They're going to be bored...RANT

My mother spoke to one of my aunts about the wedding. Mind you, I have 9 aunts and 23 cousins. Its bad enough my half of the guest list is humongous, I cant be inviting my cousins boyfriends who Ive never met or met only once. My mother mentions to her how her daughters wont be able to bring their boyfriends (one is 16 and one is 24) and my aunt replies, 'Really? They're gonna be bored' How rude is that??? It really hit me hard because one thing Im really looking forward to is the whole family being together and partying for the first time in a long time together and you tell me 'Theyre going to be bored'???
People say the stupidest sh it sometimes...especially family

Am I horrible for not inviting my young cousins boyfriends?

dont let that get to you... people need to think before they open therir mouths! that was a stupid comment to make.. who is bored at a wedding.. esp when you know half the people there?

and anyway.. a 16 yr old should not be coming witha bf anyway..

my cousin told me that she'd be bored without a date i was like... then stay home.
what the hell is wrong with people??

That's ridiculous.... and rude!!! I'd be upset too. You don't have to invite anyone with dates!!!

The only reason I am is that I am worried I won't make my minimum!!

i know guest lists can be hard with limits, but i am allowing the older relatives 18 and up to bring a guest, yes....
but hey its your wedding, but a 24 year old cant bring a guest?.... I mean i understand you'd have to do it for all then, and that will be too much, but can also see the other side... Hope everything works out

Thats what Im saying. IM inviting my 25 year old cousins boyfriend because they live together and have 2 children. Now THATS serious. My other cousins have a new boyfriend every couple of years!!! I still hate the fact that I HAVE to invite my sisters boyfriend who she just got back with and found out by my cousin that he was saying how much he hates my FH when he only met him once. And FH hates him because he treated my sister like dirt the first time they were together...But Im not supposed to know about that

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Posted by AmandaLynn04

That's ridiculous.... and rude!!! I'd be upset too. You don't have to invite anyone with dates!!!

The only reason I am is that I am worried I won't make my minimum!!

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I'll lend you some people from my guest list!!!

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Posted by Songstress1212

My mother spoke to one of my aunts about the wedding. Mind you, I have 9 aunts and 23 cousins. Its bad enough my half of the guest list is humongous, I cant be inviting my cousins boyfriends who Ive never met or met only once. My mother mentions to her how her daughters wont be able to bring their boyfriends (one is 16 and one is 24) and my aunt replies, 'Really? They're gonna be bored' How rude is that??? It really hit me hard because one thing Im really looking forward to is the whole family being together and partying for the first time in a long time together and you tell me 'Theyre going to be bored'???
People say the stupidest sh it sometimes...especially family

Am I horrible for not inviting my young cousins boyfriends?

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ummm so what 16 year old isnt bored! i wouldn't sweat it- its one of the little things you can ignore- she'll get over it.

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Posted by Teamhurldon

i know guest lists can be hard with limits, but i am allowing the older relatives 18 and up to bring a guest, yes....
but hey its your wedding, but a 24 year old cant bring a guest?.... I mean i understand you'd have to do it for all then, and that will be too much, but can also see the other side... Hope everything works out

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we're only inviting people in a relationship with a guest this includes people over the age of 30. if we didnt do it this way, we'd have to eliminate people we really want to be there, just so others could bring a date...

the way i see it... they will have their family there, and other single people to hang out with so they shouldnt be 'bored' or whatever.

I mean,no one should NEED a date in order to have a good time.

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Posted by bemyyoko

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Posted by Teamhurldon

i know guest lists can be hard with limits, but i am allowing the older relatives 18 and up to bring a guest, yes....
but hey its your wedding, but a 24 year old cant bring a guest?.... I mean i understand you'd have to do it for all then, and that will be too much, but can also see the other side... Hope everything works out

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we're only inviting people in a relationship with a guest this includes people over the age of 30. if we didnt do it this way, we'd have to eliminate people we really want to be there, just so others could bring a date...

the way i see it... they will have their family there, and other single people to hang out with so they shouldnt be 'bored' or whatever.

I mean,no one should NEED a date in order to have a good time.

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We have a really similar situation. I feel the same way about not being able to invite very important people because of other people bringing dates. It makes me feel better to know someone else is doing the same thing IM doing...

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Posted by Songstress1212

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Posted by bemyyoko

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Posted by Teamhurldon

i know guest lists can be hard with limits, but i am allowing the older relatives 18 and up to bring a guest, yes....
but hey its your wedding, but a 24 year old cant bring a guest?.... I mean i understand you'd have to do it for all then, and that will be too much, but can also see the other side... Hope everything works out

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we're only inviting people in a relationship with a guest this includes people over the age of 30. if we didnt do it this way, we'd have to eliminate people we really want to be there, just so others could bring a date...

the way i see it... they will have their family there, and other single people to hang out with so they shouldnt be 'bored' or whatever.

I mean,no one should NEED a date in order to have a good time.

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We have a really similar situation. I feel the same way about not being able to invite very important people because of other people bringing dates. It makes me feel better to know someone else is doing the same thing IM doing...

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Yea, we have a very large Irish family and FH is from a fairly large Italian family.
I would rather invite great aunts and uncles who will be happy for us specifically than total strangers who are there for the liquor and food.

i mean, i'm sure SOME of our family members will only be there for that reason... but at least they are family...

I mean, most of my cousins arent married. And all of them except for 4 are older than me. It was either invite everyone without a guest, or don't invite all the cousins. I couldnt pick and choose without hurting feelings or without being disapointed myself. So no one gets a guest.
oh well... if they are miserable they can hang out at the open bar.