this could be bitter sweet!

Soon2BMrsD Posted: Dec 13, 2006 11:41 AM

this could be bitter sweet!

So FH is taking the suffolk police test and we are praying to god that he gets a call.. but the thing is the test is in June of 2007 and it takes anywhere from 6-8 months to get the results but i can almost guarentee that they will call in a new class by the time we get married.. and if he gets the call that they want him he HAS to go.. its a GREAT job and the money is AMAZING!! but on the down side im going to be completely selfish here but we wouldnt be able to go on our honeymoon. i think i would be devistated if we couldnt go... so it would be totally bitter sweet... we really need him to get that call but i really need my honeymoon! just felt like a quick vent thanks for listening!

MikeandJess Posted: Dec 13, 2006 11:47 AM

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Posted by Soon2BMrsD

So FH is taking the suffolk police test and we are praying to god that he gets a call.. but the thing is the test is in June of 2007 and it takes anywhere from 6-8 months to get the results but i can almost guarentee that they will call in a new class by the time we get married.. and if he gets the call that they want him he HAS to go.. its a GREAT job and the money is AMAZING!! but on the down side im going to be completely selfish here but we wouldnt be able to go on our honeymoon. i think i would be devistated if we couldnt go... so it would be totally bitter sweet... we really need him to get that call but i really need my honeymoon! just felt like a quick vent thanks for listening!

I think there is a silver lining there! You can take your honeymoon when he earns his vacation time and he'll be making a salary so you won't be so stressed because you'll have time to financially recooperate from the wedding and he'll be earning $$$!! Maybe you can even plan a bigger and better honeymoon because of it

Soon2BMrsD Posted: Dec 13, 2006 11:49 AM

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i know!! well just have to take something close to home then.. just might stink.. who knows hopefully hell get the call after the honeymoon!!! then we can have the best of both worlds!!! thanks!

Julybride08 Posted: Dec 13, 2006 11:58 AM

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Just think of it like this, if he gets the job you can go on your dream honeymoon once he gets the vacation time, Caus eyou will have the $$$ then, And if he dosen't get it untill after the wedding you can still go someplace wonderful and on your 1st year anniversary go someplace even better.

Soon2BMrsD Posted: Dec 13, 2006 12:00 PM

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you girls are really GREAT!! thanks!...

cherish83 Posted: Dec 13, 2006 12:03 PM

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I know the honeymoon is important to you. But it is much more important that you both have a steady job and income. I would take a local trip for maybe 3 days, and then we he can take the time off you take the trips of your dreams.

Soon2BMrsD Posted: Dec 13, 2006 12:06 PM

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who knows if it will even happen.. but i have to prepare myself just incase so if it does im not totally surprised... just never thought about it before till today!

Autumn08 Posted: Dec 13, 2006 12:10 PM

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Be patient! It can take awhile! A person I worked with was applying for State trooper and it took a long time. I think they test your patience to see if you really want it!

Soon2BMrsD Posted: Dec 13, 2006 12:13 PM

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Posted by Autumn08

Be patient! It can take awhile! A person I worked with was applying for State trooper and it took a long time. I think they test your patience to see if you really want it!

seriously.. its all about luck.. FHs sargent in NYPD.. has been a sargent for 15 years.. took the suffolk test and got a list # of 42... and didnt get called!!!! that just STINKS!

BellaChandella Posted: Dec 13, 2006 12:16 PM

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my FH is going for thd SCPD test too..

I went for NYPD ...

SCPD is maddd hard to getinto though.

I know people who have been on that list for 5 yrs.. lol

tell him to study his bum off

AMGBride2008 Posted: Dec 13, 2006 12:23 PM

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this is exactly the predicament my friends are in. he's in the NYPD and applied for a CO (corrections officer... and Meg... he should look into that too, just as another option... I hear its a great position) position. They're getting married June 2007 and if he gets in on the first try, then they'll have to put their HM on hold. Luckily they got HM insurance, so no matter what you do Meg, get that insurance.

It'll be OK... you'll eventually be able to take your dream HM!

SoontobeMrsH Posted: Dec 13, 2006 03:51 PM

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I think it's a great thing, FH having a 6 figure salary will be nice you can go to the hamptons for the weekend & plan a honeymoon you desire when FH has vacatin time

cds58019 Posted: Dec 13, 2006 05:05 PM

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One of my friends had the same thing happen to her. Her husband got picked for FDNY and they had to cancel their honeymoon cruise b/c he wasn't going to be able to go. But the ended up doing like a 4 day thing in Las Vegas and then fortheir 1 year anniversary they are gonig to do teh cruise. DOn't worry, it'll work out .

Collweenie21 Posted: Dec 13, 2006 05:09 PM

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You can always go on your honeymoon!!! It desn't have to be right after the wedding. And with his salary and the money for the wedding... u won't have to worry and go to Tahiti!!!

TheFutureMrsM Posted: Dec 13, 2006 05:20 PM

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an ex-boyfriend of mine years ago, took that suffolk test. He got a 99 on it, and got called, went for the orientation and decided that he didnt want to be a cop...at the time he was very young, maybe 19 or 20. His brother was a city cop.
Its just so crazy, that someone would pass up such a great opportunity. I could never get it over that.

Chrissywish Posted: Dec 13, 2006 08:35 PM

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i know it's not quite the same situation however i understand. I graduate may of 08 and would love to get a full time teaching position for that fall (FH swears I won't...yes he's not always the most optimistic) so we are trying to decide if we should plan our honeymoon for right after our wedding or wait and do something small that weekend and then a honeymoon on a break just in case

It *****, but if he gets the call its just such a great thing...i'[ll keep my fingers crossed that if he gets the call it does not interrupt wedding/honeymoon plans!!!!!!!!!!

Soon2BMrsD Posted: Dec 13, 2006 08:40 PM

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thanks girls im glad to see im not the only one who may have this problem! i know its not a big deal.. and i would be THRILLED if he got in.. we would be able to do EVERYTHING we have ever dreamed of... and i would totally be able to go to TAHITI!!! it was just something i had never thought about before and i thought about it today!!! thanks agian!