So once again I am indecisive and don't know if I like my wedding band anymore and am thinking of returning it... I have plenty of time to get a wedding band so I think for peace of mind I am just going to return it so I don't keep thinking 'Why did I buy this' for 9 months......UGH..Why do I do the things I do!?! Why can't I just make an actual decision and stick with it?
Oh and I told FH how I think I want to get a different e-ring so he took me to look and as we are looking I decide I love mine and want to keep it... and now today I am thinking maybe I don't love it and want to change it... UM SHOOT ME I am nuts.
I know its a weird thing to vent over, but I really annoy myself lately.
meara
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No it's not weird, I think it's just hard to make decisions that you know will be forever . . .
what I do when I can't make decisions is toss a coin. . then the trick is to not let the actual coin decide, but see if you are happy or not with the answer. . so like you say tails, exchange it, and your rx is 'yes!' then you know that's what you want and if it's like 'hmm, maybe I should do this again' then chances are you really want to keep it!
It might not work for you, but who knows!
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do you buy things on impulse? maybe thats why its happening
Usually I search alot and look at just about every style for things and then when i see something that makes me even stop looking any further and my gut just says 'THATS IT THATS THE ONE' then i get it, well for important things lol. Sometimes you still need to even give yourself a little time after that and usually one thing will constantly pop back into your mind and you cant stop thinking about it
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Posted by meara
No it's not weird, I think it's just hard to make decisions that you know will be forever . . .
what I do when I can't make decisions is toss a coin. . then the trick is to not let the actual coin decide, but see if you are happy or not with the answer. . so like you say tails, exchange it, and your rx is 'yes!' then you know that's what you want and if it's like 'hmm, maybe I should do this again' then chances are you really want to keep it!
It might not work for you, but who knows!
I tried your trick... its a good one. I got tails 'dont return it' and I was like.. hmmm.. not sure about that lol. I am going to return it. I know I sound pscyho but I have many months so if i end up wanting it I can always go buy it another time. Its not like I got it on sale or anything.
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Posted by meara
No it's not weird, I think it's just hard to make decisions that you know will be forever . . .
what I do when I can't make decisions is toss a coin. . then the trick is to not let the actual coin decide, but see if you are happy or not with the answer. . so like you say tails, exchange it, and your rx is 'yes!' then you know that's what you want and if it's like 'hmm, maybe I should do this again' then chances are you really want to keep it!
It might not work for you, but who knows!
I tried your trick... its a good one. I got tails 'dont return it' and I was like.. hmmm.. not sure about that lol. I am going to return it. I know I sound pscyho but I have many months so if i end up wanting it I can always go buy it another time. Its not like I got it on sale or anything.
glad it worked - and I say go return it for sure then. . b/c you are right, you can always get it again and you will just keep thinking about it you're crazy about it - and you should be!! Just don't buy another one till you're sure!
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Posted by Espo22
do you buy things on impulse? maybe thats why its happening
Usually I search alot and look at just about every style for things and then when i see something that makes me even stop looking any further and my gut just says 'THATS IT THATS THE ONE' then i get it, well for important things lol. Sometimes you still need to even give yourself a little time after that and usually one thing will constantly pop back into your mind and you cant stop thinking about it
Come to think of it I do buy on impulse alot however I have been looking around at wedding bands for a while and I dont really like anything i try on. I liked this one so I figured it was the one but now I am thinking im not totally in love with it. I dont know how FH deals with me.
I just really annoy the crap out of myself lately. No matter what I do or what I buy or basically anything I second guess myself so much that I am starting to drive myself insane. I am starting to feel like I dont really know what I like ever
Espo22
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Posted by Espo22
do you buy things on impulse? maybe thats why its happening
Usually I search alot and look at just about every style for things and then when i see something that makes me even stop looking any further and my gut just says 'THATS IT THATS THE ONE' then i get it, well for important things lol. Sometimes you still need to even give yourself a little time after that and usually one thing will constantly pop back into your mind and you cant stop thinking about it
Come to think of it I do buy on impulse alot however I have been looking around at wedding bands for a while and I dont really like anything i try on. I liked this one so I figured it was the one but now I am thinking im not totally in love with it. I dont know how FH deals with me.
