This sucks.... UPDATED I think I solved the problem....

june262004 Posted: Feb 13, 2004 11:32 AM

This sucks.... UPDATED I think I solved the problem....

My FH works 3-midnight on sat. so he had to work on V-day. I made plans with my Best Friend (MOH) since her boyfriend went to vegas for his sisters wedding. Last Night they asked my FH if he wanted to work 8-5 tomorrow so he has off at night now. I ask My Best Friend if she would be mad and neither mike or I would be mad and she wont answer she just says i don't know. I would really like him to go but I made plans with her first.

HearzBellz Posted: Feb 13, 2004 11:34 AM

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I know this sounds bad, but can you do both?
I mean, can you do an early dinner with FH & then go out at night with her????

june262004 Posted: Feb 13, 2004 11:35 AM

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I was thinking that but im sure everything is booked tomorrow reservation wise and if we didnt have a reservation we probably wont get in and out quick.

Stacey1403 Posted: Feb 13, 2004 11:35 AM

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I'm sorry but it is Valentines Day your friend should bow out gracefully

BMD'sPeanut Posted: Feb 13, 2004 11:35 AM

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offer to three wheel it.
it's just another day and your friend might love you for it.

BMD'sPeanut Posted: Feb 13, 2004 11:36 AM

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order in...eat lots of junk...watch videos...it will be fine!

ChristineC68 Posted: Feb 13, 2004 11:38 AM

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I know it's not romantic but can the 3 of you do something. Or maybe suggest an alternate night for you and her to go out really soon.

It sounds like she understands you want to be with FH but she doesn't want to be alone either especially since you already had plans.

It's a hard situation.

june262004 Posted: Feb 13, 2004 11:41 AM

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I asked her if he can go and she the choice was hers. And I dont think she keen on the idea only cause she will feel like the third wheel. ANd her man is in Vegas which makes it even worse.

jennbaby Posted: Feb 13, 2004 11:41 AM

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Spend the day with her & the night with him!

BMD'sPeanut Posted: Feb 13, 2004 11:43 AM

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actually i was just thinking about it...i would be very upset if i was your friend and you actually cancelled on me...
but i wouldn't be upset being a third wheel.
but that's ME...others might feel differently.

nrvbrd Posted: Feb 13, 2004 11:43 AM

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Ouch, this is a tough one.

I am one for not disappointing people, so though I might not like this.

I would have an EARLY and I do mean early night with both FH and best friend, and then send her on her way and screw the heck out of my man for the rest of the night.

This way all are happy

nrvbrd Posted: Feb 13, 2004 11:44 AM

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Posted by nrvbrd

Ouch, this is a tough one.

I am one for not disappointing people, so though I might not like this- this is what I would do...

I would have an EARLY and I do mean early night with both FH and best friend, and then send her on her way and screw the heck out of my man for the rest of the night.

This way all are happy

Stacey1403 Posted: Feb 13, 2004 11:47 AM

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Posted by CIMINOK

actually i was just thinking about it...i would be very upset if i was your friend and you actually cancelled on me...
.

So if one of your friend ended up having the opportunity to spend Valentines Day with their FH you would be upset that she wanted to?

I would want my friend to spend it with her FH, why should she have to be with me when she can be with him, just because my SO is not with me.

I would feel too guilty

ChristineC68 Posted: Feb 13, 2004 11:54 AM

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Posted by Stacey1403

Posted by CIMINOK

actually i was just thinking about it...i would be very upset if i was your friend and you actually cancelled on me...
.

So if one of your friend ended up having the opportunity to spend Valentines Day with their FH you would be upset that she wanted to?

I would want my friend to spend it with her FH, why should she have to be with me when she can be with him, just because my SO is not with me.

I would feel too guilty

I see both sides. If I was the friend, I would be really disappointed since I will now be alone on V-day. But I would bow out of the evening and so my friend can spend the evening with her FH/DH.

julybride444 Posted: Feb 13, 2004 04:05 PM

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So sorry Unfortunately I think you should be a good friend and do what you said you would Tell him to work his reg. shift and you two can have breakfast together, or you can celebrate on Sunday.

You shouldn't make her be the 3rd wheel on V-day w/you and your man, and you certainly shouldn't cancel or make her feel guilty. Just pretend in your head that he can't get it off and do what you orig. planned.

This is too short notice, and she won't have time to make other plans. Cancelling on people last minute is kind of crappy anyway, even if it's not V-day.

dietzer Posted: Feb 13, 2004 04:08 PM

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I'm with Stacey on this one.

june262004 Posted: Feb 13, 2004 06:07 PM

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He already switched his hours but he said he will not be mad AT ALL if we make it a girls night out. He will stay home and watch movies.

Xelindrya Posted: Feb 13, 2004 06:10 PM

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Posted by nrvbrd

Ouch, this is a tough one.

I am one for not disappointing people, so though I might not like this.

I would have an EARLY and I do mean early night with both FH and best friend, and then send her on her way and screw the heck out of my man for the rest of the night.

This way all are happy

Seriously..
If I made plans I wouldnt break them.
*shrug* sorry.

june262004 Posted: Feb 13, 2004 06:11 PM

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Posted by Xelindrya

Posted by nrvbrd

Ouch, this is a tough one.

I am one for not disappointing people, so though I might not like this.

I would have an EARLY and I do mean early night with both FH and best friend, and then send her on her way and screw the heck out of my man for the rest of the night.

This way all are happy

Seriously..
If I made plans I wouldnt break them.
*shrug* sorry.

I wasnt GOING to break my plans I would NEVER do that thats not how I am.

Cindy Posted: Feb 13, 2004 06:22 PM

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I agree with Jennbaby. Why not spend the day with her and then you and him go out at night? If it was my friend that I made plans with and her mate was finally available for Valentine's night, as much as I wouldnt want to spend the night alone, I would tell her to go with him. I think it is only right.