To invite or not?

I'm not sure if I should invite a friend of mine to the wedding. For years, there was a group of 4 of us that would always do stuff together - go out, travel, and other stuff (concerts museums, hikes, etc.) One friend from the group met a guy 2 years ago when we were away together for a weekend getaway. Ever since she met him, she has dropped off the face of the planet (and few things in life annoy me more than women who drop all their friends for a guy). I tried to stay in touch and made sure to always invite her to whatever we were doing and to call just to say 'hi' at least once a month (and when the calls were never reciprocated, I finally gave up). The only times I have seen her in the past 2 years was for my birthday in 2010 and last weekend when she came out with her bf to a 'pre-wedding' get together another one of the original group organized. And even then (last weekend) she didn't ask about the wedding plans or even to see the ring. She knew I got engaged but didn't call me until 3 months later - for my birthday this year. I kinda feel bad not inviting her because of our history, but then I think, I don't know when of if I'll even see her again, so why should I?

What would you do?

Thanks!

I would invite her.

I had a really close knit group of friends in high school but as time has gone on some of us have drifted. There are no hard feeling between us and when we do get together we have a great time, I invited all of them to the wedding.

I've had a similar thing happen to me with someone who I saw several times a year. Even though I was always the one making the effort. Maybe you should address it with her personally - ask her why she's been so distant, try setting up something with just u and her - she if she reaches out. If she doesn't seem interested, then maybe your answer is there.

IMO, you probably won't be wrong in not inviting her. Weddings bring out everyone's true colors. It seems she doesn't care too much for you.

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Posted by ColliMac23

I would call her and invite her to lunch if she doesn't answer then no if she does go out talk about the Wedding and see how you feel after.

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I wouldn't worry about inviting her unless you are having issues meeting your minimum.

I have a few friends from HS like that, not that anything bad happened between us, we just drifted apart. And I'm inviting those with whom I am still in touch and have the rest on my backup list.

So if you feel really bad about not inviting her then go ahead and invite her, and know that if she doesn't want to come she won't. But if it's going to stretch your budget then I wouldn't worry about it.

Hope that helps