so, i have 4 bm's - well 3 w/1 moh, but anyway, one is from out of state - lived in PA, but recently moved to FL. so far all is ok for the wedding, we'll work out the logistics as it gets closer. so I spoke to this bm's mother last night - my fmil and her are very close friends and they were up from PA for a party. so as i was talking to her she said that she (the bm) may not be able to make the shower, but she will be here for the wedding. i said ok, fine, i understand i mean, florida is not ct or nj - its far. so tonight at dinner, my fmil mentioned that this bm's bridal shower (she's getting married in april) her shower is march 18th, and wanted me to know it was ok if i couldn't make it. huh? so you don't think you can make mine, although you are in the bp. and your saying its 'ok' if i don't come to yours. is this weird ladies? or is it me?
thefirstlady
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it's wierd and she shouldn't have said it out loud to you! she's thinking like a lot of people must think and here's what i mean: a person who shall remain nameless asked me what each and every person (of their friends and fam) gave me for my e-party gift. when i told this person i didn't know, i only tracked if it was $ or a gift, she said 'Well, how are you going to know what to give them in the same situation?' this person bases their gift to people on what they gave to (this person) or this person's children, etc. so if they gave a 'crappy' gift or no gift at all, this person remembers that and reciprocates! confusing sorry, but if you get it, that might be where she's coming from!
Happybride2005
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that is weird
sarahthegreat
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Posted by thefirstlady
it's wierd and she shouldn't have said it out loud to you! she's thinking like a lot of people must think and here's what i mean: a person who shall remain nameless asked me what each and every person (of their friends and fam) gave me for my e-party gift. when i told this person i didn't know, i only tracked if it was $ or a gift, she said 'Well, how are you going to know what to give them in the same situation?' this person bases their gift to people on what they gave to (this person) or this person's children, etc. so if they gave a 'crappy' gift or no gift at all, this person remembers that and reciprocates! confusing sorry, but if you get it, that might be where she's coming from!
this was from the bride to be's mother - its all very strange to me. i mean i can make it to your shower, why wouldn't i? i know about it well in advance, my fh and i will drive to pa for the weekend.
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Maybe she just feels bad that she can't make it to yours and thinks you might be spiteful and not go to hers in return. That is what I got from that statement.
October Bliss
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I take it to mean that she will feel better if you don't come. It takes the weight off your OOT BM making it to yours.
