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tipping the priest?

MrsR72806 Posted:

tipping the priest?

do you have to do this??? I can't remember

MrsR72806 Posted:

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anyone?

nickipa Posted:

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im not really sure of this answer, I looked at the tipping threads i had saved and some did and some didn't. anyone else have the answer?

jenny26 Posted:

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I don't believe you tip the priest. I know some girls who know the priest well and have bought them a small gift.

donegal419 Posted:

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I have never heard of this.... I would think that they would fall under what you have already given the Church in your donation.

I bought a gift for one of the priests (nothing crazy, just a basket of Yankee Candle votives---we had a huge conversation about Yankee Candles when we met with him to set the date... he loves them.) The other priest that will be concelebrating the Mass is a good friend of FH's family so we will be giving him a more substantial and personalized gift.
nbc188 Posted:

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What about if you don't know the priest, it's just someone to marry you & FH? That's my situation, and I don't know. Plus, we're getting married at our reception location, so we're not paying church fees either. Do we tip the priest?

This tipping stuff is too confusing!!!
CC59 Posted:

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I didn't but I plan on writing him a little thank you card this week..no money or anything, just a thanks you.

donegal419 Posted:

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Since you're not getting married at a church, marrying you is not part of his parish duties and you are not leaving a donation to a church, then i might give him a little something.... $50.00???? but then again, if you're getting married at a reception hall, you're probably paying him to come, so i wouldn't go too crazy.

nbc188 Posted:

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Posted by donegal419

Since you're not getting married at a church, marrying you is not part of his parish duties and you are not leaving a donation to a church, then i might give him a little something.... $50.00???? but then again, if you're getting married at a reception hall, you're probably paying him to come, so i wouldn't go too crazy.



Thanks for the advice. Yeah, we're paying him to come, so he's making the money directly, not going to the church. I still don't know what to do. I think it's only costing us $150 maybe for him to perform the service (don't remember exactly), so I don't know what to tip him- $50 would be too much, right?
angnick Posted:

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we gave him 20 bucks.

CLMon7906 Posted:

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we didn't...that i know of. FIL ended up paying him for us (he could've told us that BEFORE the wedding day...cause I didn't need to be running around with that much cash...he also covered the hair/make up...so i had a handful to look after)

we hadn't planned on it originally though because our ceremony was not in a church, he was pocketing the whole fee.
MrsR72806 Posted:

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oh ok....yeah we don't know him...he is only marrying us...so maybe i'll just send him a thank you after the wedding!
This tipping thing is crazy!!
JCam695 Posted:

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We gave $50

Jweb17 Posted:

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we aren't getting in a chuch either (we'll be at the RH, like you) and since he's pocketing the whole thing I'm not tipping him. I completely agree...this tipping business is out of control!
nbc188 Posted:

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Posted by Jweb17

we aren't getting in a chuch either (we'll be at the RH, like you) and since he's pocketing the whole thing I'm not tipping him. I completely agree...this tipping business is out of control!


I agree completely I don't think we'll tip now, thanks for the advice ladies! He's making all the money that we're giving him, and that's plenty for 20 minutes of service (plus a quick rehearsal the night before!)
lacey&mark Posted:

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we didnt tip. $500 for a half hour seemed like enough.

SwissMiss06 Posted:

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Posted by donegal419

I have never heard of this.... I would think that they would fall under what you have already given the Church in your donation.

I bought a gift for one of the priests (nothing crazy, just a basket of Yankee Candle votives---we had a huge conversation about Yankee Candles when we met with him to set the date... he loves them.) The other priest that will be concelebrating the Mass is a good friend of FH's family so we will be giving him a more substantial and personalized gift.


Our priest is also a very good friend of FH's family plus he's performed the marriages for three of FH's uncles....what kind of gift is appropriate??
Danigrl28 Posted:

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The only thing we had to do what make the 'donation' a few weeks before.

SummerBride06 Posted:

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i tipped my priest $50 at the rehearsal. i didn't know i was supposed to do it until that day when one of my BM's, who has priests and nuns in her family, told me that it's a necessity. this is a girl who doesn't spend money freely and her family is very involved with the catholic church, so i listened to her and did it.

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