember: 'Absence makes the heart grow fonder'
OMG! I'm going to be there 4/27 through 5/1 - where are you staying????
Goldi1021
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Do what you want. My FH goes to Vegas with his Fantasy Football friends for their draft. He also has what he calls 'Guys Weekend' where he and a dozen of his friends rent a house upstate somewhere, drink, eat and fart. Do I stop him? No. I need my space too. You cannot be attached at the hip all the time.
I believe the reason why my parents are married so long (49 years) is because Dad did his thing and Mom did hers.
snowprincess805
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OMG! I'm going to be there 4/27 through 5/1 - where are you staying????
i am going from the 28th to the 1st staying at New York New York for a bachlorette party