I just really annoy the crap out of myself lately. No matter what I do or what I buy or basically anything I second guess myself so much that I am starting to drive myself insane. I am starting to feel like I dont really know what I like ever
I do understand the whole looking around for the longest time and not finding anything you like and then seeing something that you say ok thats something finally decent, not bad so i guess i should go with it. BUt unless you get that OMG feeling i say dont go for it. Not small things obviously but something such as a wedding band. I remember when i was looking online and in magazines for a wedding dress, i honestly didnt like anything i was seeing, some i said ok not bad, or oh thats pretty but not WOW. I finally saw 1 dress i said oh i like this one alot and kept thinking about it. When I went dress shopping I had that dress on my mind so much that i was sure thats what i was going to get, i even tried it on at the store and couldnt get past it. Then i tried another dress on that flattered me alot more, was gorgeous but i kept thinking, well that other one was the only dress when searching that i saw i like so maybe i should go with that. Well in the end i didnt go with it and glad now that i didnt. So dont just go for the first thing you like after searching for a while. Wait until you get that WOW factor and you know that is it and nothing will compare.
Then when you buy it, stop looking
JennyAPH
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Posted by Espo22
Posted by gporka23
Posted by Espo22
do you buy things on impulse? maybe thats why its happening
Usually I search alot and look at just about every style for things and then when i see something that makes me even stop looking any further and my gut just says 'THATS IT THATS THE ONE' then i get it, well for important things lol. Sometimes you still need to even give yourself a little time after that and usually one thing will constantly pop back into your mind and you cant stop thinking about it
Come to think of it I do buy on impulse alot however I have been looking around at wedding bands for a while and I dont really like anything i try on. I liked this one so I figured it was the one but now I am thinking im not totally in love with it. I dont know how FH deals with me.
I just really annoy the crap out of myself lately. No matter what I do or what I buy or basically anything I second guess myself so much that I am starting to drive myself insane. I am starting to feel like I dont really know what I like ever
I do understand the whole looking around for the longest time and not finding anything you like and then seeing something that you say ok thats something finally decent, not bad so i guess i should go with it. BUt unless you get that OMG feeling i say dont go for it. Not small things obviously but something such as a wedding band. I remember when i was looking online and in magazines for a wedding dress, i honestly didnt like anything i was seeing, some i said ok not bad, or oh thats pretty but not WOW. I finally saw 1 dress i said oh i like this one alot and kept thinking about it. When I went dress shopping I had that dress on my mind so much that i was sure thats what i was going to get, i even tried it on at the store and couldnt get past it. Then i tried another dress on that flattered me alot more, was gorgeous but i kept thinking, well that other one was the only dress when searching that i saw i like so maybe i should go with that. Well in the end i didnt go with it and glad now that i didnt. So dont just go for the first thing you like after searching for a while. Wait until you get that WOW factor and you know that is it and nothing will compare.
Then when you buy it, stop looking
Very good advice!! Thank you! I did see one ring that makes me say wow love it!! But its $3,500 ... and that is totally out of my budget!!!
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Posted by gporka23
Posted by Espo22
do you buy things on impulse? maybe thats why its happening
Usually I search alot and look at just about every style for things and then when i see something that makes me even stop looking any further and my gut just says 'THATS IT THATS THE ONE' then i get it, well for important things lol. Sometimes you still need to even give yourself a little time after that and usually one thing will constantly pop back into your mind and you cant stop thinking about it
Come to think of it I do buy on impulse alot however I have been looking around at wedding bands for a while and I dont really like anything i try on. I liked this one so I figured it was the one but now I am thinking im not totally in love with it. I dont know how FH deals with me.
