I get an e-mail from my friend stating she might not be coming to the wedding on Friday because of....SCHOOL!!
Her class has missed 2 Mondays and now the professor wants to do the lab on Friday. Thinks it's going to be at 6pm she is hoping for the morning!
Keep in mind that she goes to school in the city! We've been friends for 17 years! How can she miss my wedding!! She said she doesn't want to fall behind!
She's been going to school forever!! Part of me is starting to think she has no gift to bring to us!! I'm sorry but if she can't make it send her husband!! He should be going still!!! There is no excuse for that!
What do you all think?
wifetobe
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Why can't she come after class?
sweetdoublenn
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She 'Claims' it's at 6pm during regualr lab hours..I think it's BS!! She didn't come to my shower or to be bachorlette party ( it was cancelled cause of the weather Saturday night) what would she of done if she was a BM in my wedding?
jennarose023
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try to take a step back and look at the situation...maybe she really can't miss the lab and her education is very important! also, maybe because they can't afford to give you a gift she's trying to find a reason to not come. Maybe it's embarrassing to her that they can't afford to give a gift to a long time friend. Maybe that's why she didn't come to the the other parties as well.
IMHO, i wouldn't let this ruin your long term friendship...sometimes things just don't work out, and you need to give her the benefit of the doubt. Also, as important as it is to you to have her there your wedding will be wonderful without her too. i hope it all works out!
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I think you should call her and speak to her about it, suggest that she come after lab and meet her hubby there. If this is something that bothers you now, better to say something then to let it affect your friendship. And you are right I would be just as upset as you are.
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I understand why you're upset, but I want to just let you know as someone who works in Higher Education, that things like this do happen. Professors often expect unrealistic things from their students, and in many fields students are not able to miss even one Lab, b/c they can't just get the notes or make it up. Also, labs are often busy and free time is tough to come by.
Just trying to give you some perspective and encourage you to talk to her about and cut her a little slack...
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That stinks. I could see why you are upset. Def talk to her and see if she can come after the lab. Tell her that you don't care about what she brings or wears that you want her there! Even if she is there for an hour.
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i had lab classes monday/Friday 6pm-9pm for two semesters. Let me tell you, those professors DO NOT accept absences. I had to miss 1 lab class and i needed to get a Doctors note to bring in and make it up on a Saturday. Her story may be true.
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i hate professors who try and make students come in on unscheduled days because of something out of their control. its not the students fault that school was closed for labor day. if i were her i'd explain it to my professor that since friday isnt my scheduled class day i already have previous plans. id bring in the invitation also to prove to him that she already rsvped and has to be there for her friend. most professors unless their a*sholes would let it slide for just 1 absence because its not her fault, its the schools fault.
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honestly you should have expected this. she didnt come to your shower or bachelorette....those were your 2 red flags right there.
Espo22
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what time does your wedding start? and how long is her lab, from 6pm to what time?
thats BS tell her to haul a** after lab and get to your wedding.
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Posted by jennarose023
try to take a step back and look at the situation...maybe she really can't miss the lab and her education is very important! also, maybe because they can't afford to give you a gift she's trying to find a reason to not come. Maybe it's embarrassing to her that they can't afford to give a gift to a long time friend. Maybe that's why she didn't come to the the other parties as well.
IMHO, i wouldn't let this ruin your long term friendship...sometimes things just don't work out, and you need to give her the benefit of the doubt. Also, as important as it is to you to have her there your wedding will be wonderful without her too. i hope it all works out!
ITA. I know it suucks Jen, but things like this do happen. The $$ may be RIGHT ON and it may be very embarrassing to her to admit to you, I can't get you a nice gift and I feel suucky about it, so she might be trying to find a way out. Please try to understand and love her anyway - there is a reason you are good friends, and this shouldn't come in that way of that.
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Posted by JBoothIn2008
Posted by jennarose023
try to take a step back and look at the situation...maybe she really can't miss the lab and her education is very important! also, maybe because they can't afford to give you a gift she's trying to find a reason to not come. Maybe it's embarrassing to her that they can't afford to give a gift to a long time friend. Maybe that's why she didn't come to the the other parties as well.
IMHO, i wouldn't let this ruin your long term friendship...sometimes things just don't work out, and you need to give her the benefit of the doubt. Also, as important as it is to you to have her there your wedding will be wonderful without her too. i hope it all works out!
ITA. I know it suucks Jen, but things like this do happen. The $$ may be RIGHT ON and it may be very embarrassing to her to admit to you, I can't get you a nice gift and I feel suucky about it, so she might be trying to find a way out. Please try to understand and love her anyway - there is a reason you are good friends, and this shouldn't come in that way of that.
yea I agree- you guys have been friends for a long time- dont let it go over something like this- talk to her and see if you guys can work it out
marriedinmontauk
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I had a 20 year friend email me the night before the wedding she wasn't coming
sweetdoublenn
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I still don't know the outcome of all of this! FH is annoyed with her..she pulls crap like this all the time!!
I still think her husband should still come!!! Afterall he is one of FH good friends!
alissa5517
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I'm sorry that this is happening to you. I had a long time friend back out of my wedding the other day to go to Florida for the weekend so I understand how you are feeling.
All I can say is that your day will still be amazing with out her. I know that it stinks but I have a feeling that we will not even realize that they are not there.
