This is why young children should not be at weddings

This is why young children should not be at weddings

My fmil and I were talking last night she said that her daughter which is my fsil wants to know if her 3 1/2 year old daughter gets tired can she go up to the bridal suite and sleep. I couldn't believe I was being asked this. The bridal suite is for me and my girls and the grrom suite is for the grrom and his guys. Then my fmil said she would stay with her granddaughter if they brought her up to the room which I was mad about cause she is the groom's Mom she should be at the wedding and be there for everything not watch her daughter's child. The child's mother should watch her or not bring her to the wedding if she feels the child is going to get tired and start acting up. My flower girl is 3 1/2 years old and she will be fine cause she has had to stay out until 12am before. I am so mad about this. I already told my RH to make sure that only my girls and I have the code to get into the bridal suite and to not allow anyone else in my room with out me there. I swear sometimes I do not understand my fh's family. This was just wrong of them to think that this would be alright with me. If the child gets tired she can bring her up to the grooms suite not my room. I do not trust my fsil or her children near my personal things or my girls personal things that we are going to have with us that day. That is my space and I am keeping it that way. My parents were pissed when I told them what his family wanted from me my Mom was like what the heck is wrong with these people do they stay up all night thinking of ways to wreck your wedding or to make you unhappy.

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I think you should let your fmil know that you think it is best if they use the grooms suite for this since you will need to use your suite more. You don't want to have to be quiet around the baby and you will need to be able to use your suite to freshen up! Good luck and try not to let it get to you!

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I know it upsets you and I am SURE there is more to this frustration than this one situation BUT don't stress over it. Your wedding in ONE week away!! I think it is a good idea for FH to handle it! You should not need to worry about these things right now!

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Yeah thats not a great idea, people are in and out of the suites. The bridal attendants too and then they start bringing stuff of yours into the suite. I had to go to the bridal suite quite a few times. ANd i agree sorry but his mom should be enjoying the wedding, not in another room watching a kid, i would be upset if my parents were gone for part of my wedding ya know. SO you need to tell her that if FSIL brings her daughters its her responsibility and not anybody elses and she better not put the mother of the groom to watch the kid and to sit and think about it for a second and realize why thats wrong.

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I'd be annoyed too, not so much for the fact that the baby would be up there sleeping, but that your FMIL would be willing to miss the wedding, just to babysit this child up in the suite. Maybe you can suggest to that that the child's babysitter or another relative not at the wedding can come pick her up and take her home around 9. Thats what I did with my nieces, and away they went... so my brother, SIL, SIL's parents were able to enjoy their night out. it worked out great...

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I agree that you should not have to worry about this a week before your wedding!!! I would talk to your FMIL and tell her that honestly, there is no 'restful' place for her in the RH for her to sleep....the bridal suite is going to be a very busy room and you and your BP will be in and out of there a lot...which won't be restful for her. Try to make it sound as if it won't work for her rather than the other way around...even though it is very (IMHO!) selfish of her to ask this of you, you want to settle this in a manner that doesn't set the wrong tone for your relationship with her (you will have to deal with her for the rest of your life)! Suggest instead that perhaps there is someone that could being her home if she gets tired.
Honestly I had my second cousins at my wedding (my older one was my FG) and my younger one (1 year old) fell asleep under their table on a blanket my cousins put down for her...she was completely hiddden from view by the long tablecloth and had no problem with it (why do people have to always think that their rights trounce everyone else's even on your wedding day? ) Sorry you have to deal with this!

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if she is tired she should go HOME!!!!

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This is why i dont have kids at my wedding lol Yes this is a ridiculous request & for FMIL to say she will watch her well what about the dance moment with her son is sh egoing to iss that too? UNREAL!

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This is why i am not having children at my wedding. Only my RB who will be 5 and JBM which will be 12. i am also having a day wedding so my rb will be able to stay awake. I was just afraid of kids running all over the place.

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Cant she hire a babysitter?