I just really annoy the crap out of myself lately. No matter what I do or what I buy or basically anything I second guess myself so much that I am starting to drive myself insane. I am starting to feel like I dont really know what I like ever
I do understand the whole looking around for the longest time and not finding anything you like and then seeing something that you say ok thats something finally decent, not bad so i guess i should go with it. BUt unless you get that OMG feeling i say dont go for it. Not small things obviously but something such as a wedding band. I remember when i was looking online and in magazines for a wedding dress, i honestly didnt like anything i was seeing, some i said ok not bad, or oh thats pretty but not WOW. I finally saw 1 dress i said oh i like this one alot and kept thinking about it. When I went dress shopping I had that dress on my mind so much that i was sure thats what i was going to get, i even tried it on at the store and couldnt get past it. Then i tried another dress on that flattered me alot more, was gorgeous but i kept thinking, well that other one was the only dress when searching that i saw i like so maybe i should go with that. Well in the end i didnt go with it and glad now that i didnt. So dont just go for the first thing you like after searching for a while. Wait until you get that WOW factor and you know that is it and nothing will compare.
Then when you buy it, stop looking
Very good advice!! Thank you! I did see one ring that makes me say wow love it!! But its $3,500 ... and that is totally out of my budget!!!
where did you see it? for example i went to fortunoff and they were charging alot, i went to regular jewelry stores and for the EXACT same thing it was like half the price. SO i say go elsewhere and see if you can get the same ring for alot less
JennyAPH
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Posted by gporka23
Posted by Espo22
Posted by gporka23
Posted by Espo22
do you buy things on impulse? maybe thats why its happening
Usually I search alot and look at just about every style for things and then when i see something that makes me even stop looking any further and my gut just says 'THATS IT THATS THE ONE' then i get it, well for important things lol. Sometimes you still need to even give yourself a little time after that and usually one thing will constantly pop back into your mind and you cant stop thinking about it
Come to think of it I do buy on impulse alot however I have been looking around at wedding bands for a while and I dont really like anything i try on. I liked this one so I figured it was the one but now I am thinking im not totally in love with it. I dont know how FH deals with me.
I just really annoy the crap out of myself lately. No matter what I do or what I buy or basically anything I second guess myself so much that I am starting to drive myself insane. I am starting to feel like I dont really know what I like ever
I do understand the whole looking around for the longest time and not finding anything you like and then seeing something that you say ok thats something finally decent, not bad so i guess i should go with it. BUt unless you get that OMG feeling i say dont go for it. Not small things obviously but something such as a wedding band. I remember when i was looking online and in magazines for a wedding dress, i honestly didnt like anything i was seeing, some i said ok not bad, or oh thats pretty but not WOW. I finally saw 1 dress i said oh i like this one alot and kept thinking about it. When I went dress shopping I had that dress on my mind so much that i was sure thats what i was going to get, i even tried it on at the store and couldnt get past it. Then i tried another dress on that flattered me alot more, was gorgeous but i kept thinking, well that other one was the only dress when searching that i saw i like so maybe i should go with that. Well in the end i didnt go with it and glad now that i didnt. So dont just go for the first thing you like after searching for a while. Wait until you get that WOW factor and you know that is it and nothing will compare.
Then when you buy it, stop looking
Very good advice!! Thank you! I did see one ring that makes me say wow love it!! But its $3,500 ... and that is totally out of my budget!!!
where did you see it? for example i went to fortunoff and they were charging alot, i went to regular jewelry stores and for the EXACT same thing it was like half the price. SO i say go elsewhere and see if you can get the same ring for alot less
I saw it at the Jewler where I got my ring. Its because its a hearts on fire ring and those diamonds are expensive...Its the band that goes with my e-ring and FH told me to get it but I am trying to budget for everything else.. so I will wait and see.
