To open bar, or not to open bar...that is the question...

lbkate Posted: Feb 24, 2010 10:00 AM

To open bar, or not to open bar...that is the question...

Ok, so FH and I booked out 'afterparty' last night at the hotel where we are having our wedding.
We are getting married in LB, and since we live here and have alot of 'friends' that are not invited to the actual wedding, we opened up the after party for anyone who wants to come down.
We are hiring a singer for afterwards (someone who we all love that plays at teh bars down here) from 11-2. So here is the question;

Do we have to pay the bar tab for the after party, or can we have cash bar? We already have to pay $1000 for the room and bartender cost, and the cost of the entertainment... Thoughts??

Soon2bShea Posted: Feb 24, 2010 10:01 AM

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I wouldn't JMO

Jtruran Posted: Feb 24, 2010 10:02 AM

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It's really not necessary...

StaceyWill Posted: Feb 24, 2010 10:05 AM

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I don’t think you have to pick up the tab-cash bar is fine

stinenandy2010 Posted: Feb 24, 2010 10:09 AM

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IMO - I would...I know its an extra cost, but if I were invited to an after party, I would assume the party is continuing. However, I wouldn't have a problem paying for my own drinks.

FutureCap Posted: Feb 24, 2010 10:12 AM

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any after party i have ever gone to has been a cash bar, ours will be as well.

allornil Posted: Feb 24, 2010 10:12 AM

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It's a nice gesture but I don't think anyone is expecting you to pick up the tab.

MayBride2010 Posted: Feb 24, 2010 10:14 AM

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We are also having an afterparty that we paid a few hundred $s for the use of the restaurant/bar til whenever we wanted (its next to our hotel). Since we are paying for the RH and paid to keep a bar/retaurant open for an afterparty exclusively for our party, we are not having an open bar. Plus - we figured that it will be 12:30am by the time it starts and everyone will be tipsy already from the wedding lol

lm398 Posted: Feb 24, 2010 10:15 AM

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I think that you are providing enough honestly but would you be able to work out some sort of deal - like an hourly open bar rate & maybe you could cover the 1st hour? Picking up a tab at the end of the night if you're paying drink by drink is DANGEROUS!

JC297 Posted: Feb 24, 2010 10:16 AM

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I wouldnt. It could end up costing you a fortune.

Lsorrent Posted: Feb 24, 2010 10:18 AM

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I'm not. We're paying to keep the hotel bar open late after, but we're not paying for the alcohol.

MrsSx2 Posted: Feb 24, 2010 10:22 AM

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Nope, i'd def. do a cash bar in that scenario!

JayBee216 Posted: Feb 24, 2010 10:23 AM

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I would make sure that the people coming who aren't invited to your wedding know that it's a cash bar so that there are no issues.

Jna2010 Posted: Feb 24, 2010 10:38 AM

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Posted by stinenandy2010

IMO - I would...I know its an extra cost, but if I were invited to an after party, I would assume the party is continuing. However, I wouldn't have a problem paying for my own drinks.

same here

runnerbride1023 Posted: Feb 24, 2010 10:44 AM

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Maybe you can open a tab and then at the end of the night pay for it, instead of agreeing a certain price per person?

AdriandSteve Posted: Feb 24, 2010 10:46 AM

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Posted by Jtruran

It's really not necessary...

ita

lbkate Posted: Feb 24, 2010 11:25 AM

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Thanks girls! we were also considering maybe throwing like $1000 behind the bar, then when that runs out, have everyone pay for their own, but then figured that might add to the confusion if people get like 2 drinks for free, then have to pay for the next round.