~Thursday, May 12th QOTD~

Cloudy327 Posted: May 12, 2011 07:16 AM

~Thursday, May 12th QOTD~

Good morning! It's almost Friday, woohoo

Here's today's QOTD.... do you think you would prefer a calm, loving, consistent marriage or one full of excitement, wild times and rocky patches?

For me, I think FH and I will try to have the best of both worlds. At times I like things peaceful but then there are times when a little chaos and excitement are definitely appreciated. And who doesn't love the wild times?! I also think any couple has rocky patches at some point or another so that's inevitable. Love is the foundation for any marriage so without that, there is really nothing!!

FutureMrsCat050412 Posted: May 12, 2011 07:56 AM

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I am cujrious to see if anyone would say yes they wanted rough patches!

I just want the most perfect relationship & I would prefer no fighting too!

HAPPY WIFE, HAPPY LIFE

EmilyandPeter Posted: May 12, 2011 08:20 AM

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I don't think you can really predict what the future brings, even if you want a calm life together. I know FH and I will be amazing with whatever comes our way.

I am close with FMIL and she gave us really great advise: Marriage is a roller coaster full of ups and downs. You can't jump off when you hit the bottom because right after you go shooting to the top. I truly believe that a marriage is full of ups and downs and as long as there is love and a strong relationship you will make it through.

courtneydemarco12 Posted: May 12, 2011 08:38 AM

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I agree with Emily. You can't perdict what the future will hold. FH and I have been through a lot over our courtship, car accident, job loss, loss of money and just daily drama. We have gotten through it all closer together. I know if we can get through the stuff him and I have gone through while dating we will be okay. Every couple fights and have rocky patches but as long as that couple comes out the other end more understanding and compassionate then you will be okay. I agree with Emily marriage and life are roller coasters that you can't just jump off when u get to the bottem you have to keep going and finish the ride. And you also have to enjoy the ride too.

Rivera2be Posted: May 12, 2011 08:39 AM

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Posted by Cloudy327
Here's today's QOTD.... do you think you would prefer a calm, loving, consistent marriage or one full of excitement, wild times and rocky patches?

I want a marriage that consists of all of these things, even some rocky patches. Life can't be all roses all the time and we sometimes can appreciate the good times more when we've experienced some downs.
Of course though I'd prefer the ratio of good times to bad to be like 90/10 LOL

Watermelon5 Posted: May 12, 2011 08:46 AM

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me and FH have been together for over 10 years so i predict our relationship (while always evolving) will play out similarly. we arent big fighters and are both laid back, so im looking forward to a fun marriage

Shamrock212 Posted: May 12, 2011 09:24 AM

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I think I'd like both---of course I don't want us to fight and argue- but sometimes that makes the relationship stronger

JRT5412 Posted: May 12, 2011 09:39 AM

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I would hate for FH and I to go thru a rocky situation with fights and disagreements. But there is no marriage where you are happy every single day. FH and I get along great and we love eachother dearly and both want this marriage to last until we are old and grey and pushing our wheelchairs. But we are aware that we will have ups and downs and have agreed that we will fight for our relationship until the very end.

So I want a lil bit of both worlds. Just to keep the relationship interesting and not boring lol.

FutureMrsGTL Posted: May 12, 2011 09:40 AM

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I'd like our marriage to be very similar to our relationship... it's a great balance of loving and consistent while still being able to say what we need to say to eachother. Of course, I don't want to fight and argue like maniacs though.

pixietina Posted: May 12, 2011 09:58 AM

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I don't think much will change after we are married. We already experienced alot together. I am an excitement maniac so we try to keep it interesting. We do have our moments where we bicker, but we always love each other.

AlexandMike2012 Posted: May 12, 2011 10:05 AM

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We're definitely a drama free couple which is nice, I definitely had my fair share of drama relationships before I met FH..that's one of the reasons we work so well together, everything is just easy. Of course from time to time we'll piss each other off but that's to be expected in any relationship, we've been through A LOT together and got through it....we can get through some feisty fights

foodgirl785 Posted: May 12, 2011 10:46 AM

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I think you'd be lying to yourself if you didn't expect there to be rough patches in your marriage. I have found that throughout our difficult times, we have grown and come out happier on the other end. I think it's important to continue to learn about the other persons wants and needs. We are always changing.

So in a perfect world, there'd be no fighting, always sunshine and rainbows, and we'd be in harmony for the rest of our lives. In reality, I expect there to be both happy times and difficult ones (who doesn't need a good fight here any there )

CaughtMyFish Posted: May 12, 2011 11:27 AM

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it's funny bc when we are left alone, have no meddling relatives or unwanted opinions, we are just fine. Both of us are calm and loving, and we love to laugh.

The hardest part of our relationship so far was the week we got engaged. No joke, between one evil Aunt of mine, and his parents having some issues with helping out financially (big mess of a story!), we were so miserable.

It's all ironed out now and we are back to happy-land! Ok, that was cheesey, but you know what I mean!

roblisa09 Posted: May 12, 2011 11:35 AM

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I think for the most part in the beginning it will be all calm and peaceful but I am sure that when we finally have a baby things will get wild and tough for us both but thank God that we are both committed so together we will overcome the tough times.

irisheyezrsmilen Posted: May 12, 2011 12:41 PM

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ill take alil from side a and alil from side b big believer in 'the bad times make the good times better' a healthy relationship needs some bumps in the road.

leelou48 Posted: May 12, 2011 06:34 PM

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I'm a crazy grudge holder and always looking for the fight. FH's is the exact oppposite, he gets over things in like 2 seconds and I always think he's yessing me but he is seriously over it. So in my mind it will be wild and rocky but in his mind it will be la-di-da. ITs frustrating for me but thats why I his personality compliments me so well.