this has been bothering me since morning

I showed my bff/MOH my invite proof. She didn't like something about it, and called it stupid. Then she proceeded comparing me with a friend of hers, which really hurt my feelings. That friend is very showy, and I am a total opposite of that, so I really didn't care for the comparison (eventho I really like that girl other than this little flaw).
The thing is, I wasn't asking for opinions, I was just showing as we had a talk last week and she felt I wasn't sharing with her my life any more. We had an agreement of me sharing everything, and so I did.
This made me very upset. At least now I know for sure not to share. When she showed me her invite (regardless of what I felt towards it) I was so excited that she showed it to me before anybody else and how happy this made her.
I am so angry with myself for showing the invite, I never do that! ugh!

thats a terrible thing for a MOH to say sirry i don't really have any advice

I can't believe that she decided to be negative after you spoke about sharing. I mean, I guess I'd appreciate the honest feelings, but then to compare you to someone else?? Not fair.

Did she see that you were taken aback/upset? Maybe tell her what you told us, that you wanted to share some wedding details with her, but that you didn't appreciate the comparison.

If YOU like your invite proofs, then that's all that matters! Is it her wedding? Nope, sorry!

im sorry hunny. maybe she thougth you really wanted her opinion?? did you tell her how much you LOVED the invites in advance? or did you just show her. maybe she thought she was actually trying to be helpful (??) ....just tryin to be devil's advocate here....i know you are going thru it

im sorry

All I said was that I like that detail and it stays. I didn't see the point to start drama once again over something she said.
She is a very insensitive person with how she gives out her opinions, and she will never change. Usually it doesn't bother me, but w/anything wedding related stuff it does.

But Becca, its exactly as u said: I was sharing, the only thing to say is 'wow, congrats on getting this out of the way'


ETA: 1st thing I said was Geremie finished and I love it, and how excited we are to have this done

why are people so mean?!?!?!?!?

i am so sorry

want me to smack her for you?
i know she your moh but that doesnt give her the right to be like this

Rose, I love u!
thanks for making me laugh about it!

awww. im sorry then. she really has no excuse

honestly, i know this *****. but think of her as a wedding GUEST. and she gets to stand up with you and fluff your dress and train.

if you think of her as a GUEST then you are less likely to WANT to include her in evertyhign and be disappointed

im sorry hun. that really really stinks that she is acting that way

and as for her request about sharing. you can still do that, superficially. like tell her 'we got invites' and leave it at that. she is a GUEST so she should just show up and be happy

sorry if this sounds rude. but i dont want you feeling more and more hurt. this stinks. booooooooo

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Posted by little j

think of her as a wedding GUEST. and she gets to stand up with you and fluff your dress and train.

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thats a great way of looking at things. and thats what I shall do forward.
whats funny is, when I sent out the STD's I didnt even tell her I am doing that, and she emailed me and loved them so much.
I shoud've done same w/the invite. oh well. u live u learn.

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Posted by regy_k

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Posted by little j

think of her as a wedding GUEST. and she gets to stand up with you and fluff your dress and train.

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thats a great way of looking at things. and thats what I shall do forward.
whats funny is, when I sent out the STD's I didnt even tell her I am doing that, and she emailed me and loved them so much.
I shoud've done same w/the invite. oh well. u live u learn.

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yeah. and you can show us your invites!!!!!!!! i want to seeeeee. did you post them????

its funny cuz i tell different BMs different things because i kinda know how they will react and if they are more opinionated or not.

jsut go w what works. what matters most is that you and FH love everything!