This hasnt' happened to me but...

cantwait2bewed Posted: Jan 14, 2005 12:43 PM

This hasnt' happened to me but...

What would you girls do if your FH told you, u had to wait for the wedding
another year b/c finances were tight? Would u go mad? or would u be calm, cool, and collected about it?

Dom n Nic Posted: Jan 14, 2005 12:47 PM

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why would he move it up? if money was tight wouldn't he move it back

sarahthegreat Posted: Jan 14, 2005 12:47 PM

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i don't think i would be mad, it wouldn't exactly thrill me, but i'm realistic enough to know that we can't have a 25k wedding if we only have 11k saved and the wedding is in 2 months.

PrincessConsuela Posted: Jan 14, 2005 12:48 PM

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okay i dont think i would be able to wait until 2007 to be married to my FH.
and money wise yes i would be pissed but this will not happen omg i hope i did not just jinx myself......

cantwait2bewed Posted: Jan 14, 2005 12:48 PM

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Posted by soon2bmrsp06

why would he move it up? if money was tight wouldn't he move it back

Thanks i fixed it

Thumballina Posted: Jan 14, 2005 01:23 PM

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I couldn't be mad...if he said money was tight and we couldn't afford to do it then I would have to go with what he said

...we're paying for it, so its not like money would be handed to us...I'd be upset but I'd understand

LMFitz Posted: Jan 14, 2005 03:13 PM

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Kind of happened to me (I wanted to get married at the end of this summer). We discussed it and his concerns were legit - he wanted to clear some debt before taking on wedding expenses. Since I pay the bills, I knew this was a practical decision, plus - it only meant waiting like 8 months. I waited forever to find him, I could certainly wait a few months to marry him. I also looked at it as an opportunity to plan at my own pace and try to minimize the last minute stress.

Kim51103 Posted: Jan 14, 2005 04:19 PM

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I dont think i would be upset....look at it this way.....it will save you being in debt in the long run....i know its nuts....and i cant wait till 2006....but time flys fast....and money is hard to come by!

hmpena Posted: Jan 14, 2005 04:36 PM

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I would be disappointed, but I think that I would accept it and move on. I just want to get married to my FH and he's worth the wait!

Dom n Nic Posted: Jan 14, 2005 04:41 PM

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Posted by cantwait2bewed

Posted by soon2bmrsp06

why would he move it up? if money was tight wouldn't he move it back

Thanks i fixed it

LOL i got confused there for a min LOL
well now that it is fixed i would totally understand..

fh and i were actually going to get married this year but after pricing things around we talk and thought money wise waiting an extra year would be better for the both us . since him and i are paying for the weddng ..

just think saving for extra bucks can never hurt and will help you out in the future

salsbride06 Posted: Jan 14, 2005 07:39 PM

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I WOULDNT BE MAD AT ALL....I WOULD COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND THE SITUATION....A WEDDING IS A BIG EXPENSE.

gNi1125 Posted: Jan 14, 2005 07:58 PM

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I wouldn't be mad...but I would prob try to have a cheaper wedding. I wouldn't wanna wait another year to get married.

beautyq115 Posted: Jan 14, 2005 08:40 PM

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I think I would understand.

Jen2999 Posted: Jan 14, 2005 08:51 PM

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umm no.. lol.. we will have been togethe 7 years when we get married...I ain't waitin lol

LaurenluvsTJ Posted: Jan 14, 2005 08:58 PM

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It does seem like a long time, I know. But if you want the whole 'wedding' thing, then its probably a good idea to wait.
You could just get married without the 'wedding' if you don't want to wait,

marymoon Posted: Jan 14, 2005 11:04 PM

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I don't know. We'll have been engaged for 3 years whenw e get married. if he wanted to put it off any more I'd think he didn't want to get married. life happens, and there's never a perfect time, but you have to do the best you can to make it work, whther that eans cutting the uests list, changing the dtae or hall, or finding some way to finance it. I think at this point FH would rather take out a loan than push the wedding off anymore, and I think that's better than him saying we should wait longer.

KandM2006 Posted: Jan 16, 2005 03:13 PM

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You just have to make some real choices. If you can't afford the wedding the year you really want then look at why. Too many people? Reception too much p/p? Dress to much $?? Make some choices and see where money could be saved in the budget and see if having it this year is still an option. You have to decide what is REALLY important to You! Good Luck!