This isnt somehitng that I want to post on a wedding board...but I need to talk about it...

misawa18 Posted: Jan 29, 2005 10:41 AM

This isnt somehitng that I want to post on a wedding board...but I need to talk about it...

So many people that I know are getting divorced...seperated....or have been cheating....this is driving me crazy and getting me nervous. Like...these people have been married 28 years...10 years....6 years...I know Anthony love me and I love him....but did anyone ever get nervous when hearing about these things???????

sarahthegreat Posted: Jan 29, 2005 10:44 AM

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hey marisa!! i see what you are saying about cheating and whatnot...and all i can say is that i will never chat on my fh. as far as divorce, i hope that it never happens, but i can't see into the future so i don't know what is going to happen. i'm sure if we do our best to work at our marraige we will stay together.

LaurenluvsTJ Posted: Jan 29, 2005 10:45 AM

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Each relationship is different. Just because some people break up doesn't mean every one will. For all those examples you gave, think about all those who have been married 10, 20, 50 years and are still as much in love as they were when they got married. I used to work in a hospital and one of the thing I remember the most is this elderly woman we had in our unit, and her husband was in the same hospital in a different unit. Her husband came up to visit her and holding her hand told us the story about how they met over 50 years ago and how in love with her he still is. I was so moved by that couple and how strong love can really be. So for all the bad things you hear, remember that there are love stories like that couples everywhere!

misawa18 Posted: Jan 29, 2005 10:50 AM

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Thanks girls....It just got me nervous bc all of these things happend within 1 week...Just to hear about all of these things at once freaked me out.....

Lauren...Great story...its so touching to hear that...my grandparents are togehter for 53 years...its so beautiful bc they have the same love for eachother if not more..since they got marreid

jantany26 Posted: Jan 29, 2005 10:56 AM

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every person is different and their reasonings for doing it are different also. you just have to work on your relationship making sure there is always communication and that it stays fresh.

mfrsfeb Posted: Jan 29, 2005 10:59 AM

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don't get caught up in thinking about it, it will drive you nuts. just have a postive outlook and live for the now. I totally understand what you are going through though sometimes bad news makes you think too much. Try not to

LuckyMe Posted: Jan 29, 2005 11:19 AM

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I know what you saying I actually had my FMIL tell me I would see how my FH is like everyother man when he goes through his mid-life crisis and cheats on me Nice right but I know in my heart I can trust him when it comes to this because he always opts to include me.

misawa18 Posted: Jan 29, 2005 11:25 AM

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Yes....OMG I hope you girls think that I think that FH will cheat on me!!!!! I totallyl trust him......

oh god..I look way to into things...

hmpena Posted: Jan 29, 2005 01:12 PM

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I was also really scared of this. Coming from a divorced family, I always secretly feared that one day I, too, would end up divorced. But I am pretty confident now that my FI and I will be together forever. Despite all of our disagreements and rough patches, our love and friendship has been strong. I believe that when a relationship has a solid friendship and mutual respect as the base, the love continues to grow. Granted that everyone's situation is different. But I feel that I am going into this marriage with my eyes wide open and I cannot wait for 351 days to pass!

gNi1125 Posted: Jan 29, 2005 02:24 PM

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I know what you mean. I get scared of that sometimes too because you hear so much crazy sh*t and it gets you paranoid but I try to stay optimistic and keep the faith.

Kim51103 Posted: Jan 29, 2005 02:39 PM

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You have to work at it!
Things dont just happen....people get divorced bc they give up....
Dont give up.....

Preshy7 Posted: Jan 30, 2005 10:00 AM

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Posted by jantany26

every person is different and their reasonings for doing it are different also. you just have to work on your relationship making sure there is always communication and that it stays fresh.

I agree totally.

marymoon Posted: Jan 30, 2005 11:58 AM

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It worries me SOOO much

cantwait2bewed Posted: Jan 30, 2005 12:03 PM

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I think about it at times. However, my Fh is devoted and very loyal. I hope that I would never cheat on him and him on me. Noone is perfect this we know, but if u listen and be honest with each other things should work out fine.

beautyq115 Posted: Jan 30, 2005 05:52 PM

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I do worry since I am a child of divorce and I have heard of many couples getting divorced.

I think that my FI are building a great foundation right now and we will work at keeping our relationship strong.

Goldi1021 Posted: Jan 31, 2005 12:58 AM

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Posted by LaurenEMT

Each relationship is different. Just because some people break up doesn't mean every one will. For all those examples you gave, think about all those who have been married 10, 20, 50 years and are still as much in love as they were when they got married. I used to work in a hospital and one of the thing I remember the most is this elderly woman we had in our unit, and her husband was in the same hospital in a different unit. Her husband came up to visit her and holding her hand told us the story about how they met over 50 years ago and how in love with her he still is. I was so moved by that couple and how strong love can really be. So for all the bad things you hear, remember that there are love stories like that couples everywhere!

This is my parents story to a T. My mom just had open heart last week. My dad is in another part of the hospital facility in the nursing home. Mom said to me that if he passes she has no future. It made me sad but happy at the same time knowing they were able to maintain this strong marriage for almost 50 years. I hope to G-d that my marriage lasts as long. I am truly blessed to have been a child who saw love and devotion in a long marriage. I want the same for my children when I start my family.

Thumballina Posted: Jan 31, 2005 12:53 PM

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I know what you mean...as fast as people are getting married they are filing for divorce... I only hope that I never have to go through it...FH and I agree that marriage is something that should be worked at regardless of the situation and that it should not be a means for a way out. (unless everything else fails)

We get along great and have never had a hugh blowout...yes we bicker it wouldn't be healthy if we didn't. I just beleive that we love each other to make things work out...but things could change...everyone prays that they don't end up in divorce...it just something you can't predict now...

cmastro25 Posted: Jan 31, 2005 01:52 PM

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Honestly, when I hear those stories, it just makes me happier that I have my FH. We love each so much and both know that there is nobody else in the world we'd want to be with. We are completely honest with each other and I know he would never cheat.
(That's not to say it could NEVER happen. Life throws you twists and turns all the time. But if you could feel as if you trust him 100% then there's no use wondering about the 1,000 what if we break up scenarios that may never come to pass.) Just my thoughts.