So first there was the issue with my wedding being on the only weekend that my BM's BMs are free for her bachelorette party
Now I just got an email from my 'Aunt'(family friend who we consider an aunt) saying how she will not be coming to my wedding (mind you invites have not gone out yet) - because her ex-husband will also be invited (my freakin 'Uncle') and she can't be in the same place as him and his new wife. SHe then goes on and on about how he lied to her and stole from her. OMG - the invites have not even gone out yet. Does she really think I am just not going to invite him - he is my father's oldest friend? And I really don't want to hear her bashing him or him bashing her - UGH!
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Wow she needs to be a WOMAN and show up even if he is there with his new wife...rent a date if need be Its your wedding she needs to put things aside and understand for that one day its about you and your new beginning
nov06
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I have people not coming to my wedding too because 'other' people are coming that they don't like. It's like they're still in high school.
Soon2BeMrs2006
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i'm sorry
JandJ1224
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My FMIL told me that at the wedding she wants nothing to do with FFIL (divorced) GET OVER IT! This day is about her son and me not her and her drama!
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I have people not coming to my wedding too because 'other' people are coming that they don't like. It's like they're still in high school.
Seriously - get over it. And if she really can't be in the same room with him - don't be writing me emails to try to guilt me into not inviting him. I don't want to be in the middle of their bickering. UGH!
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I'm sorry People need to grow up and realize that a wedding isn't about THEM, it's about YOU and your FH
Mrs.A2006
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She should not have written to you and be sticking you in the middle like that. She should act like an adult and deal with it on her own terms without involving you. I am sorry you are dealing with this.
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She should be able to handle being around them for a few hours. I would let her know it's one day and if she can't respect your and FH's wishes for one day, then she really needs to grow up!!
july06bride
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That stinks! Sorry she is being so selfish
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She should be able to handle being around them for a few hours. I would let her know it's one day and if she can't respect your and FH's wishes for one day, then she really needs to grow up!!
I totally agree!!
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People are ridiculous! I've seen weddings bring out the worst in people. Unfortunately, it usually brings out the worst in my mother. She was a drama queen at my brother's wedding.
If your 'aunt' wants to be a baby, then she doesn't have to come. Invite who you want. Good wishes to you!
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She should put those feelings aside for one day and just go. And why are you hearing all this anyway. She shouldn't get you in the middle of their problems.
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People are already telling me how they won't be able to make it becuase it's too far or they won't know anybody there. Sheesh! The invites have not gone out yet. Send in your reply, when you get it. Don't give us sob stories. People are nuts.
Katie&Chris2006
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Oh I'm sorry! That stinks. Sometimes people need to push their differences and suck it up to be in the same room for a little while.
SuzBride
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or they won't know anybody there.
That would annoy me! Suck it up people. If you want to be there, you'll be there - independent of all these issues. You know?
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People forget what the most important thing a wedding is about and that is you and your FH. Not what transpired between them and their ex years ago. Your aunt needs to let go and move on, at least for a day.
As for your BM. Oh well!!! They will just have to pick another weekend. Between now and July they can't come up with 1 other weekend?!?! Wow, they must be the most popular people I know Don't let it get to you. It will all work out!
