Three down, three to go!

Just got back from Bridal Suite...3 of my BMs ordered their dresses today!

My sister went earlier in the day, and I just went with my two friends. My cousin will be going to order for herself and my other sister tomorrow, and then the only one left will be FSIL!



But this is really horrible, and I'm mortified right now. My one friend is a bigger girl...and her dress unfortunately fell into the realm of the 'extra fee'...bringing the total with tax to almost $300!!! I had a bad feeling that would happen...but I didn't know it was going to be that high of a charge, and I feel awful, especially because she was clearly embarrassed.

I drove with my other friend, so when we got back in the car, she told me that I should tell her that she doesn't need to bring a gift to the shower. I was debating if I should pay the fee for her, but I didn't know if that was insulting either. What would you do in this position?

My MOH sorta knew that her dress would be more $ since she too is a bigger gal but I told her that I'd make up the difference. She said not to worry about it but I still feel sorta sad since my other BM's are all like size 4/6.

Like me, my MOH is really tall (we're both over 5'10') but the gown was long so I convinced her not to feel compelled to order extra length. So that saved some off the total price.

Because she's spending so much on the gown (and also cuz she's my MOH) I am going to get her an awesome gift (I think a diamond necklace) -- to wear the day-of. I want her to know that I appreciate the money she's put into the gown and into looking beautiful for my wedding.

I don't know how to address it. If I was the bm, I may have been so embarrased I wouldn't want to bring it up again, and by not bringing a shower gift, it may make her stand out again.
Also I understand pp was going to get an extra gift, but that makes sense b/c it's her MOH. As a bm, again it makes her different from everyone else.
Sorry I know this was no help.

I don't know...FH is being a little mean right now, even for me. Said it's not our fault, so we shouldn't have to pay the diff or suggest that she not give a gift to offset the difference.

I don't know though....baaaaaaaaah. I feel guilty.

You should just let pay the fee and when she goes its already paid.. I feel you're the better friends and should help a little.. Although its your wedding..

Ut ohhhhh my friend is very busty and had to buy a dress more expensive. The thought didnt even cross my mind to pay for the difference....oops!

BUTTTT, we are paying for the wedding ourselves and I really dont have the extra cash to be offering. If I had the money, I totally would- we just dont have it right now. Also, we spent a decent amount of money on their BM necklaces, so I hope that makes up for it.

2 of the people in my bridal party had to pay an extra fee i didnt know but they didnt have a problem. I would ask her if the extra money hurt her pockets because 300 is alot and if it did i would offer to give her back the extra fee money. I guess us brides have to take into consideration the dress cost and the extra fees that may come with it :